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Hand hold: DH missing after "accident"

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 19:20

I know it's not been long, but this is really out of character and not sure what to do next.

Rang my DH on his mobile to let him know what time I'd get in and he didn't answer - often happens so then call him on work line. His work said he'd called in on way back in after lunch saying he'd been in a car accident but was fine, and neither hide nor hair heard since. That's all I know - no indication of the severity of the accident or where he or my car (which he drives) have got to.

I've been trying him on his mobile countless times, called 101 to see if they've got him somewhere, also A&E - but no joy.

He's been off grid for about 5 hours now, when he'd normally have picked me up, got the Tesco and we'd be sitting starting our weekend. But not even a text to let me know he's not dead in a ditch, and I don't have that phone tracker either on this latest handset.

Starting to panic slightly - if anyone is around for a hand hold or some pointers as to how I can track him down that's would be much appreciated....

OP posts:
HollowTalk · 07/06/2019 20:39

If someone reversed into him, why on earth did that person start screaming at him? And why did all that take seven hours?

meow1989 · 07/06/2019 20:39

Read the whole thing and thank goodness at outcome. You poor thing, I would have been thinking the worst and panicking too. Flowers

user1474894224 · 07/06/2019 20:39

Glad to hear he's ok.

beachboo · 07/06/2019 20:40

@StealthPolarBear yes ! Predictive txt on my phone and I hit post without reading it -got massive long fake nails on too which don't help 🥴😖

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 20:41

Yes, best could have hoped for in the circumstances.

This rings true - while not a road rager, OH does seem to be a magnet for them. He's ex forces with a bit of a right fighter complex, so will stand his ground against loonies rather than walking away - which would have been sensible in this instance. He would never instigate a fight or throw a first punch (he has not been in a fight since school!), but I'm sure he did not exactly de-escalate the situation either.

Hopefully this will be a lesson for him in future.

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Lemonade656 · 07/06/2019 20:41

Glad he's safe OP, you can relax now!Thanks

DaisiesAreOurSilver · 07/06/2019 20:42

Phew!

HeavenlyEyes · 07/06/2019 20:43

What a relief. Hope they charge the other person.

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 20:43

Am definitely having a big glass of wine now.

He will have been going spare not being able to reach me, knowing that this week I also learned my role is being made redundant at work as well (though all being well will be mapped to another role - still really upsetting).

As for you lot - you lovely nest of vipers you - I'm massively touched that so many of you took the time to reach out. Thank you all, it's been a huge help and you are all amazing.

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Iwantacookie · 07/06/2019 20:43

Glad you've found him.
Nothing you can do till they release him so open the wine pop your feet up and wait for him to get home.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 07/06/2019 20:44

I agree with hellen (not police, but work in a similar field). Sorry OP, I think there's a bit more to it than what he's said.

SolitudeAtAltitude · 07/06/2019 20:45

Why would you need blood taken if someone:
1.) Reverses into you
2.) Then roadrages you

Why would the victim's (your DH) blood be taken?

It does not add up?

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 07/06/2019 20:45

BTW love your username!

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 20:47

I am sure will get the full story - as he sees it at least. We are a naice couple not exactly "known to police", so all very scary.

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Batshittery · 07/06/2019 20:47

If there is no damage to either vehicle, it is not classed as a road traffic accident and there is no need to breathalise or take blood.
None of this rings true I'm afraid.

hellenbackagen · 07/06/2019 20:47

op - police do not tke bloods for nothing or for road rage.

you need to ask some questions. the police cannot divulge the reasons someone is in custody. and he is in custody. as in arrested. and if bloods are being taken they suspect drink or drug driving.

your husband is not telling you everything and the police cant tell you without his consent. seen it a thousand times.

NameChangerAmI · 07/06/2019 20:47

It does sound like there might be more to it than he's letting on, but I really hope that I'm wrong.

Hope he gets home soon, OP.

ApplesOrangesPears · 07/06/2019 20:47

Glad it turned out OK OP.

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 20:48

He was talking to me with the police chap in the background, so very sure I got the sanitised version only. Will report back though.

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 20:49

Rest assured he'll get a grilling. I'm not that naive.

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Frith2013 · 07/06/2019 20:49

Prepare yourself for a more truthful version of events...

Windygate · 07/06/2019 20:50

hellenbackagen is correct. OP you've been fed a load of bullshit.

Haggisfish · 07/06/2019 20:51

I also think it sounds a bit suss, too. I don’t think he is being entirely honest op. His background suggests to me it was him who road raged and/or was tipsy/taken drugs and caused incident. Sincerely hope I’m wrong.

Bobbiepin · 07/06/2019 20:52

It'll be quite hard to prove that the other person reversed into him rather than him going into the back of him. Might be why they took his blood too, they can prove he wasn't drinking.

GreenTulips · 07/06/2019 20:53

Someone reversed into me
Police attended -we exchanged details
Neither went to the station

What rubbish