I was having a discussion with a friend on what i see as the biggest issues with feminism and i would like a general idea on where women stood in relation to my views.
Ok, off we go....
Firstly I have an issue with the term "rape culture" as I do not believe one exists in modern westernised countries. I understand this term to mean that there is somewhat of an acceptance of rape. I believe that 99 percent of males see rape the same way as women do. An absolute disgusting crime. While it is obviously different in other countries across the world, men in westernized countries do care about the welfare of women and would see a rapist as the lowest of the low.
Yes, I agree that 99% of men would say they think rape is a disgusting crime. However, while we still have cases where a woman's choice of underwear is used to defend a rapist, we're getting no where. You don't find that in male assault cases do you? "Weeelll, the guy was wearing a hoody that said he likes Mohammed Ali, obviously he was asking to have the shit beaten out of him" And this is the system of justice you believe in, and think works? That a style of underwear implies consent to sex in law?
The second issue I have with feminism is the term white male privalage. I understand women go through hardships I will never understand as a man but that does not mean that males do not have issues that women do not understand. I do not feel I have any advantage in society as a whole simply because im male.
The term white male privilege doesn't take anything away from male struggles, don't worry! As a white woman I have an advantage due to my colour, and a disadvantage due to my sex. As a white male you have an advantage due to both. Read the above answer for an example.
Thirdly I disagree with the idea that a man is completely at fault if he has sex with a girl who is very drunk. Of course if a women is in such a drunken state that she is not conscious or lucid that is rape however if she is willing and knows exactly what she is doing that is on her regardless of how drunk she is. I would like to clarify that when I say this i mean completely willing in that she is not pressured and if she changes her mind the man has to accept her decision.
There's a reason why it's illegal to serve someone more alcohol when they're already drunk - because of the effect it has. If you're going to have sex with someone drunk, do you stop to think about how capable they are of consent at that moment? There's a lot of things you can't do while drunk, or give permission for, because your capabilities are diminished so 'knowing exactly what she's doing' and being 'very drunk' in the same statement doesn't make sense, being very drunk should immediately cast doubt on anyone knowing what they're doing, and that includes men.
To finish id like to make clear that I do respect women and support women and the feminist movement as a whole. Im asking these questions not because I see womens issues as bullshit but because id better like to understand other views to my own
But you're not understanding, or even debating. You're telling women who have replied why they're wrong. Over and over.