Did you change your surname after marriage?

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The other thread in AIBU got me thinking about changing surnames after marriage.

I didn't change mine. DH would have liked me to and sometimes would ask in mock anger why I haven't. For professional reasons it made sense to stick to my maiden name as most of my qualifications and certification are in that name. So for work I use my maiden name. It's completely unpronounceable and would make sense to change to the easier married name. However I feel it's "my" name my identity and would really hate to change it.

I'm from an Asian country with predominantly Buddhist culture and married women do change their name to take on their husbands although it's not a must. It's 50/50 among my friends back home.

Just curious as to what the UK is doing?

Yes and no, simply because my husbands surname was exactly the same as mine

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I always change my name when I get married.

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I did twice! I've had my maiden name, first DH's name which I kept after we divorced until I married DH 2 and then changed to his name.

I don't think my name defines me as a person. I'm still the same person I was regardless of what I write on my passport/driving licence/bank account and see a name as a matter of administrative convenience, not something to be hung on to at all costs.

No, It wasn't something I even considered. I can't understand why so many women do to be honest.

I'm in Ireland where it's not as common for women to take the husband's surname as it is in the UK, where it seems to be more or less expected.

The majority of Irish women who marry now tend to double barrel, but my name doesn't go with anything so I didn't even think about that.

Everything I have is in my own name, passport, driving licence, bank cards, credit cards etc.

Just thinking about any of my married friends here and I can only actually think of one who is Mrs HisSurname. Most are double-barreled. The rest of us kept our own names.

DH didn't care one way or the other what I did, but it pisses MIL off no end, so all the more reason not to change it

see a name as a matter of administrative convenience, not something to be hung on to at all costs

"At all costs"? But what 'costs' are there to retaining your own name on marriage? Virtually all men do it, after all, and the vast majority wouldn't even consider changing it.

And how is it 'administratively convenient' to have to change your name on several documents just because you get married?