Dh feeling a bit hurt, as his mum n dad Are going to the U.K. seaside for Xmas

[Lardlizard]

And won’t be coming here in Xmas day

I thjnk he feels a bit rejected and can’t jnderstand why they don’t go another time
( both retired)
And I think he feels a bit like they don’t give a shit about their grandchild’s as they are choosing to not spend Xmas with grandchildren

Would you be upset if your parents did this

Lardlizard. This year I honestly think I might. I've earned it.

'TweenXmas'n'NewYear = TwiXmas. I assume. Horrible

OP - I think by the time they are grandparents, they have had enough of 'pleasing other people' and 'doing it for the kids' and are now doing what the fuck they want? Why is your DP so upset that they are doing what they want to do, rather than what he wants them to do?

I'm not a grandparent, but I think once you have your own dc, you have christmas as your own family, rather than knocking yourselves out by running about all over the country picking up relatives, shopping and cooking like crazy, making sure everyone knows where they are supposed to be at any time, rather than, ya-know, enjoying the holiday? So many on here seem to think it's a time ONE DAY to be all things to all relatives.

Sue51,in all honestly why don’t you then ?

He hasn’t given them any attitude but I can tell he feels a bit sad about it

When your retired you can go on holiday at anytime
So they are choosing to do it then

They have also said don’t get lumbered with gran and that she will have to go to one of those old folks Christmas dinners

WTF is 'twixmas'

I don't blame them at all.

Your DH needs to grow up really

Blimey they must be really keen in they are booking it now

Come back in November.

I’m going to defend The Secret Garden. What made it great was its portrayal of two neglected children. At a time when most books classified children as angelic or demonic, Colin and Mary were shown as neither - they were not inherently bad, but rather damaged by neglectful adults. Dickson OTOH, was irritating. Interestingly too, the working class parents were shown to be better parents than the upper class ones.

I’m with the PP on the subject of the Robin. I’ve always felt that the sanctimonious schoolgirl would have become a nun of the most sadistic variety.

Aargh - wrong thread

'And twixmas is a break between Christmas and new year'

Apologies just read this

What a grim little word with faux meaning

You seem to use it ALOT

Perhaps you use many of them and that's why they are disappearing.

I’ve only used it to explain what to means to people that don’t know

Yes....they can go away whenever they like.
But they want to spend a lovely Christmas alone in the quiet.

Praps they want some peace and quiet and not do what someone else wants them to

Oh come on your husband is a grown man he is in the huff his poor parents have done nothing wrong and this holiday doesn't mean they are rejecting grandchildren, bloody hell what a hohaa about nothing.

If it is a one-off then I would not be offended, had my grandparents done this when alive (or indeed my parents when both were alive).

Seems a long time ahead to be thinking about December though.

Lardlizard. I've hosted all christmas days at my home out of habit and my adult children have come to expect it. The last few times I've found it a bit wearing and have suggested lunch at a restaurant which was met by a chorus of disapproval (not from DH). There is a sense of entitlement going on and I now think I want to put my and DH's wishes first.

Sue51, fair enough I can get that
Esp if they don’t help at all
We usually host Xmas day so all shoppings done and food cooked etc
Dh is an only so no siblings on his side

They also sent o thjnk we should just leave an 92 year old to go to some sort of old folks Christmas dinner
The type of Christmas dinners that old folks that have no family go to

Might be able to thjnk of something different to do this yet perhaps
We will still have most it at home as kids will want to do there presents
And hve Christmas diner etc
But perhaps I could think of an idea that’s different

They said don't feel obligated. They are right.

You really want to vilify them.

Not at all, it really is there choice at the end of the day
I’m not intesred in vilifying them in the slightest

Just think it’s Not great to leave a 92 year old alone for Xmas
But some people do view it as just another day

If they don’t usually bother with their son and gc, it can’t come as that much of surprise?

Most mnetters would be over the moon at this situation!

Your husband could invite his gran for Christmas could he not ?

Yeah It’s not a total suprise

If your husband’s gran is nearby, have her over for the day. I would give anything to spend a day with my grandmothers, who are both gone now.