Am I ungrateful for this reaction to Mother's Day?

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Earlier in the week I told DH what I was getting my Mum as I got a discount code to share from the seller. He said for once he was sorted but couldn't tell me what it was as it's the same as his Mum.
Today we have gone out and he said " oh your gift is out for delivery so you won't get it !" I said can't you tell them to leave with a neighbour?
Just now a message cane from MIL thanking us for X gift. So now I know the gift as he didn't bother to tell her to not mention it and I probably won't get it on the day.
Just some flowers on the day would have been great. He said I'm ungrateful, I feel like the lack of care is an insult.

What is it

What is it?
Is it something you actually want?

Yeah your being ungrateful. He got you a gift even tho your not his mum!
Mothers day brings out the worst in people it really does!

Focus on celebrating the day with your children rather than gift grabbing.

He’s ordered a gift to be delivered. You are overreacting.

Yes, I think you are ungrateful tbh.
He didn't know his mum would ring and you would find out what the gift was.
He also possibly wasn't too sure when it was going to be delivered and likely thought you would be home. An oversight-yes maybe but a lack of care-no.
He is likely feeling insulted by your drama queen behavior.

Well that depends on the gift.

How old are your children?

Stop being so materialistic and enjoy mothers day for what it's should be. A lovely day spent y with your family.

Op I expect thought and effort on mothersday. Hope you enjoy your gift. It's disappointing the suprise has been ruined

So you’ll get it on Monday. Hardly a big deal, is it?

Oh good grief. Lack of care is an insult because he forgot to tell his mum not to mention the gift? Are you always this difficult?

Unless it is a thoughtless present you are being ungrateful and juvenile.

I don't think you're being ungrateful as such. It's not necessarily a day to fuss about, but yes if this is the one chance you get a year to relax, have gifts etc, then I can see why you might be disappointed by how it's worked out. However I don't think anybody has deliberately set out to hurt you, so I think you'll have to just shrug it off. It's nice he's made an effort to find you a gift even if it's not gone to plan.

He tried, he forgot about the possibility of his mum letting slip and may have got the delivery time wrong, that is all. He took more care than stumbling in with petrol station flowers at 5pm tomorrow.

Oh come on, ordering your mum something and then adding on same for wife is hardly making much effort at all!
And you make sure it arrives in time/in advance.

I get you. It feels like an 'oh that'll do for both of them' present, rather than thinking about you as an individual who has different likes and does not necessarily want to be treated the same as MIL. Would piss me off, too.
Other than that, you are being a bit easily offended. He tried to get it there in time for the day.

Good grief. Get over it.

Yes, you are.

Unless there is a massive back story.

Its hard to believe that this trivial non-event can seem like a big deal to anyone.

why are people so entitled over birthdays / mothers day and all the rest of it ? it comes across as grabby and juvenile to whinge and whine over this stuff. are you not shown love and affection the rest of the year and this is the ONE day it happens ?

Love the mix of opinions, my kids are both disabled and junior school age so can't buy gifts themselves. It's some cheese! I got a mum birthday card instead of Mother's Day last year, so he's got form...

YABU

Crikey, yes you are being ungrateful. You're not his mother so he could have easily not gotten you anything at all and just bought for his DM.

Cheese sounds a great gift though!

It's a bit disappointing but always keep in context.