A quick poll- if you are married....

[BertrandRussell]

Did your husband ask your father’s permission before he asked you?

If possible, just a yes or no.

No

Yes

Yes (for me it's not about ownership, just a bit of respect and tradition)

Yes he spoke to my dad and found out how he would feel about it, it wasn't permission as such because even if my dad said he wouldn't be happy, we still would have got engaged and married, without my dad as part of it. It was just a nice touch we thought.

Nope as my father had died. He asked my mother instead and she gave me away and did the speech!

Yes

I had no idea that he had and we went round to tell my parents afterwards and they produced a lovely chilled bottle of champagne from the fridge. I was very confused because they don't keep alcohol in the house and if they do it's only ever a few lagers or a bottle of plonk. It took me ages to realise they'd had the heads up as my DH had asked my DF for permission the week before!

Lucky I said yes I'd they'd have wasted their money!

Permission - no
His blessing - yes

This was in 1997 by the way.

Nope.

No and I wouldn’t have married him if he had

No. If he had, I would have been so insulted and I honestly would thought twice about marrying him. Each to their own but I wouldn’t be compatible with a man who felt that he needed to ask my father before he asked me.

No. And I wouldn't have married him if he had - he'd have shown he didn't know me at all!

Not married but we're engaged and getting married later this year.

Fuck no to him asking and I'd have left him if he had. But we didn't have a proposal as such, just a conversation where we decided we'd both like to.

No.

No

No

No

My grandfather was touched by the fact that my father asked for my mother's hand... in the 1950s

No. My father would have laughed in his face.

No (my dad was dead but wouldn't have asked anyway).

No - not yet married, but will be in 12 days

Eww how old fashioned.
I didn't ask DH's dad before I asked DH to marry me.

No asked my grandparents for their blessing which meant a lot to me. They also gave hi. My Nana's ring to ask me with

Yes

No but dh and my dad had a little private talk after I had already told my parents we were engaged. No idea what was said by either man. It was something dh initiated. I bloody hope he wasn't asking permission.

No.

Neither did my dad ask my grandad, 63y ago.