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DC has just broken something of MIL's!

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 15:58

He's snapped her glasses Sad One of the arms has come off.

Not sure what to do... Or say. I don't really speak to her.

I come over a few times a week to let her dog out. I was unlocking the back door and I turn around and he has them in his hands!

What will I even say? Should I send a text now?

DH isn't going to be happy either.

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PoshPenny · 19/03/2019 16:14

Not much you can do other than apologise and offer to pay for the repair, even if that's going to be after payday. And make sure to remind your DC about not touching anything belonging to anyone else every single time in future.

finnmcool · 19/03/2019 16:15

OP what's done is done, it was an accident.
Your DH and MIL can be a pair of drama llamas and beat their chests in woe, it won't change anything.
Try not to get too upset, these things happen with children and in reality, what are either of them going to do to you?

LovingLola · 19/03/2019 16:17

Is your dc a toddler or a 10 year old ?

Inthetropics · 19/03/2019 16:18

OP, not sure what the backstory is, but any decent petson would be nice to you about it, so tge fact she will be fuming and you DH is pissed is not normal in my opinion...

picklemepopcorn · 19/03/2019 16:19

Ok, just checking DH isn't an arse.

All you can do is tell her, or leave her a note. Explain DS broke it before you even saw he had them.

Ask how much it will cost to repair so you can save up.

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 16:20

And make sure to remind your DC about not touching anything belonging to anyone else every single time

He's 16 months

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WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 19/03/2019 16:20

If she can't read without her glasses I'm afraid you can't just shrug this off and say you'll pay when you can - they will need to be fixed asap.

However, if your DH gets fucked off with you I'd tell him he can sort his own mother's dog out from now on.

It was an accident, how much of an avoidable accident we don't know without further details.

Dinosforall · 19/03/2019 16:21

A quick google tells me that Michael Kors frames are about £200 (and not available from Specsavers) - maybe take that into account in your apology!

More helpfully, could she perhaps claim on her house insurance, and you just pay the excess?

Hiphopopotamous · 19/03/2019 16:21

Hmm, a 16 month old should be supervised by an adult in someone else's house...

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 16:25

Hmm, a 16 month old should be supervised by an adult in someone else's house...

He was. I turned my back to him to sort the back door (which is in the living room), and get the dog.

I turned around again and he'd done it. I didn't hear or see a thing otherwise

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Whichhouseisbest · 19/03/2019 16:25

Hiphopopotamous well yes, but accidents happen!

NewSchoolNewName · 19/03/2019 16:28

All you can do is tell her, apologise, and either arrange for them to be repaired or offer to pay her back for the repair when you can afford it.

My local optician (not Specsavers) has charged us for similar glasses repairs before, if they need to order in spare parts, but the cost of repairs has typically been far less than the cost of new frames.

caughtinanet · 19/03/2019 16:32

All you can do is apologise, offer to pay and see what she says.

DobbyTheHouseElk · 19/03/2019 16:33

Any chance they were already broken?? I can’t see how a toddler would have the strength to quickly snap a pair of glasses.

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 19/03/2019 16:34

I would also say that if you are that skint then you can't afford to have your toddler wandering around so keep him in the buggy.

BertrandRussell · 19/03/2019 16:35

Your dp’s reaction- and how he says your mil will react are not normal.

TheBossOfMe · 19/03/2019 16:37

If you don't start teaching him at 16 months, he won't learn.

LovingLola · 19/03/2019 16:38

Any chance they were already broken?? I can’t see how a toddler would have the strength to quickly snap a pair of glasses.

Really ???

dreichuplands · 19/03/2019 16:38

You can only apologise and offer to pay when you have the money, she may have accidental damage on her insurance.
My DC managed to pull down the curtain rail at my MIL's new flat years ago. I was mortified. She is very house proud. I stuck it back up again so firmly it didn't twitch again.
These things happen OP.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 19/03/2019 16:39

It was an accident.

You apologise and offer to get them repaired. Sell something if you need to.

After that, it shouldn't be an issue at all.

If they're 'off' with you after that, it's their issue, not yours!

BlackCatSleeping · 19/03/2019 16:41

Just apologise and say that you would really like to replace them but are really broke at the moment so can't, but you are so sorry. That's all you can do really.

Flowers as it sucks being broke

dementedpixie · 19/03/2019 16:41

Michael Kors is a brand so probably not going to get a free repair. All you can do is apologise.

LeesPostersAreInFrames · 19/03/2019 16:41

I'm so sorry OP. As a glasses wearer, this is a big deal, her means to see has been broken. I'd be upset as I'm so helpless and feel vulnerable without mine. Thank goodness she is clearly out of the house in a different pair or doesn't need this pair 24/7, so it's not her one and only pair but it might be her only reading pair. I'm sorry I don't come bearing better news but thought it fair to give you an honest account.

You will need to facilitate the repair - take them and or her to the shop to get them done.

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backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 16:42

I would also say that if you are that skint then you can't afford to have your toddler wandering around so keep him in the buggy.

Really? Keep him in a buggy in a house?

If you don't start teaching him at 16 months, he won't learn.

He got a telly off. What more of 'teaching him' do you want? If I saw him with them, he would've been told they're not his and taken off of him.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 19/03/2019 16:42

Well you can’t afford to repair them, can you? So if she / he are going to get arsey about it, then you don’t have to let the dog out anymore. Unless her financial situation is as dire as yours (don’t expect it is with Michael Kors glasses), she really should understand. I also think your dhs reaction isn’t normal. Accidents happen. I hope he will not be reactive when something is broken in your home.

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