If you're an atheist, would you have a relationship with someone with a faith?

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I've just started using Bumble and there's an option to show if you're atheist/Christian/Jewish/agnostic.

A lot of men are atheist so I've assumed that it's a no-go. But it's really quite a lot of men. Am I being too picky? I wouldn't know if I met them in a bar if they were atheist

Most UK schools teach religion as fact.

Yeah my primary school was religious, but you didn't have to be christened or go to church, but religious hymns and group prayer in assembly was the norm - headteacher told us Bible stories etc and we would have visits from the vicar from the church of the same name across the road - we would do Harvest Festival etc at the church. But I'm athiest.

My DD goes to a Christian nursery in a church (doesn't look/feel like church on inside but is one on the outside, and it's used as a church as weekends and nursery during week) because it was the only one with spaces that would accept gov funded children. I know they say grace before eating.

Big no for me. No matter how much your lives and values may match in day-to-day life there will eventually be a huge stumbling block where someone is going to have to bend against their beliefs. I'd be ok with an occasional church goer but I'd be anti religious wedding, christenings etc which I would imagine would be huge deal breakers.

I don’t know to be honest. I would like to think it wouldn’t matter to me because I have dear friends who are religious, one of my closest buddies is a priest and we have a remarkable friendship despite my deep dislike for religion, because we respect one another.

However when it comes to thinking about having a family I don’t know if I could be with someone who insisted on bringing up the children belonging to a faith. For me it has to be a personal choice.

I would imagine would be huge deal breakers

Maybe they would be for some people, but by no means all.

Religious people are not all the same, just as non religious people are not all the same. Consider people as individuals rather than by their 'tribal' affiliation.

Making faith a prerequisite of being good is silly though, you can be kind to others, help the environment, respect your parents, do any number of good things without faith. Compare that person to a person with faith who rapes someone or who is controlling... How many people murder someone but are still a man of faith and pray to God on their prison cell? There are many atheists that are objectively better people than people of faith, and there are objevtively people of faith who are more morak than athiests.

Even if Adolf Hitler did a whole bunch of deeds, that you would judge as good, they might not outweigh the deeds you judge as bad.

If not having faith in your creator is one such all-trumping bad deed, it would not matter whether a specific atheist also did a lot of individually good deeds.

At this point you might say 'but I don't think that non-belief is particularly "bad"' and that's the rub isn't it. You might not but if God thinks it is...

You might not but if God thinks it is...

In which case, God is such a petulant wankbadger. "Believe in me, worship me - if you don't then you will be punished", yet he plays the biggest game of hide and seek ever... Nah, not believing doesn't make someone bad, and this hypothetical God's opinion wouldn't trump that.