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Hand hold: DH missing after "accident"

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 19:20

I know it's not been long, but this is really out of character and not sure what to do next.

Rang my DH on his mobile to let him know what time I'd get in and he didn't answer - often happens so then call him on work line. His work said he'd called in on way back in after lunch saying he'd been in a car accident but was fine, and neither hide nor hair heard since. That's all I know - no indication of the severity of the accident or where he or my car (which he drives) have got to.

I've been trying him on his mobile countless times, called 101 to see if they've got him somewhere, also A&E - but no joy.

He's been off grid for about 5 hours now, when he'd normally have picked me up, got the Tesco and we'd be sitting starting our weekend. But not even a text to let me know he's not dead in a ditch, and I don't have that phone tracker either on this latest handset.

Starting to panic slightly - if anyone is around for a hand hold or some pointers as to how I can track him down that's would be much appreciated....

OP posts:
Lucylou321 · 12/06/2019 19:42

6 weeks is quite a normal wait for bloods for drink drive. He will be "under investigation" as opposed to on bail as the bail act has changed. He will know all of this...
Sometimes the bloods come back earlier than that in which case the officer dealing will contact him and let him know if he's either being no further actioned or charged, he might just get a letter inviting him to court if he's over the limit.
As someone else has pointed out he will have had his photo and fingerprints taken so there's absolutely no way he didn't know he was under arrest.

managedmis · 12/06/2019 19:43

This is all getting weird. 6 weeks for bloods?
^

Yeah

Milkand2sugarsplease · 12/06/2019 19:46

There is not a cat in hells chance bloods take 6 weeks!!!!

Nicknacky · 12/06/2019 19:47

milk Are you a police officer?

managedmis · 12/06/2019 19:48

So we've another six weeks to wait, then

managedmis · 12/06/2019 19:49

Yeah, milk, what's up with that?

Coppers ONLY on here, please

Fantababy · 12/06/2019 19:50

Reading this is making me really uncomfortable. There are posters on this thread who are just dying for the husband to be hiding something big, for something devastating to be about to happen to the OP and her marriage.

Maybe her DH is telling the truth. If the OP is happy to wait then surely some random strangers on the internet should be ok to wait too.

justasking111 · 12/06/2019 19:50

Google says can be 6 to 8 weeks for results, sometimes longer. Here is what drink driving .org says is what should happen.

www.drinkdriving.org/police_blood_urine_specimens.php

Original poster
Stickywhitelovepiss · 12/06/2019 19:51

Police were on speakerphone (which I had dialled) and said 4 - 6 weeks.

I have to go now as have a couple of challenging days ahead workwise that need to save my energies towards, but will check back in soon.

OP posts:
Nicknacky · 12/06/2019 19:52

Fanta I’m not desperate for a domestic drama at all but her H ISN'T telling the truth and it’s important that the op knows that.

Wouldn’t you want to be told your H was trying to get away with lying to you? I know I would.

Lucylou321 · 12/06/2019 20:00

Fanta- it's actually just that as police officers we know he isn't telling the truth. I've got no interest in trying to upset anyone but I wouldn't want to see the OP taken for a ride or lied to by her DH when police procedure is very black and white especially for drink drive. Even with a copper who might have got something wrong or made a mistake as has been suggested, the OP's DH is still lying...

Kanga83 · 12/06/2019 20:46

4-6 weeks for bloods is perfectly normal. Completely agree with the police officers here. I'm a solicitor. Too many cooks on here. OP I hope you are doing ok.

catinboots99 · 12/06/2019 20:46

Blood test results get returned to the police AFAIK. Not directly to the accused.

There is literally no way on this planet that someone 'didn't know they were arrested or not'

Seriously OP. Don't let him mug you of like this. The minimum you deserve is the truth.

catinboots99 · 12/06/2019 21:26

*off

youarenotkiddingme · 12/06/2019 21:34

I'm glad you have officers here to advise you.

FWIW I think you are handling it perfectly. You realise all is not what it seems but are taking a measured approach and are honest all is not well with dramatising it. Thanks

youarenotkiddingme · 12/06/2019 21:35

Without dramatising it 🤦🏼‍♀️

NameChangerAmI · 13/06/2019 06:42

Sticky I feel for you having to wait so many weeks, you must feel in limbo.

We have all said time and time again that Sticky's DH has lied, and seems to be continuing to do so.

Can everyone (including police officers) who keep banging the "he's lying drum" over and over again just put the drumsticks down for a bit now?

I know it's not my thread/life, but OP has said she's got other work stuff to deal with, so when she comes back, to be faced with another two pages of us lot telling her AGAIN that he's lying surely isn't going to help.

Flowers for you on your return, Sticky.

AuntieStella · 13/06/2019 07:00

I think the lies (which continue) are the single most important thing the OP has to deal with.

hellenbackagen · 13/06/2019 07:17

My last opl with bloods took 8 weeks .

Depends on back log . Results to oic (officer in case ) via email then oic should let suspect know result and report on summons - file in to court and court date sent through post to defendants directly.

I did say it would be a long wait previously.

Hotpinkangel19 · 13/06/2019 07:28

Hope you finally get the truth op

Frazzled2207 · 13/06/2019 08:01

Well if he hadn't been drinking presumably he has nothing to worry about and would be fairly relaxed about the whole thing.

If he's anxious about it I'd be very very worried.

Really hope he is innocent but I do think it's unlikely.

GrumbleBumble · 13/06/2019 08:37

Frazzled except he has depression and anxiety. While it is in theory impossible to not know you have been arrested it is possible for someone having a MH crisis to not properly process what has happened to them. OP I would give him the talk I gave my son about lying when he was a toddler - that what ever he has done will not be made better by lying and that I can't help if I don't know all the details of what he has done.

Frazzled2207 · 13/06/2019 08:48

Fair enough @GrumbleBumble

Desmondo2016 · 13/06/2019 08:56

Police sergeant here... in our area there's an even longer wait at the moment.. we've been told 2 month minimum turn around time for bloods :(

WellThisIsShit · 13/06/2019 23:48

I hope your work commitments go well for you OP.

And that all this resolved itself into something that isn’t going to impact you too much as a couple and you as an individual as aell. Flowers

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