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Things MN have taught me that I do that annoy people

108 replies

clairemcnam · 30/03/2019 15:39

There are lots of things I do that I had no idea were unreasonable until MN. So a selection are:

  • saying things - oh you have got your hands full, when a woman has 3 or more young kids she is trying to herd along,
  • sneezing loudly,
  • saying - My bad,
  • having a toilet brush by the toilet,
  • asking people with kids if they are planning to have any more,
  • asking people if they work, and if yes what do they do,
  • saying things like - oh someone isn't happy - at a screaming baby,
  • talking to people in bus queues,

I think I should stop now! I should probably just stay in the house and not talk to anyone from now on!!

OP posts:
ScreamingValenta · 30/03/2019 15:41

The child-related ones aren't relevant to me, but none of the others would annoy me.

Palominoo · 30/03/2019 15:42

My dogs being off lead.

I've only ever met a couple of people annoyed at this as the majority of people love my dogs coming up to them for a fuss.

SleepDeprivedCabbageBrain · 30/03/2019 15:42

Asking to use someone else’s toilet!!
Asking if someone’s travelling in the holidays

TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 30/03/2019 15:43

Visiting someone without an appointment.

teyem · 30/03/2019 15:44

With the exception of "my bad", which is inexcusable, nothing there would bother me.

Original poster
clairemcnam · 30/03/2019 15:44

teyern Grin

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RosaWaiting · 30/03/2019 15:46

TrendyNorthLondonTeen

you mean you show up unannounced?

I didn't think anyone did this till I joined MN Grin

OP, the only one from that list is "my bad" which a few of my friends really hate as well. I also sneeze loudly but I believe that can't be controlled! If I could sneeze quietly, I really would.

btw I'm the one giving evils if you start trying to talk to me in a bus queue or whatever. I don't mind if something happens that warrants comment, but do you mean just start chatting randomly? Confused

Jinglejanglefish · 30/03/2019 15:47

Talking to me would annoy me, but I think I'm the weirdo in that situation not the talker

Original poster
clairemcnam · 30/03/2019 15:47

Yeah I just chat randomly in bus queues, but if you clearly do not want to talk, I talk to someone else. There is usually someone keen to chat away.

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Original poster
clairemcnam · 30/03/2019 15:49

My mum talks to anyone. In lifts, queues, everywhere. I am sure on MN she would be posted about as a lonely old biddy, and it is probably the first person she has talked to for days. But none of that would be true. She has just been brought up in a community where you chat to everyone, and she still does.

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DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 30/03/2019 16:58

I'm not thrilled with off-lead dogs, as I have scars from "he's only playing". Labradors are nice though, all fluffy and daft.

PurpleDaisies · 30/03/2019 17:02

Are you planning on stopping any of those things in your list? It’s unclear from your post.

BillywigSting · 30/03/2019 17:03

I'm another one not keen on dogs off lead (with some exceptions, woods, empty beaches etc) and the 'someone isn't happy' used to piss me off when ds was tiny, because, 'why yes, I hadn't noticed my infant child screaming blue murder down my ear on three hours sleep and can you not state the bloody obvious please' .

I honestly can not get het up by the rest.

Gwenhwyfar · 30/03/2019 17:05

"My dogs being off lead.

I've only ever met a couple of people annoyed at this"

So you did already know that some people don't like random dogs approaching them, but you impose them on people already.

Original poster
clairemcnam · 30/03/2019 17:10

BillyWig It is supposed to be sympathising. I know you are not stupid and can see your baby is screaming blue murder.

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BillywigSting · 30/03/2019 17:15

I know that, but in the heat of the sleep deprived moment (when rational thinking is somewhat scarce) it's immensely irritating.

I thought nothing of it before having dc. Now instead of saying 'someone's not happy' I tend to go with something along the lines of 'can I help?/do you need a hand'

Original poster
clairemcnam · 30/03/2019 17:16

But I have stopped saying it.
I speak less to strangers because of MN, It feels rude to ignore people all the time though.

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PurpleDaisies · 30/03/2019 17:16

asking people with kids if they are planning to have any more

This is really upsetting for those who want more but can’t

FlibbertyGiblets · 30/03/2019 17:17

The someone isn't happy thing is horrible. So sarcastic. Don't say anything, please.

buzzbobbly · 30/03/2019 17:18

Send a text message/WhatsApp/FB chat at any time outside pre-arranged hours.

Phone somebody without having scheduled and confirmed the call in writing, at least a week in advance.

Ring a person's doorbell. Ever.

FlibbertyGiblets · 30/03/2019 17:18

Oh sorry that is on your Stop List.

TheHumbleHawthorn · 30/03/2019 17:20

That you're not supposed to park in a parent and child space unless you have a child with you at the time. I'd always viewed them as generous sized spaces where I could park my Range Rover without worrying about it getting scratched.

Original poster
clairemcnam · 30/03/2019 17:21

It really isn't sarcastic. I just ignore women with screaming babies now, which seems so rude not to even acknowledge they are there.

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franke · 30/03/2019 17:21

I think you should continue talking to people in the bus queue.

ILikeyourHairyHands · 30/03/2019 17:23

I smoke. Which is akin to torturing kittens round these parts.