If you're an atheist, would you have a relationship with someone with a faith?

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I've just started using Bumble and there's an option to show if you're atheist/Christian/Jewish/agnostic.

A lot of men are atheist so I've assumed that it's a no-go. But it's really quite a lot of men. Am I being too picky? I wouldn't know if I met them in a bar if they were atheist

I was brought up in a religious family and didn't really question it until my late teens when I met dh, who isn't religious. It was put to me by my family that I shouldn't get serious with someone who didn't share my faith. 25 years later we are still together and both happily atheist.

I have faith I would have a relationship with an atheist as long as they were polite and respectful about my beliefs. Live and let live is my philosophy.

My mum is religious and my dad isn't. The only problem as far as I can see is they have quite separate lives, she does a lot of church related stuff like parish council meetings and choir practice and my dad is off doing his own thing. I guess it depends how much of your life revolves around church and whether you'd want someone to come with you.

I wouldn’t mind someone who just didn’t really think too much into it and nominally called themselves a Christian (or other) but didn’t go to church. Someone for whom religion was a significant part of their life, no.

I don't follow or believe in any religion and rather there was no such thing but I could have a relationship with someone who does believe in their religion (whichever one) as long as they accept that I don't share their belief and won't take part in any religious event or expected to wear certain things, fast, observe lent or take on a religion.
Anyway, anyone who was that far into the religion probably wouldn't want to date me even though there's plenty of other ways we could be compatible.

I do find it strange when I see young girls round my way who have shown no interest in any religion then all of a sudden they start wearing different clothes, using religious words and some of them even changing their name. Great if they've found something they truly believe in but I suspect some of them have done it to fit in with their partners beliefs.

Absolutely not. In my mind, that's basically like dating someone you know is delusional.

Yes. I'm a Protestant and DH is an atheist. We discussed it long before we were married, but as adults, we should be able to have relationships with people with whom we have a different view point on many things.

Our children can decide for themselves of they chose to follow a religion but so far neither of them do. That's entirely their choice to make. We all respect each others views on this and it's never been once been an issue.

No. Couldn't consider getting involved with an adult who believes in fairy tales.

No. I have very little respect for people who believe in God. I regard them as being intellectually lazy at best, gullible and a bit thick at worst.

I know that sounds awful, and I wouldn't make these feelings known to a person who I happened to befriend and then find out was religious, but I couldn't put them aside for a potential life partner.

To be fair, DH is a decent human being who believes that everyone should believe what they like if it makes them happy, as do I. He would never be insulting to someone who thinks differently to him, he's just not that kind of person.

Depends on the person. I’m a strong atheist and DP is nominally Anglican but doesn’t practice any sort of religion so it’s fine. It would obviously be much more difficult with a devout, practicing god sqadder, though.

As an ex-Catholic, I definitely wouldn’t want any child of mine to be brought up in that appalling church. I also would not tolerate my son’s genitals being mutilated for any non-medical reason, so that would be a complete deal-breaker for the barbaric religions which require it.

I'm a LaVeyan Satanist but I have dated some men of various faiths. It doesn't bother me, as long as they keep it to themselves, I don't want to hear about it. I would not allow them to indoctrinate and brainwash any children though.

I’m more agnostic than atheist and I’m married to a minister!

Depends upon how much their beliefs impact me. If it's evangelical Christianity, I'd run for the hills. If it's DUP style fire, brimstone and generally abusing women, I'd run up the hills, down them and back again - and still keep running.

If it's cultural and they believe but respect my opinions may differ, it's open.

DP is technically Catholic. A shit Catholic, but a Catholic nonetheless. We manage to not offend one another without having to think about it first - I can work in religious settings without being struck down by lightning and it's unlikely that anybody there would realise I think it''s all bollocks.

Would be nice if it were true, whether Buddhism, Hinduism, Shinto, Christianity, Islam, Judaism or any other religion (I like the origin story of the world as told by rabbits/Richard Adams, personally), as I think religion was a human response to the uncertainty of life which got co-opted by people as a means of control and can provide comfort and joy to people - but nah, it's not something I feel.

Depends how respectful you can be of each others' opinions. I am Christian, in church most Sundays. My best pal is atheist. But we are respectful of each other and that's fine. If she mocked my beliefs or I tried hard to convince her to believe it wouldn't work. But as it is we rub along fine. I imagine I would be similar with a boyfriend or partner. If you get serious enough to want kids then you would need to agree on how to raise them. And would a religious wedding be an issue?

It wouldn't put me off dating someone, there might be a million and one other reasons why you don't get on before religion crops up.

No, I couldn't. I find intelligent, critical thinkers attractive

No I’d scroll past

I liked the priest in Fleabag...

Um, probably not in RL though.

No

No, and I never have AFAIK.

Dh and I are both atheists
He would date someone religious but would be opposed to forcing religion on children.
I wouldn’t even date someone religious - I was brought up within a religion, I never had a faith though and I never understood why free thinking adults would follow it - they are the others to me.

I’m an atheist and married to a Catholic, our 4 children are Catholic as well, DH takes then to mass on a Sunday. They know I don’t believe and why and know when they are old enough they can make up there own minds.

No, I don't think so.

I was bought up 'cultural Catholic' but I probably now come under the 'atheist' category as does my husband. We got married in a Catholic church, and got the kids baptised but again all that was more cultural than from a place of actual belief. I have now drawn the line at first Holy Communion etc.

I don't think I could be in a relationship with someone who actually truly believed in God, read the Bible etc. I don't get how grown adults blindly follow a faith in something so unevidenced.

I suppose it's depends how respectful or not the individuals involved are of each other's opinions. And I guess that's difficult to judge via OLF.
Some of the opinions voiced on this thread I'd not be a fan of, irrespective of whether I agreed or not, so wouldn't find that attractive in a friend or partner. But each to their own.

If it's important to you, I wouldn't disagree with only dating those of a similar viewpoint. Though as some posters have shown, it is possible to have a difference in opinion and still have a good relationship.

No. I have very little respect for people who believe in God. I regard them as being intellectually lazy at best, gullible and a bit thick at worst.

Honestly, so do I. I know it’s terrible and I don’t voice it but I do a massive internal eye roll when someone mentions believing in God.

It’s too much of a fundamental difference for me. Although I’d still rather go out with a religious person than a Tory