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Would you drive dd to and from the bus stop?

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twosoups1972 · 02/04/2019 15:49

Dd is 12 and started secondary school last September. It's an easy journey on one bus.

Bus stop is about a 7 min walk from home, uphill on the way there and obviously downhill coming home.

Dd keeps asking for a lift to the bus stop. Some mornings dh is going anyway so she goes with him. Other days she usually persuades me to drive her. Often she'll message me in the afternoon to pick her up with various excuses - her pe bag is heavy, it's hot/cold/raining etc.

Because I only work part time and I'm nice I normally agree but now dd is starting to expect it.

WWYD?

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TeddyIsaHe · 02/04/2019 15:51

Not a chance unless it was absolutely bucketing it down. It’s good to have a walk a day anyway.

hidinginthenightgarden · 02/04/2019 15:52

Unless it was raining I would make her walk. Tell her it is good exercise and that you don’t want to take that from her. Send her on her way!

ShirleyPhallus · 02/04/2019 15:52

Are you kidding. It’s a 7 minute walk! Of course don’t give her a lift there!

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Settlersofcatan · 02/04/2019 15:52

No way unless I was passing anyway. Awful for the environment and good for her to get a tiny bit of exercise.

amusedbush · 02/04/2019 15:53

She wants a lift to save 7 minutes of walking? 7 minutes??

No. And I say that as someone who works at the top of hill resembling Mount Doom.

Palominoo · 02/04/2019 15:55

No. Only if I was driving that way at that time or she rang to tell me one of her legs had fallen off.

JoinTheDots · 02/04/2019 15:56

7 minutes!? No. Well, maybe if it was chucking it down and for some reason she had no coat.

BatFace1 · 02/04/2019 15:57

Yes I probably would take her I think. I work from home but I take my 12 year old to school in the car - we live 2 miles away though. I then do my shopping and grab a coffee on the way back.

What time does she have to leave in the morning? This would have a bearing.

I know on mumsnet that it's fashionable to be having them do everything for themselves at age 5 or whatever but it's no skin off my nose to do bits and pieces for my kids

Treaclesweet · 02/04/2019 15:57

Absolutely not. Think of the environmental impact!

TeddyIsaHe · 02/04/2019 15:58

Yes but how absolutely terrible is it for the environment and personal health to drive 7 minutes? Pointless!

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twosoups1972 · 02/04/2019 16:05

The exercise aspect isn't an issue - she does 5 dance classes a week and is pretty fit and active. And I suppose if I'm home anyway it takes me literally 2 mins to get there and back.

The environmental aspect is a good one though.

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TeenTimesTwo · 02/04/2019 16:06

Only if chucking it down or abnormally heavy load / art projects, at most.

DD walks to school every day, rain or shine or snow, 15 mins.

Nowthatsamiriacle · 02/04/2019 16:06

It seems like a massive waste to drive her. A 7 minutes walk is nothing. If the weather was horrible then that's a different story, but on most days I wouldn't do it.

BarbaraofSevillle · 02/04/2019 16:08

Hasn't she heard of the Youth Climate Change strikes.

Expecting to be driven such a ridiculously short distance means that she's part of the problem.

Raera · 02/04/2019 16:10

I did, when I could, particularly on dark mornings as the walk to the bus was in a very quiet area with no other children walking that way.

bingoitsadingo · 02/04/2019 16:10

No, that's ridiculous. Maybe occasionally if she had a really heavy bag. By the time you've put on shoes, locked the door, got in the car, driven there, you've waited a minute or two for her or vice versa, driven back, you'll have spent as long driving as she would walking!

Ohyesiam · 02/04/2019 16:13

Tell your daughter you’ve heard a rumour that unnecessary cat use might not be the best thing for the planet
Mine go to school about a mile away, uphill and are always asking for a lift in. I only give in if it’s pouring with rain.

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twosoups1972 · 02/04/2019 16:14

cat use

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MrsAmaretto · 02/04/2019 16:15

Wtf?! My 5 year old walks the 10minutes to the school bus stop, so your 12 year old is being ridiculous.

I do drive them if it’s utterly chucking it down or a Gale Force 6 or above as she’s so wee the wind actually blows her off her feet.

IWouldPreferNotTo · 02/04/2019 16:18

Starting your car and running it for 3 minutes is not really very good for the engine, lots of trips like that will really affect the lifespan of the engine as the oil is never getting up to temperature (nor the catalytic converter)

CMOTDibbler · 02/04/2019 16:24

No way! Mine cycles just over a mile each way with all his stuff in whatever the weather. And doesn't complain about it even when it was raining this morning

redwoodmazza · 02/04/2019 16:27

No way!
Unless it is a hurricane and flooding, she can walk!

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 02/04/2019 16:29

I would keep it up your sleeve as a nice favour for if it's raining or she has an unusually heavy bag that day or somesuch. Really not good for the environment.

NChangeForNoReason · 02/04/2019 16:30

I had this - I told my DD that I would only pick up 2 times a week so she needed to make sure she used them wisely. I didn't care if it was bucketing down if I had already picked up twice she would get wet!!!

stucknoue · 02/04/2019 16:36

No! Don't think it needs more

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