I was having a discussion with a friend on what i see as the biggest issues with feminism and i would like a general idea on where women stood in relation to my views.
Why are you only interested in the opinions of women? If you were genuinely interested in educating yourself and sanity checking your beliefs you would welcome as wide an audience as possible. By targetting women for debate you are either hoping to demonstrate how woke you are or you are being incredibly condescending. If the former, you've shot yourself in the foot as the only way you might be considered woke would be if you timeshifted back to the 1950s.
Firstly I have an issue with the term "rape culture" as I do not believe one exists in modern westernised countries.
Then you need to educate yourself. The facts and figures are easy to google and they are shocking. Look up the percentage of women that have been raped or sexually assaulted. Look up the percentage of victims that report their attackers and the reasons so few do. Look up the percentage of reported assaults that make it to court. Look up the percentage of successful prosecutions.
I understand this term to mean that there is somewhat of an acceptance of rape. I believe that 99 percent of males see rape the same way as women do. An absolute disgusting crime. While it is obviously different in other countries across the world, men in westernized countries do care about the welfare of women and would see a rapist as the lowest of the low.
One of the biggest problems we have is what many people, and not just men sadly, consider to be rape or sexual assault. We pretty much all agree that a man sexually attacking a women with force and violence, where the woman is screaming no and resisting with all her might, is rape. However, remove the violence, lower or remove the overt resistance, perhaps introduce an existing relationship, and too many people start to get confused. The fact is, rape is intercourse without consent. Sexual assault is any other sexual act without consent. There are many ways consent can be absent without going to the extremes of beating the victim semi-conscious. Then there is the notion of enthusiastic consent, one which you would fully subscribe to if you were remotely woke. For example, your girlfriend finally agreeing to have sex, when previously uninterested, because you huff or nag the shit out her, or because she's afraid you might lose your temper, may satisfy the basic legal definition of consent but it would not meet a reasonable person's definition of enthusiastic consent.
The second issue I have with feminism is the term white male privalage. I understand women go through hardships I will never understand as a man but that does not mean that males do not have issues that women do not understand. I do not feel I have any advantage in society as a whole simply because im male.
Bizarre logic. Why does men having some of their own issues to deal with nullify the whole concept of male privilege? That makes no sense. We live in a long-established patriarchal society. It's programmed into us, almost down to our dna, that we are superior to women. We may accept rare exceptions to the rule but generally we naturally presume a position of power in every area of our lives.
Thirdly I disagree with the idea that a man is completely at fault if he has sex with a girl who is very drunk. Of course if a women is in such a drunken state that she is not conscious or lucid that is rape however if she is willing and knows exactly what she is doing that is on her regardless of how drunk she is. I would like to clarify that when I say this i mean completely willing in that she is not pressured and if she changes her mind the man has to accept her decision.
Your bar is so low you'll need to dig it out with a fucking shovel. You're saying that unless a woman is so drunk she's pretty much unconscious then she's fair game. I wonder if your bar would be so low if the woman in question was your own daughter?
To finish id like to make clear that I do respect women and support women and the feminist movement as a whole.
That's not really for you to judge, is it? The very fact that you would make such a claim, sadly, suggests you are probably closed minded and will meet counter-positions with denial and resistance rather than giving them any real considerstion.