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Hand hold: DH missing after "accident"

976 replies

Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 19:20

I know it's not been long, but this is really out of character and not sure what to do next.

Rang my DH on his mobile to let him know what time I'd get in and he didn't answer - often happens so then call him on work line. His work said he'd called in on way back in after lunch saying he'd been in a car accident but was fine, and neither hide nor hair heard since. That's all I know - no indication of the severity of the accident or where he or my car (which he drives) have got to.

I've been trying him on his mobile countless times, called 101 to see if they've got him somewhere, also A&E - but no joy.

He's been off grid for about 5 hours now, when he'd normally have picked me up, got the Tesco and we'd be sitting starting our weekend. But not even a text to let me know he's not dead in a ditch, and I don't have that phone tracker either on this latest handset.

Starting to panic slightly - if anyone is around for a hand hold or some pointers as to how I can track him down that's would be much appreciated....

OP posts:
hellenbackagen · 07/06/2019 21:32

to get the car back op will need to first find out where it is, then turn up with all the requisite documentation - so VR5, insurance certificate, and then pay the costs
its £150 plus a daily fee. (cant recall of top of head what daily fee is)

hellenbackagen · 07/06/2019 21:33

oh - and only if it is released. the OIC (officer in case) ill need to do a vehicle release form.

TheBullshitGoesOn · 07/06/2019 21:33

Why does he drive home for lunch, then, presumably drive back to the office? I know no one who goes home for lunch.

But here's hoping his story is, against the odds, genuine

youarenotkiddingme · 07/06/2019 21:34

Glad you know where he is.

Hope you get the answers you deserve. And he buys a bike and leaves your car alone from here on in!

Butterymuffin · 07/06/2019 21:34

Yes, surely the police will have to tell OP where her car is and what's happened to it?

Lazysundays18 · 07/06/2019 21:36

Hope you get to the bottom of it x

Whatevermission · 07/06/2019 21:38

Good point butterymuffin.

What would be the use of blood tests, 7 hours after the 'accident'?

Bluerussian · 07/06/2019 21:40

Hope you can relax Sticky. Whatever happened, at least you know he is safe and will be home soon. Let us know tomorrow.
Wine (not too much)

Isth · 07/06/2019 21:40

This is all very odd but one thing is obvious and that is that he’s absolutely not being completely straight with you OP. Hope you get to the bottom of it all.

Kanga83 · 07/06/2019 21:40

Hellen- daily storage £20/£25 dependant on tonne weight catergory after the 24hrs on top of the fees you state.

BitOfFun · 07/06/2019 21:40

Blood tests can be tracked back to the time of the incident, I presume, as toxins leave the blood at a particular rate?

hellenbackagen · 07/06/2019 21:40

oh for heavens sake
i explained above but clearly no one is actually reading what i put so here goes again

blood tests - alcohol.
a back calculation is done. they can tell what level of alcohol was in the blood hours previously. its scientific and clearly no one is reading what i put so ill leave it there.

feathermucker · 07/06/2019 21:41

Glad he's OK. Hope you get to the bottom of things.

Stiffasaboard · 07/06/2019 21:42

Is he normally honest with you OP?

mrselizabethdarcy · 07/06/2019 21:43

Glad he is safe OP and hope you get to the bottom of what happened.

picklemepopcorn · 07/06/2019 21:43

If you are registered keeper of the car, I'm sure they'd have to tell you where it is, and if it had been in an accident.

moonrises · 07/06/2019 21:43

Hope you get some answers OP.

And people absolutely do go home for lunch, a great number of my colleagues do.

foreverhanging · 07/06/2019 21:47

Oh op I feel really sad for you that you have to deal with this :(

C0untDucku1a · 07/06/2019 21:53

Sounds like a very stressful afternoon for you op

Original poster
Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 21:54

He is back and know where car is (parked round corner). Will report back. Sorry if not replying as promptly as otherwise to recent points.

OP posts:
BitOfFun · 07/06/2019 21:54

Hellen, I was trying to remind the poster who asked in case she had missed it- don't bite my head off, stroke my arm instead please Grin

Macca84 · 07/06/2019 21:55

Is the car damaged then? Based on personal experience my first thought was the car knock was fabricated too

ThierryEnnui · 07/06/2019 21:55

OP, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this stress. Look after yourself ❤️

hellenbackagen · 07/06/2019 21:57

bitoffun !!!!!!

its vicar!!! ill stroke your arm when ever you like foxy lady! how the devil are you? ! im home!

Whyhaveidonethis · 07/06/2019 21:58

As others have said, this is very fishy. He clearly used his one call to speak to work and was obviously hoping to be released from custody in time for the end of work. His problem is that if he was under the influence then he wouldn't be interviewed until he's sobered up. 100% he should have some paperwork in relation to the bloods, the car and his bail status.

If he is charged and then convicted it is going to all come out anyway as if it is drunk or drug driving then he will lose his licence too