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I’ve been reported as a missing person!

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Lizzielocket · 21/06/2019 00:30

Frequent poster and have name changed for this.
I was woken by my mobile ringing about 40 minutes ago, I answered it on the second call, it was the police, they were outside my property and wanted to come in. I duly went downstairs and let them in.
I was starting to feel panicky as I have elderly parents and an adult DD who doesn’t live at home anymore.
I was asked my full name which I told them, they then told me I have been reported as a missing person. Somebody had told them that my father and partner couldn’t make contact with me and they were very worried about me. I was with my father this afternoon and I said goodnight to my partner around 2 hours ago by text as he’s at an airport and was about to fly.
I am now in bed with a cup of tea and feeling very confused. They checked on my sleeping DC too.
I don’t know why I’m posting to be honest, has anybody else experienced this?
I’m a very normal woman with a very normal life, they insisted that the call to them wasn’t malicious. So very confused!

OP posts:
nespressowoo · 24/06/2019 21:16

Oh how absolutely terrifying. Does your DP think it could be this friend?

Kukumbr · 26/06/2019 12:22

I hope OP is ok seeing as she’s not been back!

Lizzielocket · 26/06/2019 17:26

Hello everybody!
I’m alive and well, I left the thread because it was getting a bit crazy and to be honest it was making me paranoid.
I went to the local police station today because it’s still bugging me.
The officer on the front desk was very helpful but still couldn’t give me a name although there was one on the report. I said a few names to him including my friends and he said no to every one of them.
It’s a mystery. Nothing else untoward has happened so I’m going to let it go.

OP posts:
Soola · 26/06/2019 17:27

Glad you’re ok.

Lizzielocket · 26/06/2019 17:35

Thanks Soola Smile

OP posts:
CurbsideProphet · 26/06/2019 17:45

Isn't it surprising that they aren't looking to pursue that person for wasting police time? You were clearly fine and there was no cause for concern. Perhaps one of the police officers on the thread might answer that?

greenwaterbottle · 26/06/2019 18:21

Is there a way to make it a malicious claim. Glad it's not your close family/friends.

JamieVardysHavingAParty · 26/06/2019 18:24

Isn't it surprising that they aren't looking to pursue that person for wasting police time? You were clearly fine and there was no cause for concern. Perhaps one of the police officers on the thread might answer that?

Very bad precedent, given that in order to find a genuinely missing person, the police need to know as soon as possible.

I suspect that the majority of the time the people reported missing are fine, and the police didn't need to be notified. The rest of the time, whether there has been foul play, an accident or the person has passed away of natural causes within their own house, the police need to know.

If worried parents start delaying calling the police because they're concerned that the police will charge them for wasting police time if their daughter hasn't been abducted, it could be very dangerous for any girl who is abducted.

Redglitter · 26/06/2019 18:35

Isn't it surprising that they aren't looking to pursue that person for wasting police time

No not in the least. We have no idea exactly what was said to the Police but theres still a possibility it was done with good intention. Unless it's a pattern and part of a campaign of harassment then it'll be treated as a FAGI - False Alarm Good Intent.

Calls this are very common, a large portion of the calls made turn out to be unfounded but that doesn't mean the person didnt have a genuine concern

If the Police charged everyone who made odd or unusual necessary calls with wasting Police time half of MN would have criminal records 😉

BrienneofTarthILoveYou · 26/06/2019 18:38

Glad you're ok Op.

CurbsideProphet · 26/06/2019 22:13

Thank you both for explaining Smile

I suppose it gave me the chills that someone could make a pretend welfare concern call to deliberately cause distress, with the "victim" having no way of knowing who was behind it or if / when it could happen again.

SarahBeeney · 27/06/2019 07:38

How annoying that they won't tell you who it was?

Jimsmum61 · 03/07/2019 23:11

how old are the children at home? The OP says she is out at 5.30am .in the morning..

BackforGood · 04/07/2019 01:09

OP what happened to you was unnerving and unusual but do not allow other posters to inflame your imagination and make you paranoid.

Thank goodness for GamerWidow.
I can't believe how unkind so many posters on this thread have been to the OP, making her worry about all sorts of wildly imaginative scenarios. How on earth you you think it helpful to someone who is a bit befuzzled by a situation, to put all sorts of ridiculous horror stories into her mind ? Hmm

Glad you are okay if a little frustrated LizzieLocket

HorsewithnoRegretsNonJeNeRegre · 08/07/2019 07:54

You'd think the police would be chasing up the possibility of somebody wasting their time or worse?

Pinkflipflop85 · 08/07/2019 15:46

Do you honestly believe the overstretched and understaffed police force have time for that? Hmm

Aridane · 12/07/2019 06:26

I have a friend, who, when depressed just stays in her house, doesn't answer the phone unless she knows who is calling and doesn't answer her door.

She didn't answer the door one day, not realising it was the police, so the PC went and got the, I don't know the name, mini battering ram thing.

Regardless of your reason for doing so, I detest the assumption that somebody at home should be expected to stop whatever they're doing and answer the door if an unsolicited caller 'summons' them by knocking or ringing the bell.

You could be depressed, ill, having a bath, going to the toilet, feeding/changing/comforting a baby, having sex, working from home, be right in the middle of something and concentrating - or just be having a duvet day, or wanting peace and privacy in your own home for any reason. Your home is not a public place.

I think it’s great and reassuring that friends / neighbours care enough to recognise that an absence by a neighbour/ friend merits a welfare check. I think of the sad cases where a small child has starved to death because nobody cared enough to report the mother’s absence.

BooseysMom · 12/07/2019 06:49

I've been following this from the start and haven't commented from what i remember but just wanted to say OP i'm glad you're ok. I suppose you may never know who it was. It does seem ridiculous that the police have the name of the person who reported it but won't divulge?! A real mystery for sure Confused

SuperPixie247 · 12/07/2019 08:44

Surely it could be one of the people you named who have given a fake name to the police themselves? Then you would never find out.

growlingbear · 12/07/2019 08:46

Why on earth can't they tell you who it was?

HorsewithnoRegretsNonJeNeRegre · 12/07/2019 09:37

Do you honestly believe the overstretched and understaffed police force have time for that?

Yep. They (the police) were fucked about. Ten mile drive wasn't it? They have a name and a phone number. Nice easy conviction. Job done.

NigellaAwesome · 12/07/2019 12:38

Horse it would be unlikely to meet CPS prosecution guidance heree*

HorsewithnoRegretsNonJeNeRegre · 12/07/2019 13:09

Ah! Thank you Nigella.

Shockers · 12/07/2019 16:23

Perhaps someone you culled from your phone contacts was trying to get hold of you, then spoke to your dad, who said something about you not being on that number for a few weeks, and they’ve misunderstood. Going even further with my theory, they might have called round when you were out and were told by a neighbour that your husband left alone... with a packed case.

It’s just as likely as any of the other theories on here. It’s sad that you came to doubt your friend because of them.

Unsureofthescore113 · 05/08/2019 14:05

Hi op did you find out who reported you missing in the end?

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