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Need to pull myself together for the children

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Simonfromharlow · 20/04/2019 13:55

My husband left me 10 days ago. I feel so down. I'm being a shit mum to my kids as I can't pull myself together. This is so hard. I don't know how to cope.

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VeThings · 02/07/2019 13:19

Finding your ex unattractive is a big step forward. At some point you’ll wonder how you ever slept with him enough to produce babies - that’s when you know you’re well and truly over him.

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Simonfromharlow · 02/07/2019 13:31

Hopefully!!! I do feel like I'd move forward in that way. I managed to be quite cordial with him when he picked up and dropped off the kids at the weekend. We even shared a joke!

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Simonfromharlow · 02/07/2019 13:34

I'd like to that should say

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JohnMcCainsDeathStare · 02/07/2019 14:42

It's one thing to find your ex unattractive but don't flagelllate yourself about being g stupid to be with him. The good bits were real and you weren't dumb to be with him when you were.

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Simonfromharlow · 02/07/2019 15:31

We did have a lovely relationship up until about a year ago. We were both genuinely happy. It's so sad it has turned out this way. I do still value the good times but am sad and angry at the way it ended!

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Simonfromharlow · 04/07/2019 09:59

I think I've had some kind of shift. I've woken up almost every day this week feeling happy instead of having the knot in my stomach!

When I was out on Saturday with my friends I felt genuinely happy for the first time in ages!

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badfurday · 04/07/2019 19:49

Thant's great! Well done you! Keep going, the strength you are showing is inspiring. 👍🏻

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Simonfromharlow · 04/07/2019 21:31

😘😘

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Paddy1234 · 09/07/2019 22:31

See there are now starting to be more days you are happy than you are sad.
Are the children starting to see the new normal or are they finding it hard.
Are you staying fit? I remember you were happy about the initial weight loss - have you kept it off?
❤️

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Simonfromharlow · 09/07/2019 23:42

Hi paddy! I've managed to keep the weight off and been going to the gym twice a week. Can see the muscle definition on my arms which is cool. They only down side which I don't like is that when you have more good days the bad days feel extra bad! But hopefully in time the bad days will be massively outnumbered by the good!

Kids are coping. I wouldn't say they are ok but they are coping. Like me they will feel better about things in time!

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Simonfromharlow · 22/07/2019 18:28

Just checking in. Been feeling mainly ok lately. Not happy or sad just ok! I see this as positive! I had a bad day Thursday (thank you PMS) but recovered over the weekend!

I'm absolutely loving my job! I have really got lucky with my colleagues! Everyone is so kind and warm and friendly! I feel like I've really settled in!

Ex has been quiet lately so I'm waiting for him to drop his next bombshell whatever that may be!

The kids are doing ok! Eldest finishes infants school on Wednesday! I feel a little emotional but he is really excited about changing school and his teacher is lovely!!!

I have the driving theory next Friday!! I'm dreading it. Ex is taking the kids for a week on Saturday so I will have to swot up!!

I'm really dreading their week away. I know they will be fine and loved and looked after, but I've not been away from them for so long so will be a little weird. I'll survive though!! After all I've been through worse lately! :)

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notapizzaeater · 22/07/2019 18:29

Fantastic update, have you anything g nose p,an Ed for you in the week ?

notapizzaeater · 22/07/2019 18:30

I hate hate hate my iPad at times ...

Let's try again ....

Have you got anything planned for you for the week the kids are away ?

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Simonfromharlow · 22/07/2019 18:57

Haha. I'm working a bit of overtime and have some stuff planned with my friend! Hopefully will go quick!! I'm off on holiday at rhe end of August with my amazing family so have that to looks forward to as well!

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badfurday · 22/07/2019 20:11

Sounds like you are doing great! We are all here rooting for you!

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Simonfromharlow · 22/07/2019 22:03

Thank you!!

He's really excelled himself tonight. I think I tempted fate by saying he'd be quiet!

We were discussing arrangements for next week and I said. Oh I'm really going to miss them. I'm dreading it. He said a week is nothing. I only get to see them once a fortnight!!! What an insensitive prick!! He chose it! I didn't! How dare he compare it!!

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Simonfromharlow · 02/08/2019 13:04

Hello again! So another little update. Passed my theory test today!!

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maras2 · 02/08/2019 14:31

simon
Flowers Flowers Flowers
You're a Star
Well done. Mx.

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Simonfromharlow · 02/08/2019 18:19

Thank you!! :)

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IHaveAnOutie · 02/08/2019 21:19

Well done. You should be really proud of yourself. It must have been really hard to focus on studying at times. Keep doing new things for yourself. You deserve these wins in your life. You're going to get through it all and be really happy again one day soon.

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Simonfromharlow · 08/08/2019 22:47

I really hope so @IHaveAnOutie

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badfurday · 07/09/2019 09:13

How you doing?

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Simonfromharlow · 18/09/2019 22:21

@badfurday hi. Sorry just saw this! I'm
Doing ok thank you! I had a really wonderful holiday with my family. Came home feeling in a much better mindset!

I booked my driving test today! It's in November but I feel sick already haha

Feeling that at this time I'd be happy if ex would just poof into thin air. He's just become an inconvenience now!!

Thank you for thinking of me!

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Simonfromharlow · 19/09/2019 20:31

@Paddy1234 booked my driving test!

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