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DC has just broken something of MIL's!

180 replies

backmassageplease · 19/03/2019 15:58

He's snapped her glasses Sad One of the arms has come off.

Not sure what to do... Or say. I don't really speak to her.

I come over a few times a week to let her dog out. I was unlocking the back door and I turn around and he has them in his hands!

What will I even say? Should I send a text now?

DH isn't going to be happy either.

OP posts:
TrixieFranklin · 19/03/2019 17:29

Does your DP always treat you like this?

Meandmetoo · 19/03/2019 17:29

Ok then soup Confused

Op - try gorilla glue, it's been absolutely fine for me on everything I've used it for.

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 19/03/2019 17:29

I suppose I'm focussing on the person whose glasses have been broken by a child whose parents apparently can't pay to get them fixed. As a glasses-wearer I'm taking that quite seriously.

And the OP in her responses is ignoring anything to do with her DP.

teyem · 19/03/2019 17:30

So you're doing a favour for your mil and your DH and they are both going to be dicks to you over this accident? Pair of bastards, maybe they should look after their own bloody dog.

kingfisherblue33 · 19/03/2019 17:33

If she goes to Specsavers they usually do a 'buy one get one free' offer so she should have other specs.

But why don't you speak to MIL, OP? And why are you going round to her house to let dh's dog out?? If your MIl will be 'fuming' over this, don't go to her house and let dh look after his ex-dog.

You focus on yourself and dc and finding a new job. I hope things looks up soon for you.

mummamaker · 19/03/2019 17:33

Wow there's some really horrible people on here , I can only assume they have never been near a 16 month old .

Apologise and offer to pay when you can afford even if it's in instalments , if mil wants to still be arsey then let her , you can't do anything else

HollowTalk · 19/03/2019 17:36

There are some very strange posts on here.

OP, was your MIL out at work? If so, does she do a job where she needs classes? If so (again) then she will have a spare pair as she'd be wearing a different set at work.

I'm sorry you're not working. What's the job situation like near you?

Ariela · 19/03/2019 17:36

I'd be getting the superglue out personally. If it's a straight snap, then it might glue together neatly and barely show.

cupoftea84 · 19/03/2019 17:37

I'm confused by people giving you a hard time OP. I don't think you've done anything wrong.

If they kick off say you can't do the dog anymore because you simply can't go there on your own with the toddler, too risky and you can't afford to replace things . You're doing them a favour so they need to chill out.

Ariela · 19/03/2019 17:37

Either that or blame the dog for knocking them off wherever they were in excitement to get to the door.

Back2Fronting · 19/03/2019 17:38

Your DH sounds horrible. Why can’t he be more supportive of his wife?

Also, if your MIL is going to be “fuming” because her grandchild accidentally broke something whilst her DIL was doing her a favour then she needs to get a grip.

But, really OP. Don’t drink squash. Nasty and bad for you. Plain water is much better for your health.

FrozenMargarita17 · 19/03/2019 17:38

Christ, welcome to Mumsnet where all parents keep children in buggies and never allow them to touch anything until they're at school.

I think your dh's reaction is very unfair, considering you are doing them both a favour.

Marcipex · 19/03/2019 17:39

Accidents happen. My toddlers were used to people who wore glasses, and knew they mustn't touch them. If no one at home wears them, they haven't learnt that.
It's a pity you told your DH if he's that unreasonable. You could have binned them on the way home, and no one any the wiser.
But I don't know why you are doing favours for people if that's how they treat you. Toddlers occasionally do damage, while exploring the world.
It's not ideal, but he's too little to scold.

FuzzyPuffling · 19/03/2019 17:41

I leave my glasses at home if I am out wearing my (prescription) sunglasses. Both/either pair is absolutely crucial to my everyday life. I'd be devastated (and blind) if they got broken.

You have to 'fess up and pay up. I'd hope your DH would fund them; his mother, his child.

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 19/03/2019 17:41

welcome to Mumsnet where all parents keep children in buggies and never allow them to touch anything until they're at school.

said no-one on this thread.

LarryGreysonsDoor · 19/03/2019 17:45

Ex Specsavers lab tech here.

