Am I ungrateful for this reaction to Mother's Day?

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Earlier in the week I told DH what I was getting my Mum as I got a discount code to share from the seller. He said for once he was sorted but couldn't tell me what it was as it's the same as his Mum.
Today we have gone out and he said " oh your gift is out for delivery so you won't get it !" I said can't you tell them to leave with a neighbour?
Just now a message cane from MIL thanking us for X gift. So now I know the gift as he didn't bother to tell her to not mention it and I probably won't get it on the day.
Just some flowers on the day would have been great. He said I'm ungrateful, I feel like the lack of care is an insult.

So where is the cheese currently being stored? Not sure I'd eat it if it's not been in a fridge

It's OK, it's been stored Caerphilly.

So where is the cheese currently being stored? Not sure I'd eat it if it's not been in a fridge

Ah yeah, if it was out for delivery and it's not coming today the courier will have to hold it until at least Monday.

You'll most likely have a lot of spoiled cheese that you didn't really want in the first place!

Attaching some lovely water lilies to you and wishing you a happy mothers day xxx

I've never had so much interest in a thread! We won't actually be in next week so not sure when this cheese will arrive. Loving all the cheese puns.

I won’t have a mother’s dag tomorrow as my husband passed away. So there is no one to drag the kids out normally last minute to even get me a card. I won’t wake up miserable tomorrow though instead Mother’s Day is cancelled and it’s my children’s day instead. Yes you are being unreasonable.

My god, that package is going to stink!!!!

I Camembert the thought of that poor cheese waiting forlornly to be delivered.

Cheese don't insult the Op, we can discuss this like mature adults.

OP: my husband vomited into a bag, tied it with pink ribbon, and presented it to me for mothers day. Aibu to be disappointed?
Half of mumsnet: Yabvu, especially as he went to the trouble of having it gift wrapped too. You ungrateful cow.
10 percent of mumsnet: why did he choose pink ribbon? This isn't the 1950's you know!

poster Nuttyaboutnutella Sat 30-Mar-19 16:31:57
I'd be pretty cheesed off if I were you, OP.

Get it?

Sorry.

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Plagiarising my post of 15.22 after barely an hour?? That’s Gouda take the (cheese) biscuit.

Emmenthaly sure it was an honest mistake though, so I won’t be too Blue about it...

We won't actually be in next week so not sure when this cheese will arrive.

Am I the only one wondering how it’s going to be stored in the meantime? And just how ripe it will be when it finally gets to you, OP?

Do mums with children up to the age they can shop themselves really get no cards/ gifts?

No, he should be buying them at that age. My husband always bought the gifts for our boys to give me, it cant have been easy as he lost his own mum before we even had them, but he always did it. Now they’re bigger he gives them money and they can go to the shop themselves. It’s always just wee token gifts but it’s the thought that counts x

The cheese will be able to find its way to the house by itself if it isn't delivered soon!

Do mums with children up to the age they can shop themselves really get no cards/ gifts?
Single parent here. I got handmade cards when my DC was at nursery and infant school. Never expected gifts, for me mothers day is about spending time with my child and doing something special together or with family, not gifts.

@GreatDuckCookery strikeout is now a pain in the arse! You have to type ‘- -‘ with a space between the two hyphens, then go back and remove the spaces between the two dashes, otherwise they automatically join up into one big dash and it doesn’t work!

So because some mums dhs have died and others have walked out, those of us with dhs at home shouldn't expect anything from them?

It's my birthday tomorrow too so I expect gifts and attention. Yes I'm a grown up and I'm allowed to like Mother's Day and birthdays. Dh gets the same attention in his birthday and on Father's Day (and other days) because I love him and like doing nice things for him. Why wouldn't you want to do something nice for the one you love?

Why wouldn't you want to do something nice for the one you love? I think it depends on what makes that person feel loved. I don't want gifts or acts of service, I prefer quality time with loved ones, so that's what mothers day is about for me. Everyone's different so sometimes you need to tell people what you want.

Ah thanks Raging. Sounds complicated will need to practise that one.

@Rubusfruticosus I agree. I just want to have a day planned and time with my family without having to do jobs. For that to happen dh has to make it happen which is why I don't get how mnetters think dhs should do nothing. That's bs. If a mum likes gifts then get her a gift. Do something and make it seem like you want to do something rather than it being a chore.