Hand hold: DH missing after "accident"

[Stickywhitelovepiss]

I know it's not been long, but this is really out of character and not sure what to do next.

Rang my DH on his mobile to let him know what time I'd get in and he didn't answer - often happens so then call him on work line. His work said he'd called in on way back in after lunch saying he'd been in a car accident but was fine, and neither hide nor hair heard since. That's all I know - no indication of the severity of the accident or where he or my car (which he drives) have got to.

I've been trying him on his mobile countless times, called 101 to see if they've got him somewhere, also A&E - but no joy.

He's been off grid for about 5 hours now, when he'd normally have picked me up, got the Tesco and we'd be sitting starting our weekend. But not even a text to let me know he's not dead in a ditch, and I don't have that phone tracker either on this latest handset.

Starting to panic slightly - if anyone is around for a hand hold or some pointers as to how I can track him down that's would be much appreciated....

If you read the thread it sounds to me like he failed the custody procedure - the evidential intoxilyser test not a roadside test.

The roadside test is irrelevant as it's not evidential.

(And hello to those who " know" me from the olden days 👋 )

@hellenbackagen I'm not anti police at all.
But they are human like anybody else and to suggest they never make mistakes is ridiculous.

@Chugga are you a police officer or know of any police officers ?

You say your oh has no form for lying so I'm not sure why you don't believe him? Yes check the blood test results once they're back but in the meantime you've got to have faith that he's telling you the truth otherwise the relationship is not worth very much anyway x

@MrsPandigital I have to be a police officer to know humans can make mistakes?

No, I'm not a police officer. 3 members of my family are in the police force though.

Presumably he admitted he was arrested after the police confirmed it, therefore admitting he had lied in the first place.

OP the vipers wannabe inspectors are out.

You know your DH, you'll know if he's lying. My DH would very much respond like yours.

Sorry this has happened. Take care

OP I have nothing to add about what has or will happen, but if he's ex forces, contact SSAFA, they can help with getting a solicitor (if needed) and also give your DH someone to talk to about his MH and organise support if he needs it.

"Suspicion of" doesn't mean he was drunk, it means they suspected he was. Two very separate things. The willingness of some MNetters to blow apart a marriage based on a thread is truly disgusting. What is your motivation? I'm not talking about the ones talking through police procedure, I'm talking about the affair/prostitute/blah blah ones.

Sad sad little lives making up a narrative that you have no possible idea of knowing is true.

I'm standing aside from some of the slightly hysterical mud-slinging on here, but OP, you did say early on that you had called the insurance company to see if he'd reported the accident already.
That will be in their records, even if there is no subsequent claim for damage, so you will need to remember to follow this up/declare it in future quote requests.

in the heat of Lisbon great name 🍀

Bairnsmum05 thank you 💚

To be honest, unless things have change drastically dealing with drink drivers was one of the easiest things to do. You follow a pro forma and the language used is pretty specific. If x happened, you moved onto section y, if a happens then you go to section b.

There was never much room for error.

Sorry to go off topic but @hellen was once terribly kind to me, both under another name. Nice to see you! Brings back memories of a difficult time and fortunately things are better now ❤

Nothing much more to add OP other than a hug!

Another one appreciating the username @InTheHeatofLisbon

Hope all ok

Have to say I hyper ventilated when it clicked who Hellen was.
A night at the ballet was never the same when she left😁

Sorry to derail your thread OP.

In my humble opinion, DH has fibbed to you. I could forgive and forget if he did it to save you worrying. If bloods come back bad, I could still forgive. Good people do bad things. You know him better than anyone, do what is right for you x

tipsytrainee nice to see fellow fans on the board 😃💚

Nice to be back (even without my tutu)

I also wouldn't end a marriage over this, even if it turns out he is over limit.

Sometimes people do silly things. 🤷🏻‍♀️

My darling wonderful husband was told he was being made redundant when I was 5 months pregnant (it had taken three rounds of IVF, several miscarriages and 8 years for us to reach that point). He did 'fess up straight away but told me he had spent all day wondering if he could get away with job hunting and trying to find something else and not tell me (they were giving him 4 months notice - well actually they were going to give him one month but all the departments threw in any budget surplus they had to keep him until the end of the financial year). If he had only fessed up with a few weeks to go I would have totally understood if he hadn't told me straight away because he would have been trying to protect me. Not all lies are equal.

999 calls show on my phone

I think he could be telling the truth

RickJames
hellenbackagen was so lovely to so many and got treated shabbily in real life .
I do hope life is better now.

Hopefully you will get the blood test results soon so you know one way or another if he was drink driving. It all sounds very stressful.

Awww 🥰 thanks folks I'm very well at min and despite some ups and downs I'm good

(Sorry op for derail )

Hope he’s telling the truth, OP

I haven't drunk any alcohol for over seven years, but still get anxious when I am pulled over for a random breath test. I even get anxious when I see a police car driving behind me.

Actually, lots of things make me anxious. I should probably do something about that.