Is it a break across the middle of the arm or on the hinge?

If it’s the hinge then you need to take them to an optician and see what they can do.
If it’s across the arm then first of all I doubt he broke it, arms are very strong and not something easily broken by an adult, let alone a toddler.
Secondly it means that the hinge isn’t bent, an opticans might have a matching arm.

Find out where she got them from and contact them. Some optician offer extra insurance which she might have taken.

However, I agree with other posts that unless she is a contact lens wearer she clearly doesn’t need them that much if she didn’t take them with her.

GreenHouseKeeping · 19/03/2019 17:45

Sorry; but I don't think he should've been in either buggy or sling whilst I just quickly shut the door, inches from where he was really

He broke something expensive though, that you can't afford to replace.

There seems to be a disconnect between your opinion and reality.

Mememeplease · 19/03/2019 17:47

A nice person would realise that it was an accident that happened whilst you were doing a favour.
You should offer to replace as soon as you can save some money. She, knowing your financial situation should refuse your offer.

If she does want you to pay then she would go down in my estimation. And if you do continue dog sitting personally I wouldn't be inclined to then make sure that she knows she is responsible for toddler proofing her home.

Tell Dh that if he says anything more about an accident then he can bloody well sort his own dog out in future as you'll be too busy, what with having to supervise your toddler to prevent what could happen with any toddler when you take their eyes off them for a millisecond.

FuzzyPuffling · 19/03/2019 17:47

If she goes to Specsavers they usually do a 'buy one get one free' offer so she should have other specs.

This only applies if you have basic single vision lenses. My lenses are complicated and therefore the "get one free" offer would still cost around £300. Only the frames would be free.

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LilyMumsnet · 19/03/2019 17:48

Hello everyone

We've had a number of reports from people concerned about this thread so, as we usually do in these circs, we're putting our heads round the door with some important reminders.

Right now we can't see any evidence to indicate that the OP isn't above board – if we did, we'd remove the thread straight away. But the truth is that, sadly, we at MNHQ can't know with 100% certainty that any poster is genuine, no matter who they are or how long they have been here. As frustrating as it is, we're not able to vouch for anyone here.

So we always ask everyone to remember that not everyone on the internet is who they say they are – and remind folk not to give more to another poster, either financially (in cash or gifts) or emotionally (in time or care and support) than they'd be prepared to lose if things went wrong.

Sorry to hijack your thread briefly there, OP – we really hope you get it all sorted soon.

pictish · 19/03/2019 17:48

OP please ignore those on here who are determined to make it a matter of negligence and stick the boot in...they come on here to pretend. It’s their problem. Keep him in a sling/buggy/never let him go even if you need two hands to do something...it’s nonsense and you know it is. Dismiss.

I remember ds1 picking up a pair of £180 sunglasses I had treated myself to when a bit flush and had looked after for years and snapping the leg off. I had absentmindedly put them down for a couple of minutes and that was that. He was about the same age.

In this instance you can only apologise. Mil is allowed to be cross of course...but not long term. These things happen. Yes they do!

TellerTuesday4EVA · 19/03/2019 17:58

Is everyone missing the fact that MIL was out without wearing these glasses.... if she's out without them it's obviously not taking away 'her means to see' unless out somewhere stumbling about blindly. She's either wearing contacts or another pair... in a glasses wearer I have more than one pair.

They're reaction to this is bizarre... accidents happen around toddlers... if this was DM or even MIL they would say not to worry... obviously I would apologise though

TellerTuesday4EVA · 19/03/2019 17:59

*their

GreenHouseKeeping · 19/03/2019 18:00

Keep him in a sling/buggy/never let him go even if you need two hands to do something

Actually, this is exactly what I did. I consciously avoided situations in which this wouldn't be possible.

In this situation, it would have been a sling, a buggy, or pushing back on DH's request that I let the dog out - why can't he do it?

PosterPostingPosterishly · 19/03/2019 18:06

I'm so skint right now that I'm having to be careful how much orange squash I use and add a bigger water to squash ratio. *

Can't you just drink water?

misses point

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