HV has told me my baby is too heavy

[NeverGotMyPuppy]

And I'm feeling really crap about it.

We had his 10 month check. He is weighing between the 75th and 91st centiles for weight but only 25th for height. She said there should be a maximum of 2 centiles difference between the 2.
She told me to stop spoon feeding him completely. This has thrown me because although he has breakfast and lunch as finger foods dinner is almost always spoon.

I just feel a bit low about it because I thought I was doing ok.

@3luckystars he has veennkn the 91st and the 75th before so being between them isnt unusual for.him.- it's just when its plotted against his apparent height there seems to be a problem.

Just reduce it. They need around 500ml a day at a year. If your BF maybe 2 a day. Don't panic just do it gradually and be mindful.

Gosh my health visitor was always delighted with my big fat baby boys!!

Why should she reduce his milk if he is not taking that much??

My ds was 21lb at 23 weeks just before I started weaning him. Nothing was ever said about his weight

Well if he is following the line he has always been on then, she surely can't expect him to go on a crash diet and loose weight?

That's the line he is on. It sounds like he is spot on.

Ignore her. He's a baby. It will sort itself out. Unless of course you are force feeding him mini chocolate Swiss rolls.

I'm not going to reduce his milk until he tells me he is ready to. This isnt a 'too much milk' problem.
I'd post a photo but I'm not comfortable of sharing a pic of him (christ that made me sound like a twat. Sorry).

Also it doesn't sound like your doing it wrong at all. Just try not to over think it. My nephew was quite overweight up to the age of 2. He was eating all the right foods just lots of it and also lots of milk, cheese, yoghurt etc. He eats less now and has slimmed down to a healthy weight.

At one visit I had a similar experience, i came home and weighed the baby myself and she had actually made a massive mistake on the chart the vet did that with my cat once,I was most miffed when there was no apology

@MiniMum97 no he loves the swiss rolls, it's the Mars bars I really have to convince him to eat

Honestly there is no need to panic. His weight isn't of the scale. There is no rush to cut the milk just monitor over time.

@LoafofSellotape I think my cat might have an image problem. Any time.the vet tries to weigh her she cant get away from the scales quick enough
She has put on a bit though!!

I'm amazed that you saw the health visitor with a 10 month old!! Ours stopped caring by that point!

Have you tried deep frying the mars bars?

NeverGotMyPuppy lol

I would not be worried! You could let him feed himself but I am sure he lets you know when he's had enough. No 10 month old who doesn't want to eat will let anything past their lips. Don't stress

Everyone is different fgs, my DS was nearly 10lb at birth and was a chunk but soon as he was on his feet he became a long rangy boy and now a teenager and 6’4” and not an ounce of extra weight on him. HV needs to step away from charts & books 🙄

@Fatted apparently they used to do it at a year but have brought it forward. They actually tested him on all sorts of things and gave him a score out of 60 .

@3luckystars no but that's how I got him to start eating sausages so I will give that a go - thanks!!

@Nevergotmypuppy
Come to Scotland, a wonderful variety of deep fried crap in our chippys lol

I live in Scotland but have never tried a deep fried Mars bar or creme egg (an easter treat!)

Seriously pay no heed. I was told my dd needed to be 'put on a diet'. HV rowed back when both dh and I said 'sorry, what?'. I came away feeling like the worst mother ever. We were then referred to a Dr (we're in Ireland so it's diff to uk system-health nurse is completely separate to your own gp). My own gp said no issues with dd, she just likes her food. Was appalled when I said what health nurse said.

Had to return to the health clinic gp 3 times. Each time it was a different locum and none could figure out why I'd been referred for her weight. She was born big and is all round tall and heavier-she's 18 months and she's the average size of a 2 and a half year old overall. Height and weight. My own gp has checked her and found no issues. The health centre gp has checked and no issues.

So the charts are only a guide. Please don't let it upset you like it did me. As I get it. You're made to feel awful...but don't. you're doing a great job

I was really surprised yo see he eats a whole banana and the pancakes. You definitely have a foodie! As a parent ypou are always worried, your child is either potentially eating too much or too little or the wrong things. My two year old will go the whole day on four bites of a banana. They are all very different.
From experience I would say whilst it is worth taking note if the HV, it might not be worth taking their word completely. Sometimes at baby weighing clinics there are 3 or4 of them and they have a variety of weird and wacky ideas amongst them. I have come accross Jobs in the past 18years who ignore old is sense in favour of a peculiar theory they have read which clearly can't be aplied.
Its good that you are aware of DS diet. I think up to the age of 1 it's a good idea for food yo be supplement g the regular milk intake with small portions. Consider milk is still the major source of nourishment so it's about yet to g a range of flavours in to start with. I have not had a child who eats a considerable amount at this age. They will try a lot of things but only a relatively small quantity generally. I think it's important not to "persuade" them to have every bit as you can be unwittingly stretching their tiny tummy each time you give them food. If it's something that's nice and you spoon feed them they are less likely to reject it. I have always fed very slowly after the first couple of spoons as they realise when they are full up. I think it's really important to make sure that babies get a good quantity of greenery in a meal. I really think tastes as a baby dictate food preferences later on so it's important to get in a good volume of high fibre low fat low carb veg which will be beneficial in adult life.
Lastly look st portion sizes. You mentioned things like avocado on toast (yummy). How much does DS have? Consider a portion in ice cubes. How many is your baby eating? Measure your portions like that to be consistent.
Babies do get really chubby before they start to walk then get thin.
If you are on balance feeding good portions with reasonable content, good amount of leafy/ green veg and lower fats( full fats are good for babies but they need other stuff as well) , if your baby can stand up holding himself against furniture and isn't so heavy he can't support himself, and you feel your baby isn't huge, monitor it but don't panic.health visitors opinions and ideas vary immensely.
The good thing is you are aware and keeping an eye on it.

We had the same trouble with DC even though they started at 6lb'ers. It was the Dr who suggested weaning at 6 weeks, I think around 18 months there was more fuss, we just didn't go again. DC have been super sporty for years, being on a certain centle at 18 months made no difference.

I would weigh him again in 4-5 months once he's walking and see what centile he is on then. In the meantime carry on doing what you're doing.

To add to my previous posts about the grief I used to get from the HV over DS1 being on the 91st centile (and then DD1 being way down on the 5th centile), I saw my GP many times. He was very no nonsense and told me that in children under the age of around 18 months to two years "a good bowel movement or a big feed is the difference between one centile and the next" and for that reason you can't get a clear picture from one weigh-in.