Need to pull myself together for the children

[Simonfromharlow]

My husband left me 10 days ago. I feel so down. I'm being a shit mum to my kids as I can't pull myself together. This is so hard. I don't know how to cope.

Miss him so much

Big hug from me!
You're allowed to feel down about things, remember things will get better. Hang in there, you're doing great. 😊👍🏻

Thank you! I do feel a little better today but still having the thoughts over and over.

Here is a hug 🤗
I’m so sorry....it’s really difficult but you will get there in time ...
Somehow it just eventually feels a little bit better each day ...

Hang in there and be kind to yourself x

Thank you. I really hate this. It's just so unfair!

Simon - I lost the thread! It disappeared from my active list 😟
Hope you are recovering now - 2 months is still such a short amount of time.
Keep going to the gym and get those endorphins up X

Think of all the shit things he used to do and that you don't have to put up with that bullshit anymore. I remember bumping into an ex a few times and having to watch myself falling into old behaviour patterns when I remembered what sort of shit things he did only to me.

I have several times made a list of the bad things. It does help for a time!!

@Paddy1234 I've been to the gym 3 times this week! Check me out 💪🏻 😂

I'm absolutely covered in bruises from the fall but I can laugh about it now!

I couldn't sleep last night. Ex h is taking the kids for a week in the summer hols and I feel sick. I've never been away from them so long before. I know they'll be fine with him but I'm still can't help worrying. I know it's natural to worry. I don't know what I'll do all week.

I just amazed myself. Caught a spider in the bath and put it outside. I absolutely hate spiders so this is a big deal!!! So proud of myself !!

Haven’t posted on your thread before but have been lurking since you started it, I just wanted to say you’re doing amazingly well. Well done for catching the spider!

Thank you :) I hope it's not boring you too much haha I kind of ramble on a bit haha

Definitely not. Everyone on here has been through a break up (probably!) and knows the heartache you’re feeling.

Writing it down and sharing with others is a good way to manage those emotions - I kept a personal journal and found it very helpful.

I do find it very helpful to write on here. I also like to read it back and see I actually have come quite far!

I also have a notebook where I write my thoughts. One entry is just the word c**t scrawled across the whole page hahaha

Exactly, you’ve come so far! How are your children doing?

They aren't too bad considering! The youngest one asks a lot of questions but doesn't really take in the answers but he's only 3 so I don't expect too much from him. The older one is quite anxious anyway and this has become worse since his dad left, I've spoken to his teacher and have started doing a workbook thing with him she suggested so hopefully that will help him a bit. They see their dad fairly regularly and they talk to him on the iPad and stuff. Just difficult as I don't really know what to do to help them!

By being there for them like you are, is helping them.

Have you got any support from school / nursery / preschool?

Yes their school and preschool staff are being really helpful. Sadly it's a very common situation! 😞

Back at the gym this morning! Mum
Kindly looking after the kids for me! Never enjoyed the gym before now but it's a great outlet to get out all the anxiety and crap feelings!! Hopefully I'll get a hot body as well! Haha I've lost 2 stone which was much needed! I have to thank him for that if nothing else!!

Have you tried running yet - all my friends that run say it's simply the best way to clear your head X

I run a bit on the treadmill! I do quite enjoy it but need to build up some fitness!

I'm doing the couch to 5k thing!

I've had the nicest weekend! No cryingX no feeling miserable!

Great news - you’ve got this!