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I’ve been reported as a missing person!

350 replies

Lizzielocket · 21/06/2019 00:30

Frequent poster and have name changed for this.
I was woken by my mobile ringing about 40 minutes ago, I answered it on the second call, it was the police, they were outside my property and wanted to come in. I duly went downstairs and let them in.
I was starting to feel panicky as I have elderly parents and an adult DD who doesn’t live at home anymore.
I was asked my full name which I told them, they then told me I have been reported as a missing person. Somebody had told them that my father and partner couldn’t make contact with me and they were very worried about me. I was with my father this afternoon and I said goodnight to my partner around 2 hours ago by text as he’s at an airport and was about to fly.
I am now in bed with a cup of tea and feeling very confused. They checked on my sleeping DC too.
I don’t know why I’m posting to be honest, has anybody else experienced this?
I’m a very normal woman with a very normal life, they insisted that the call to them wasn’t malicious. So very confused!

OP posts:
FilledSoda · 21/06/2019 10:33

Stay at your parents tonight , can't hurt .

BlueMerchant · 21/06/2019 10:36

Your update has again highlighted the 'friend' to me OP.
I hope he has now left. Do not let him back in.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 21/06/2019 10:41

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/3166936-Apparently-Im-Dead

eurochick · 21/06/2019 10:41

I'd also be very suspicious of the friend.

DarlingNikita · 21/06/2019 10:45

It's all very weird. I'd call 101 and explain that you're anxious/ask what the fuck is going on.

RosaWaiting · 21/06/2019 10:48

Oh a quick scan of that classic thread, seems just a social media sick joke. For a minute there I thought someone had tried a proper fraud, though thank goodness they didn’t.

I do agree the police will come round first for a missing person report, but surely for a not vulnerable adult, they would wait till daytime!

RosaWaiting · 21/06/2019 10:49

Re the anonymity, the person has harassed you. If they were worried for good reason, they’d have no problem having their name given to you.

Redglitter · 21/06/2019 10:52

Sounds like another police cockup to me

How do you come up with that? The police have received a call from someone allegedly saying that the OP appears to be missing. They have to follow that up. We dont know exactly what was said to them. Theyve gone in good faith to check on the OP. What if they hadnt & the call was genuine & she was ill or dead in her house?

Honestly the Police are damned if they do & damned if they dont.

knittedthrow · 21/06/2019 10:54

God, that's totally bizarre. I'd be anxious too.

DobbyTheHouseElk · 21/06/2019 11:30

I’d you call 101 and ask for. More details.

flamingjune123 · 21/06/2019 11:40

It’s interesting that in a previous life I have probably made around 100 calls to the police about missing people under 18. They were always told I’d reported them as missing

Sundancer77 · 21/06/2019 11:46

This is really bizarre

JamieVardysHavingAParty · 21/06/2019 11:56

why would they have gone to your house if you were reported missing?! Very bizarre.

Given that the OP is alive and well, I think they've been proven right to check the OP's house, haven't they?

And if the OP was truly missing, how else are they going to start investigations?

Nikhedonia · 21/06/2019 11:58

What a horrible ting to have happened.

Hope you're ok at work today. Thanks

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 21/06/2019 11:58

Oh a quick scan of that classic thread, seems just a social media sick joke. For a minute there I thought someone had tried a proper fraud, though thank goodness they didn’t.

Yes, thankfully - I'd remembered it wrongly as being much more official than it actually turned out to be. Still very disconcerting, though.

It’s interesting that in a previous life I have probably made around 100 calls to the police about missing people under 18. They were always told I’d reported them as missing

That's the strange thing, isn't it? For somebody to be in a position where they have a genuine fear that you've gone missing, they must already have a close relationship with you. How would a stranger, or even just an acquaintance, know or care that 'somebody' might have gone missing? Even if they did, they'd raise it with the person's family, wouldn't they? Surely, if a loved one has reported you missing out of genuine concern for your welfare and it turns out that you're found safe and well, you would be pleased, wouldn't you?

At any rate, if somebody has 'claimed' a close enough connection to you that they've reported you missing (i.e., THEY can't get in touch with you, when you would normally be in regular contact), what right do they have (or would they want) to anonymity?

tomatostottie · 21/06/2019 12:00

I think it's the "friend" as well.
Who knows what goes through other people's heads. Maybe he saw an opportunity with your DP being away and thought the first thing you would do would be to call him to get him to stay over.
Don't let him stay over again.

I would stay in the house tonight and not with your parents. I wouldn't want to leave the house unattended.

Hallouminati · 21/06/2019 12:01

Did the police say it was an anonymous call? If the person left their name (that police aren't allowed to disclose) it would suggest nothing untoward, maybe a friend or family member who had got confused. If it was an anonymous caller it would suggest something a bit more malicious. If someone was that worried about you, why call anonymously? I would want to leave my details so the police can call me back with an update.

AlansLeftMoob · 21/06/2019 12:01

I’ve text my friend who lives a couple of roads away, he’s still awake and chatting to me.

I'm only on Page 1 but this has jumped out as a red flag for me

Mitzimaybe · 21/06/2019 12:15

You might have to tell to your DP before he gets back, if he speaks to your DC while he's away and they tell him "mummy's friend was sleeping here while you were gone..."

timeisnotaline · 21/06/2019 12:28

Its good to know that the police are hot on reports of missing people though.
Well, it’s good to know they can find missing people when they are at home in their own house!

LarryGreysonsDoor · 21/06/2019 12:32

I don’t understand why the police can’t tell you who reported this.

TheRedBarrows · 21/06/2019 12:35

Hmmm.

Some woman who suspects that you were not at home but with her DH somewhere?

SirVixofVixHall · 21/06/2019 12:46

How bizarre. This would really freak me out. You are dealing with it very calmly op.
Why can’t the police tell you who reported you missing ?

mindutopia · 21/06/2019 12:54

Totally different as these friends are in the US (where the police have quite a different approach), but I have one friend who was ‘swatted’. The police received a malicious report that she was like holding someone hostage in her house. About 10 armed officers knocked her front door open in the middle of the night and terrified the shit out of her and her husband and their two sleeping dc. Apparently it was some neighbourhood kids playing a prank!

Another friend had an online stalker (she pissed off some MRA nut job) call the police and report she was threatening to kill herself. The police came and sectioned her - because she was no doubt hysterical at the police literally bursting down her bedroom door in the middle of the night. Her dh was on a work trip so I think social services had to take her kids til the morning until a family member could come get them. I think she was held for about 24 hours. It really messed her up.

So crazy shit like this does actually happen. No wonder the police have no time to respond to actual crimes!

UrsulaPandress · 21/06/2019 12:54

We once reported an employee missing. She had caused a pretty awful RTA and then gone awol . We were genuinely concerned about her state of mind as well as needing her to talk to the insurance company so we tried all means of contacting her including going to her house where the curtains were closed and there was no answer to the door. We contacted the police who went round to her house to check up on her. All they would report to us was that they had spoken to her and she was alive and well.

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