Only one not to get invited out last night, feeling sad.

[blogsbunny]

This sounds childish but I'm still feeling down this morning after yesterday and wanted to vent! Group of ladies where I work, we all have nights out/planned activities together and a facebook group where we plan/keep in touch. Yesterday as work I heard one of them mentioning to another about having posted in the group about the entry fee for tonight or something similar. Nothing had been posted in the group for a week or two so thought nothing of it.

Fast forward to closing time, everyone in the group left at the same time together. One of my (male) colleagues asked why I wasn't going out on "girls night" with them. Apparently even he had heard all about it but I hadn't - i assume they must've made a new group without me to discuss things. And sadly I got loads of notifications through in the early hours of this morning to the group I'm still in (presumably posting in the wrong group) about them all getting home safely, sharing selfies and thanking everyone for a good night!

This sounds very petty and silly. I know I'm a grown up but right now I just feel a bit left out. No idea why i wasn't invited as I thought I get on well with everyone. Had a shit week anyway (unbeknown to them) so would've appreciated some fun!
Does anyone have tips for no longer feeling blue and coping with feeling like you're back in secondary school all over again?

Have a blast with the lads this weekend. Remove yourself from their chat groups, become disengaged in a nice way...

Be like me... not giving a f* is brilliant... wish I’d learnt the skills years ago!

Keep your head up, smile on, and feel grateful you’re not at all like these arseholes

New girl is behind it. Has probably told the others you've deliberately kept male friend to yourself to stop her having him.

Could the head tilt be a 'they know you know" and is sounding you out?

Hope they feel jealous and get a taste of their own medicine.

Is the man she likes going on Friday?

Sounds really bloody petty.

Next time if you're asked if you're ok and they look weird about your response say "am I not meant to be ok?"

Ha ha - glad that you are going out with the male colleague and his friends on Friday, that will irk new girl

What a horrible experience. Adults can be so 'playground' sometimes.

You sound lovely - so clearly they are missing out by leaving you out in this way.

You do need to ask a friend from the group. It seems that there is some sort of rumour about you.

Horrible behaviour Op. I'd ask one of them what's going on as otherwise it could make your workplace untenable for you and you need to stop that from happening before it starts.

Do the women and men not socialise together? Sorry if I've missed this.

I think the colleague was asking how you were as she knew you'd been left out.

One of the colleagues tilted her head when she saw me and was like 'are you okay? how've you been?" and seemed quite surprised at my reaction when I said I'm well!

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Very bizarre.

Go out with the guys and enjoy yourself.

make sure new girl overhears this

Maybe one of your colleagues has seen this thread? And the details fit.

Oh how mean to exclude you like that. Hope you have a good time this weekend with your male colleagues.

I wonder if this is the new colleague's influence.

Several years ago I had a group of friends, a new lady came into the group and fabricated something nasty that I had said and passed it on to one of my friends. I hadn't said it and I was so gutted when none of my friends gave me the benefit of the doubt and excluded me from them on. I hadn't done anything to deserve it. It was as if the new friend took my place in the group and orchestrated the whole thing. To be honest it took a long time to get over and realise they could not have been my friends in the first place.

I could only conclude that some people are so insecure especially when entering a new environment that they have to create drama about someone else and put someone else on the back foot to make them feel OK.

I hope I'm just being cynical about your new colleague based on my bad experience, and that nothing like that is going on.

How have the last couple of days been? Any explanation?

Hi OP

did you ever ask your coworkers about this?

Hope you had a good night out with the lads last night OP

@blogsbunny any update? been thinking about you and hope it all went ok :)

What happened last time you went out? This happened to one girl that I worked with. She didn't drink all night and was "a bit dull" she hadn't actually done anything wrong but the others felt she just didn't fit in with what they were doing. Harsh but they just didn't want her there. Because you work with people doesn't make them friends