A quick poll- if you are married....

[BertrandRussell]

Did your husband ask your father’s permission before he asked you?

If possible, just a yes or no.

Yes.

No way. We got engaged thirty two years ago when I was eighteen. While I love and respect my Dad I didn't need his permission to marry. I can't believe that anyone would in the twenty first century.

Not exactly permission - but rang and spoke to my mum first then my dad, more as a courtesy! He's not at all traditional etc but thought they'd appreciate the gesture and would've gone ahead whatever they said (he knew they'd be delighted)

In retrospect he probably also wanted to let them know where we were going as he took me away to a mystery location to propose...

Yes. My dad said "you'll have to convince her first though" 😂 Raised traditional but independent daughters 👍

Yes

Yes

No, I proposed to him.

No

He informed him that he planned to propose to me but wasn’t asking for agreement or a blessing. (He got it, but my dad’s reaction would have made fuck all difference).

No

Yes. Whilst he was in the early learning centre haha, by phone though not in person

Nope.

No.

Yes

DF told him I'd make my own mind up 😂

Just for his blessing not permission. Didn't bother me

No

Yes

No buts he was dead anyway

No.

It's interesting that nobody asked their DH's parents' permission. It's almost as if there was some sort of sexual double standard.

No, neither of them but my daughter's fiancé phoned my husband to ask him because an older man at work told him he had to 😂

He informed him that he planned to propose to me but wasn’t asking for agreement or a blessing. (He got it, but my dad’s reaction would have made fuck all difference).

This. He went roundup show him the ring with a bottle of drink. At no point did he ask him if he could, just told him that was what he was doing.

No

Yes. I think it’s stupid and outdated but I knew my dad would appreciate the gesture. I’m glad he did cos my dad died suddenly a few months later so didn’t see the wedding.

No

Son-in-law didn't ask DH's permission for our daughter, either.

No. He asked my Mum