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I’ve been reported as a missing person!

350 replies

Lizzielocket · 21/06/2019 00:30

Frequent poster and have name changed for this.
I was woken by my mobile ringing about 40 minutes ago, I answered it on the second call, it was the police, they were outside my property and wanted to come in. I duly went downstairs and let them in.
I was starting to feel panicky as I have elderly parents and an adult DD who doesn’t live at home anymore.
I was asked my full name which I told them, they then told me I have been reported as a missing person. Somebody had told them that my father and partner couldn’t make contact with me and they were very worried about me. I was with my father this afternoon and I said goodnight to my partner around 2 hours ago by text as he’s at an airport and was about to fly.
I am now in bed with a cup of tea and feeling very confused. They checked on my sleeping DC too.
I don’t know why I’m posting to be honest, has anybody else experienced this?
I’m a very normal woman with a very normal life, they insisted that the call to them wasn’t malicious. So very confused!

OP posts:
Soola · 21/06/2019 17:13

Would the police caution the person for wasting police time if they for back to them and said it was obvious that the op wasn’t missing?

Whatwillhappentomorrow · 21/06/2019 17:20

Just to add both the stalking situations I have known the victim knew their stalker for a minimum of 10 years. Neither would have ever thought it would happen.

Stalking is actually quite common. It is often someone very close to you or someone who has been close to you up until recently.

This may be nothing of the sort but please don't rule it out.

Nicknacky · 21/06/2019 17:56

soola Generally no, it’s usually written off as “FAGI”.....false allegations, good intent.

Otherwise people would be charged for wasting police time every few minutes of the day.

Soola · 21/06/2019 18:01

@Nicknacky thank you.

Starlight456 · 21/06/2019 18:02

Just to add.

I was reported to the police once for having taken an od while looking after my Ds who was a baby at the time . The person who reported me gave my old address I had moved out as had my ex. The house was empty. The police broke in .

The police did trace me through my hv who had co incidentally been out to visit me the morning after the so called incident.

I did find out who it was as I phoned and spoke to Ss , they told me who had called the police.

She was not a relative and to this day have no idea why she did this but I cut contact and blocked her and never have spoken to her again since

Nicknacky · 21/06/2019 18:08

I was wrong with my “A” in FAGI! It’s alarm, bit allegation lol

Akire · 21/06/2019 18:25

Surely the first question the police would ask is have you attempted to talk to the person yourself. I have their number but I haven’t rang it hardly looks like they are concerned at all. If you had 20 missed calls from an ex say that you hadn’t answered that’s one thing but must be malicious if the mystery person hasn’t tried contact you or your father or partner.

nickymanchester · 21/06/2019 18:42

Topseyt Fri 21-Jun-19 13:54:07

It is not odd at all that the police began their investigation of the missing person report by visiting the OP's house!

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B) They are not lying injured or dead in there, and if they are then whether other vulnerable people like children who live there are in need of care.

This is a very good point. There was another thread a couple of days ago where a new employee at a firm had just disappeared and asking for advice and whether the person had just ghosted.

A number of posters then related experiences where someone had not turned up to work one day and could not be contacted. Their standard HR procedure was to call the police and, in a number of cases, the police had actually found a dead body.

Alternatively, somebody from the company had gone to the house and likewise found something amiss.

So, yes, sending the police to the home first does make sense.

ScaryDog · 21/06/2019 19:03

OP, did the police say whether the person who reported you missing is male or female?

ThisIsTheFirstDay · 21/06/2019 19:54

@nickymanchester

Can you please link that thread?

nickymanchester · 21/06/2019 20:43

@ThisIsTheFirstDay

Here you go:-

to be shocked at having been ghosted?

ThisIsTheFirstDay · 21/06/2019 20:46

Thank you!! Smile

Cherrysoup · 21/06/2019 22:28

This could be a rogue officer who is checking to see if the OP would be open to a booty call. (Sadly this happens more than people would believe).

Wtaf?! This is one of the most batshit things I have ever read on here! I must ask the DH if many of his colleagues have done this. 😂

Redglitter · 21/06/2019 22:41

@Cherrysoup I thought that too 😂 If your husband and his colleagues are anything like my shift they're doing well to find time to pee at work never mind disappear for some illicit shagging

NigellaAwesome · 21/06/2019 22:42

Cherry soup Abuse of authority for sexual gain is one of policing's top strategic professional standards risks across the uk, and this is one of the recognised ways in which it is perpetrated.

It is only a very small minority of officers who do it, but the impact is huge, both on the individual victims and public confidence.

NigellaAwesome · 21/06/2019 22:53

useful reading on the issue if you are interested

AlexaAmbidextra · 21/06/2019 22:58

Wtaf?! This is one of the most batshit things I have ever read on here!

Not batshit at all. It’s happened to me twice. 😱

Cherrysoup · 21/06/2019 23:06

@Redglitter no time for food, constantly chucked out of briefing to answer calls, open a sandwich but have to abandon it because it’s hard to drive at speed whilst eating (and simultaneously illicitly shagging someone! 😂) Also hard to do booty calls when with a female (straight) partner and you’re peeling a DB off the floor when it’s been there for weeks and the flat below only noticed because the fluids were leaking through the ceiling. 😢

Soola · 21/06/2019 23:07

Well I’ve reported myself missing twice this evening and not one strapping Copper has turned up on my doorstep! Sad

Nicknacky · 21/06/2019 23:08

soola It will be the nightshift now so you might get lucky soon!

NigellaAwesome · 21/06/2019 23:12

@Cherrysoup you don't have to believe it is an issue if that suits you, but there is plenty of evidence it occurs, thankfully relatively rarely though. The Independent Office on Police Complaints has lots of cases of sexual corruption on their website.

Cherrysoup · 21/06/2019 23:14

@NigellaAwesome, but that is just a policy? I’m aware of the high profile undercover officers’ case who became involved in relationships which, yes, is extremely wrong, but I don’t think it is a common thing. I have three family members in the police and by extension, friends, none of whom have ever raised this as an issue.

Nicknacky · 21/06/2019 23:14

It is rare. And cops don’t randomly chap doors with a colleague in tow in the hope there is a woman gagging for sex. So let’s not pretend that has anything to do with the op’s strange situation.

Cherrysoup · 21/06/2019 23:19

I think it’s a bit ridiculous to say I don’t have to believe me if it ‘doesn’t suit me’! I have never heard of it happening and I’d say I’m more involved with the police than the average mumsnetter (Lord, is there such a thing?!)

What I would say is that being a police officer does not prevent someone from being a shitty person, I’ve definitely come across this, but any officer reported for trying it on with random members of the public is likely to be quite rightly immediately removed from the force.

Cherrysoup · 21/06/2019 23:22

Cherry soup Abuse of authority for sexual gain is one of policing's top strategic professional standards risks across the uk, and this is one of the recognised ways in which it is perpetrated.

I would be interested to know why you say this and with what authority. It’s not something I’ve ever heard raised on training days.