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How do you not be irritated by everyone??

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Whatevermission · 20/05/2019 09:09

Is this the curse of being middle aged? Or am I just a miserable old hag? I think I do a pretty good job of containing my seething rage and incomprehension of everyone's idiocy. I smile alot and friendly and chatty. But, wow, it's an effort. I used to love 'people', finding out about them and enjoyed how different we all are. Now I want to live in a cave and never have to have an interaction with anyone I don't already know and like, ever again

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Isthisnecessary · 21/05/2019 17:33

When did people start becoming so inconsiderate?

Seriously! Is it just because I've got older? Is lack of social manners?, Bad upbringing? Lack of awareness? Selfishness?

What makes some believe, that their rights and opinions trump mine or others who may disagree with them?

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Whatevermission · 21/05/2019 17:39

I prefer rabbits

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GoldenPineapples · 21/05/2019 17:40

Maybe it depends on your job? I could never do office work because it all looks so dull and pathetic.

I'm a manual worker and if we are pissing each other off we just call each other a cunt or have a bit of banter about what an asshole they are (all said in a give n take type of way in good sted) and move on.

I could just never imagine working in an office and saying to Colin in accounts "ffs you're being a right asshole today... what a cunt." To which he replies "cunt." I don't think that would go down well🤔

GoldenPineapples · 21/05/2019 17:44

@isthisnecessary to be fair, generations of people have said before us about the "lack of" consideration "nowadays." Even when you were the youth of the day you had older people saying that...

GymKitJen · 21/05/2019 17:54

I'm only 33 and I feel like this already 🤦‍♀️

gotmychocolateimgood · 21/05/2019 19:31

Seriously, rabbits are the best. They don't moan. They don't try to manipulate you. They don't judge or get offended. They never wake me up and are generally silent. They love me unconditionally because I feed them. They are cute and love being cuddled. No negotiation. No drama. Just cute little twitchy noses ♥️

shadypines · 21/05/2019 20:15

I just long for the days when people out and about actually observed/interacted with (silently or otherwise) the world around them rather than their screens. When you see any TV or photos from pre 1995 it is full of people with their HEADS UP not hunched over in a catatonic state and it is so refreshing. I want that world back.

FFS yest evening a cyclist was zooming past me as I was crossing a side street, headphones in and in full flow on her mobile device. WTAF what happened to the highway code? Shock

shadypines · 21/05/2019 20:16

....cyclist was in full flow of a conversation I meant to say...

Underthegreenwood · 21/05/2019 20:47

Some absolute gems on this thread 😂 not laughed so much for ages. I'm 34 and already there, have been for a while! However as I get older I am finding I care less about what other people think and therefore I am less angry. I can just dismiss all the utter crap around me whereas before I used to force myself to participate, as I felt I had to, but hated it. I'm off Facebook and give no fucks about people who let me down, I just move on immediately. I don't have enough time for my lovely family and friends that don't piss me off so everyone else can stroll on!!

Underthegreenwood · 21/05/2019 20:49

I would say I'm an introvert and notice similar in other introverted people, so do wonder if that's part of it?

knitpicker · 21/05/2019 20:49

Only read page 1 so apologies if someone already raised this - serious question, could it be because of falling female hormone levels as we hit our 40s? Does oestrogen make us more tolerant when we are younger?

bordellosboheme · 21/05/2019 21:03

Knitpicker I think you've hit the nail on the head. Oestrogen is the pacifying, agreeable hormone. I find I'm much more effective in work in my 40s because I don't smile and nod like I used to. I say it like it is these days. That combined with more life experience means we won't put up with shit any more.

knitpicker · 21/05/2019 22:34

Somehow it feels like the scales fall from your eyes and you see with much more clarity- especially any bullshit or posturing, I have zero tolerance Grin

Glassier · 21/05/2019 23:21

Yes!!! This is me. I love my work, but almost everyone around me is an extroverted 20-something, with very little life experience (typical of academia). The shit they come out with - plus of course, they know everything about life already 😑. Being around them everyday has killed the last bit of tolerance I had for other people. I am a true introvert though, so maybe it’s me 🤷‍♀️

WindowCleaneress · 21/05/2019 23:30

Oh yes this is me! My eyes glaze over so much these days and I find myself thinking 'you're such a twat' about almost everyone.

FiremanKing · 21/05/2019 23:33

I’ve always been on the side of bolshy but I think it’s a combination of things as you get older that make you less tolerant.

Hormones may be involved but for me I think it’s often life experiences that make me think I’ve seen and heard it all and therefore I’m no longer going to put up with that crap!

I also have learnt that thinking about the worst possible outcome in a situation is pointless as it rarely happens.

Also I hardly ever feel embarrassed nowadays as other people’s opinions of me other than my loved ones, simply do not matter to me.

GeorgiaTrotmansParachute · 22/05/2019 00:46

Yep me too. In 48 and have been getting more and more incredulous about the general level of idiocy for the last few years.

I think I may become a hermit with just DH, the DC and my cats allowed visitation. Everyone else can just sod off.

IAmNotAWitch · 22/05/2019 01:18

Yeah, the cat is good.

She is apparently 45 in human years, so we spend a lot of time sitting together, not bothering each other and just generally enjoying the company of equals.

Decormad38 · 22/05/2019 01:19

Was walking the dog yesterday and this older guy kept stopping to talk to me. I was muttering fuck off under my breath.

sheettent · 22/05/2019 01:22

I was always known for being the happy, chatty, always polite person. I've turned 42 and fucking hate everyone. I sometimes sit looking at people talking wishing I could just put my fingers up their nose and tell them to never speak to me again.

IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 22/05/2019 01:34

I was like that from day one. I can't even blame middle age, I was always a grumpy bag. If anything, I'm more tolerant with age.

RosaWaiting · 22/05/2019 10:16

A friend said to me "I find myself reading articles and then thinking, I don't know what that was about". I agreed with her. Anyone else find this?

mrswilson2 · 22/05/2019 10:24

Never pick a fight with a woman over 40 , they are full of rage and sick of everyone's shit Smile
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Whatevermission · 22/05/2019 10:43

friend said to me "I find myself reading articles and then thinking, I don't know what that was about". I agreed with her. Anyone else find this?

Yes Rosa, job at vacuous shite

I hate when you look for a recipe on-line and it is buried in someone's naval-gazing blog. I always feel dirty after crawling through them to find ingredients/prep instructions

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LoafofSellotape · 22/05/2019 11:09

Omg yes,the waffly food blogs. Hmm