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before you had kids, did you want boys or girls or a mixture? Why?

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beclev24 · 12/04/2019 19:40

Just curious really. Before you had your kids, did you hope to have boys or girls or a mix? What was your ideal and why?

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fleshmarketclose · 12/04/2019 19:46

I wanted boys because I'm not at all girly and thought I would prefer playing lego and cars to dolls and prams. I have a mix and I am delighted I do tbh. I have a very girly daughter and it hasn't been a problem at all.

AventaRizon · 12/04/2019 19:47

Is there a reason why you are asking? Perhaps if you say why, then replies might be more useful to you.

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beclev24 · 12/04/2019 19:48

aventa mainly i'm just nosy, but also because I have 3 DSs and constantly hear negative stuff about boys/ people saying they wanted girls etc etc so wondered if that was a general thing or not, as it kind of gets me down.

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SoyDora · 12/04/2019 19:48

I wasn’t bothered at all, I wanted children. If I had a strong preference I probably wouldn’t have had children at all, as there would have been a 50% chance I’d have been disappointed which I don’t think is fair on any child.

reallyanotherone · 12/04/2019 19:49

Neither. Sex wasn’t important. I had hoped for a child who’s personality wasn’t a complete clash-i think if I’d produced an instagramming pouting permatanned girl or a football supporting boy I may have struggled.

A child who liked some combination of sport and dance, science, books and reading, cooking, animals would have done me. And both of them do have enough common ground that we enjoy spending time together and have plenty to talk about. Thats more important than genitalia.

MeMeMeYou · 12/04/2019 19:50

I imagined I’d have the same as my family - 2 daughter (like me and my sister). I always wanted to have a girl I’m not even sure why. My first child was a girl. Altho I’d imagined having another girl I was happy at the thought of either. And I had my lovely son!

dementedma · 12/04/2019 19:50

I wanted boys and had 2 daughters. and then,after a 12 year gap, unexpected ds arrived!

HoldMyGirl · 12/04/2019 19:50

I just wanted children.

If I'm being completely honest, I probably had a preference for a daughter or daughters.

I have both sexes.

Minai · 12/04/2019 19:50

I didn’t really think about it. I have 2 boys now and don’t want anymore children and a lot of people assume I must wish I had a girl. I don’t at all. Not that a girl wouldn’t have been nice too but I don’t feel like I am missing anything from not having one.

cushioncovers · 12/04/2019 19:51

Before kids I thought I wanted four children, 2 of each. Fast forward 22 years and I have two boys.

Angelinthenightx · 12/04/2019 19:51

I diddnt mind just wanted everything to go ok & to have healthy babies.

RuffleCrow · 12/04/2019 19:51

I was particularly curious to find out what a boy mini-me would look like as I've always thought my features would look better on someone male! And they do!

sweetkitty · 12/04/2019 19:52

I probably wanted at least one daughter, I ended up with 3 DDs and one DS, only one DD is what you would call girly though.

HarrietM87 · 12/04/2019 19:52

Before I had children I wanted at least 1 girl (so all girls or a mix), not sure why really. I’ve recently had my first, a boy, and he is so utterly delicious I want lots more boys, all just like him 😂. Seriously though, having had a few miscarriages, nothing matters but a healthy baby.

Palominoo · 12/04/2019 19:52

My ideal before having children was to have one of each and I was fortunate to have that.

I didn’t mind which order but I really hoped one would be a girl so I could look forward to make up and clothes shopping together when she was older.

However, my son was born first and during the last month of pregnancy with my second child I began to worry as my gut feeling was the baby was going to be a girl and my son was so loving and affectionate that I had an irrational fear that a girl would be different somehow.

Both are adults now and I can honestly say that the most important thing that I wish for in future grandchildren is not if they’re a boy or a girl but they are healthy.

Theninjawhinger · 12/04/2019 19:52

I wanted a boy, out of pure fear because I don’t get on with my mum and was scared of that repeating if I had a daughter.

That said, when I became pregnant, I tried so hard to not have a preference. If I had had a daughter, I didn’t want my first reaction to be fear or disappointment (I had a boy in the end!)

Calixtine · 12/04/2019 19:53

I wanted two of each. I now have two girls and a boy and I’m 90% sure we’re stopping there.

MissLucyHoneychurch · 12/04/2019 19:54

I desperately wanted a daughter, can't articulate why. I got my DD, neither of us are "girly" or laddish.

CigarsofthePharoahs · 12/04/2019 19:55

In all.honesty I wanted a daughter. I didn't like the idea of having a boy, it scared me. I can't quite articulate why, but it did.
Guess what - I have two children and they're both boys! I wouldn't change them for the world. Ds1 looks like DH's mini me clone but he has my personality and whilst we do clash, we also get on very well.
Ds2 is a total cuddle bug. Love my lads.
I never did get to the bottom of why I found the idea of having a boy so scary, but it's not reared its head since ds1 was born.

Joebloggswazere · 12/04/2019 19:56

I wanted one of each because I grew up with an older brother and it was mostly great. I have one of each but the dynamic is slightly different as my DD was the first born.

Nomanada · 12/04/2019 19:56

I wanted two boys and two girls. I have one of each currently and would love two more. I am 37 this year so not sure if I have the time left for two more

Ragwort · 12/04/2019 19:57

I genuinely didn’t mind,whilst pregnant I sort of imagined I would be having a girl (chose not to find out), no idea why .... but was very happy when DS arrived Grin. Never wanted a second child though !!

Rosehip345 · 12/04/2019 19:57

I wanted girls, I’m the only girl in my entire family. I got three girls 😁 I’m chuffed although my husband feels a bit outnumbered!

LadyKylieShagworthy · 12/04/2019 19:57

Before DC wanted 2 or 3 and at least one girl.
DC 1 I wasn't too bothered but it was a girl so I was pleased but then with my second pregnancy I absolutely wanted another girl.
We stopped at 2 girls partly because I didn't want to risk having a boy.

TessaL23 · 12/04/2019 19:57

I wanted one of each, but if I had to pick just one I wanted a boy! I have 2 boys and a girl :)

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