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DC has just broken something of MIL's!

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 15:58

He's snapped her glasses Sad One of the arms has come off.

Not sure what to do... Or say. I don't really speak to her.

I come over a few times a week to let her dog out. I was unlocking the back door and I turn around and he has them in his hands!

What will I even say? Should I send a text now?

DH isn't going to be happy either.

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RainbowWaffles · 19/03/2019 18:08

Surely you just have to let MIL know and see what she says. I would be amazed if she wanted money to replace or fix them, I would never accept the money from a friend let alone a child. If she does then you can only tell her you are super skint, which she should know, and pay back in installments. It would be the last time I helped her out though if she asked for money.

ScarletBitch · 19/03/2019 18:08

Oh goodness calm down lol! Just get them repaired, tell her the truth, all is good.!

diddl · 19/03/2019 18:11

Any chance they were already broken & your son just picked the pieces up?

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 18:51

Just catching up on responses - I will update when DH is home as he is speaking to MIL to inform her of the situation.

Can I ask why people have reported me? I cannot see why... It isn't in the slightest bit a 'goady' thread etc

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jacquesjacques · 19/03/2019 18:56

I've just popped in to give you a bit of a virtual cuddle because you're clearly in a shit situation - both with this accident and financially - and some here haven't been very kind to you. I hope MIL is understanding and you manage to get it sorted as easily as possible, and I wish you the very best of luck job hunting my love.

Chin up WineThanksCake

BertrandRussell · 19/03/2019 18:59

Why didn’t you tell mil yourself? Christ knows what he’s going to say and what he’s going to report back!

RuthW · 19/03/2019 19:02

Snapped arms usually can't be repaired. I know from experience! No way would you claim on house insurance, my excess wouldn't be worth it and premiums would go up.

If it was my grqndson I would be livid but put it down to experience and go and but some more.

Petitprince · 19/03/2019 19:09

Can your husband do the talking? And the paying for them?

OrangeJuiceandArmchairs · 19/03/2019 19:17

This thread is full of horrid responses.

As some people have said the glasses weren't on her face at the time so she must be able to function without them.

Also toddler in a sling or backpack FFS your kid would never walk.

Petitprince · 19/03/2019 19:18

Sorry, my thread hadn't updates. Hope it's all ok. Frames are normally cheaper than lenses? (Mine are anyway). Could you pay it off a bit a week or with nice gestures (offer to do her ironing, cleaning, gardening etc in recompense)?

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 19:22

DH told her (they came home from work together).

She said "For fuck sake" quietly and was seething. When I asked how she said the for fuck sake, DH said she was quiet.

They aren't her only pair, the ones she is wearing on her face are her others. I think she usually leaves the pair in the car

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AnnieOH1 · 19/03/2019 19:24

Has gorilla glue been mentioned? I wore a pair for a year or more that were soldered on one arm (by me) because I absolutely needed them to drive anywhere. Once I had repaired them I didn't see the point in getting anything done further.

Ilove31415926535 · 19/03/2019 19:24

Fiver left til payday, or lost your job? Just trying to understand your situation OP, as those statements contradict each other.

Rollypoly100 · 19/03/2019 19:25

I second Gorilla glue and I think your DP should be a lot more supportive. It's bad enough accidentally breaking something and being made to feel really bad about it. It was just an accident.

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 19:27

Fiver left til payday, or lost your job? Just trying to understand your situation OP, as those statements contradict each other.

By payday I mean DH's.

It's usually okay. His salary covers the house, food, and bills. But only just. So even the slightest extra cost, think £10+, puts us in a very difficult time.

We feel very fortunate and comfortable when I'm working. I work so we have disposable and aren't caught short for any emergencies.

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Rollypoly100 · 19/03/2019 19:28

I think MIL also sounds an arse

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 19:28

Annie Can I ask how this works?

Sorry to sound dim but if something is glued, it's glued into place. How would it then have the flexibility to bend into the folded position of glasses?

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Justonemorepancake · 19/03/2019 19:31

It was an accident. If she's going to be a dick about it then tell her you can't go round there to help with the dog as you have DS with you and can't give a cast iron guarantee that accidents won't happen, as they are wont to do with small toddlers. When you have childcare for him you can help out again. That should help her feel a little more gracious.

Justonemorepancake · 19/03/2019 19:31

If it's snapped half way down the arm then that bit does not have flexibility. It folds at the hinges.

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 19:35

It's not snapped halfway down the arm, it's where the hinges are Sad

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Smoggle · 19/03/2019 19:39

It was an accident! You were doing them a favour and the baby broke granny's spare glasses.

In most families this would not be a big deal. Why is everyone so worried about everyone else's reaction?

Ginger1982 · 19/03/2019 19:45

She sounds horrible. It was an accident by her grandson for heaven's sake and your DH should be more supportive.

Justonemorepancake · 19/03/2019 19:47

Is it the hinge that's broken? That's easy to replace. If it's the plastic broken by the hinge - glue back to how it was. The hinge will still function

Easterbunnyiscomingsoon · 19/03/2019 19:50

Let dh pay. He should have been sorting out his half a dog.

BertrandRussell · 19/03/2019 20:02

Well, I’d probably swear if I discovered my glasses were broken. She didn’t swear at anyone or in the presence of a child. What did she say about replcing them?