What would you NEVER let your kids wear in public?

[JoeyBartonHanson]

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My DD is 12 and would definitely not take any advice on what she should wear. She dresses appropriately when neccessary, but apart from black leggings, i haven't been able to choose clothes for her since the age of about 5. I could buy clothes that i liked and would like to see her wear but she simply wouldnt wear them. I buy clothes for DS(9) he is less opinionated on clothes but would always choose joggers or shorts over jeans. In fact apart from school trousers the only trousers he owns are joggers or combats. For smarter occasions eg a wedding we bought smart/chino style shorts and a polo shirt. I think he still wore trainers but looked fairly smart.

My DD is 10 and will not be told what to wear. I asked her to go change into something nice for a meal out the other day and she came down in acid wash jeans and a black t shirt of her favourite metal band. She will not wear skirts or dresses and lives in leggings.

I don't buy any clothes when she isn't with me as I will inevitably get it wrong. I'm really not too fussed unless she's wearing something dirty or creased. I actually think it's a good thing that she knows her own style.

DS is 3 so I buy all his clothes and he isn't yet very interested in what he wears. I don't have absolute rules but he has never worn anything black as I don't like it on children under school age (am a big fan of bright colours and cool patterns which I know aren't to everyone's taste and I don't judge anyone who puts their children in black I just don't like it myself). He has never worn jeans as I think soft cotton trousers are so much better for climbing etc. Character clothes are restricted to PJs.

However once he gets interested in clothes I will by and large allow him to wear what he wants as long as it is weather and activity appropriate (so no fleeces on a hot day or a tutu to go climbing).

I can’t think of anything
I’m not bothered what they wear and I care even less about what other people think

This ^

DD is 14. As long as the important bits are covered and she's not wearing anythjng that could cause offence she can crack on afaic.

Tbh her dress sense is generally less adventurous than mine anyway

I never liked clothes with precocious “cute” sayings on them, like, “If you think I’m cute, you should see my mom” and “Don't check out my daddy; Mommy is psycho.”

Also, nothing racist, sexist, or demeaning to anyone in any way.

I have two teenage sons, no daughters, so there's nothing else really. I trust their judgment.

My 4 year old looks like she's fallen through a clothes donation bin some days, she has a sequin encrusted skirt that I can barely peel offer to wash, if it's too cold for bare legs she likes to wear it over patterned leggings with a sequin changing colour top, rose gold trainers with cat faces on, about 8 bracelets and 3 necklaces and sometimes a couple of hair bows or a cat eared headband, she puts it all on and tells me 'I look so beautiful mummy' and you know what - she does look beautiful, so I let her wear what she's chosen because if you can't choose clothes you really love when you're 4 (even if they might be an assault on the eyes) when can you?

@Amongstthetallgrass you ban a 23 year old wearing make up?

I really can't be arsed to police my children's clothes. DS13 wears his skinny jeans, old T-shirt's and a pair of Nike Airforce ones absolutely everywhere, summer or winter althoughhe will put a hoody on in the winter.
I'm more bothered that he's outside getting fresh air and exercising than I am about what he's wearing.

I don’t get the hatred of football shirts on here either.. They’re soo easy to wash, quick to dry, never need ironing, and don’t easily fade or get tatty. I get in some areas certain rival teams can cause issues, but round here the lads get round it by wearing all sorts of European club shirts. And I say that as a mum of two sons with zero interest in football or football shirts.

I still choose and buy all ds's clothes since he has sn and has no interest in what he wears as long as it is comfortable.
I don't buy clothes with slogans because I don't like them. As he has got older I try to make sure he isn't dressed too young for his age and that his clothes are similar to what other boys the same age wear so nothing too 'out there'.

Dd is 12.

I don't like midriffs and skinny fit tops. I think it looks trashy. She usually wears a t-shirt and jeans or shorts. On rare occasions she'll wear a dress but only ones that reach the knee. She also avoids spaghetti straps. She has never really taken to heels and prefers converse or flat biker boots.

I have always dressed conservatively because I am plus-sized so maybe she sees my ways and follows them to a major degree. She may rebel in the future, but for now, she's very conventional.

Crop tops, bikinis, leopard print, trousers/shorts with words on the bottom, high heels, basically anything that’s too grown up/sexualised for a little girl.
I bet my daughter will want to wear all of this once she is a teenager 🙈

DS8 lives in football kits, he looks like he fell out of JJB every single day. I couldn't care less because they're always easy to wash and rarely stain despite him spending 90% of his time on a bike or playing football.

DS13 couldn't give a shit what he wears, so is currently sporting my skinny jeans (which are like capri pants on him) and a t-shirt that I suspect was a pyjama top with the slogan "I went to Harvard Law and all I got was this t-shirt".

Life is too short to argue with DC about what they wear. The only time I pull rank is family events when I lay out everyone's outfits and they all silently dress smartly and spend 3 hours pretending to be civilised before resuming their sloppy style.

I never dressed them in slogan stuff when they were small, although MIL liked to buy t-shirts with "boys will be boys" on them (which always made me cringe a little because, you know, it's 2011 not 1911). I also never bought them massively expensive clothes after DS1 vomited on a cashmere Christian Dior jumper on a train to Euston. It was like a scene from the exorcist with DH shouting "but it's bleeding cashmere" as though that would make the small child stop barfing down it's front.

@ColdTattyWaitingForSummer because its common darling. All the posh people are in their rugby jerseys.

My tre cool, tres handsome 9yo ds only wears jogging bottoms. As do all of his (also cool and handsome ) friends. Dcs are at a private school, so it's def not a class thing. Occasionally at a party you will see a friend in jeans, always looks a bit odd. A tad smarter but a lot naffer.

When d's isn't in joggers he'll be in other random sports wear. The idea of kids only wearing sports wear for sports also baffles me. Kids are just active, right? Park, kicking football, jumping on trampolines. It would be madness to keep changing them in and out of 'sport' and 'non-sport' wear.

And no kid is ever going to come across as classy and we'll brought up if their parents are standing near them banding about words like 'chavvy' and 'chavtastic'

Tres not tre.

As long as the outfit is activity/weather appropriate and not going to cause offence I couldn’t give two hoots what DD chooses to wear.

I dressed my DS nearly 12. I'm not keen on joggers and hate cheap clothing if I couldn't afford it I would rather buy designer second hand. He does have 3/4 pairs of Canterbury joggers, I like them just not primark or M&S. it Canterbury are the joggers that are favoured by the private schools, so good for PE. As long as it's good quality and not Asda or supermarket wear I'm happy. I quite like no added sugar even if the slogans are sexist. I also like stardust and scotch shrunk for jeans. School bag fjjalsen but they last years. I like quality.

Ds always wears joggers when not at school. He doesn't have any jeans or smart trousers apart from school ones. He has never seemed comfortable in them.
I usually buy next or m and s with a few supermarket bits. I find Next basics very good value.
I don't buy second hand clothes because that is all I had as a child and I disliked it.

Queenscot, I am amazed that you still choose clothes a 12 year old will wear. By that age they should be choosing their own clothes,. It's not about what brands you like.

Lol at only permitting joggers if they're the preferred brand of private schools.

@amandacarnet My sons a geek/nerd. I don't trust him to look stylish. He needs assistance and he's more than happy to allow me, he comes home and says "this or that person said ooh look you have x y or z". I buy him beats headphones means nothing to him until people mention it. I like brands and quality.

I don't even get a say in what my 2 year old wears 😂

My 5 year old just goes straight into his wardrobe in the morning and dresses himself.

My three year old dresses herself every day. Sometimes she gets it right and looks like a put together catalogue kid, other times she's wearing a green tutu with a flowery sequined red t-shirt and pink wellies and more than once we have gone good shipping etc with her dressed as Elsa 🤷‍♀️

If you can't dress like that when you're three when can you?

Dcs are at a private school, so it's def not a class thing I suspect it still is, just the middle one.

@queenscot so your primary concern is whether it's worn at private schools and whether it's stylish enough for you, not whether he walks around with sexist slogans picked by you? I don't understand why anyone would push their child into being all about the label and being regarded purely in what you're wearing rather than because they're nice, caring people. You're basically foisting shallowness on him. So odd.