Dh feeling a bit hurt, as his mum n dad Are going to the U.K. seaside for Xmas

[Lardlizard]

And won’t be coming here in Xmas day

I thjnk he feels a bit rejected and can’t jnderstand why they don’t go another time
( both retired)
And I think he feels a bit like they don’t give a shit about their grandchild’s as they are choosing to not spend Xmas with grandchildren

Would you be upset if your parents did this

Is Twixmas like Turkey and Tinsel. My DGF used to love his annual T&T trip

You do know that it's FEBRUARY AND 10 MONTHS TO SODDING CHRISTMAS???

I would love to go away from Christmas and it sounds like your inlaws want to escape the drama llama comments and to have a relaxing day away from overhyped children. Good for them.

Ha ha sorry but this is actually a slap in the face to you all. They hated last Xmas and have decided while the memory is fresh to book something completely different next year. However, you have to divorce the idea that they hated Xmas from them hating you. Xmas puts a certain type of pressure on people - especially people that don't like stress and pressure. Our IL don't even come visit us at all over Xmas despite us having room to put them up. Despite us being the only part of the family on good terms with smil. Despite me and 3 kids loving Xmas. However it doesn't mean they don't love GC. - I would be more concerned they don't want to look after their mum at Xmas. That's harsh. Unless there is a back story of other children not helping out and leaving it all to them all year and at Xmas. Anyway. Pull up your big girl pants. Wish them well. And do your own thing.

Tell him to get a bloody grip!

1. ITS FEBRUARY!!
2. They have suffered enough! They've served their time. Now they get to do what they want when they want.
3. This is no shun on him or your children. They just want a nice change.

Tell him to stop being a child and be happy and not to mention this for another 9 months.

Sue51 why don’t you then ?

A very strange reaction by your DH. How old is he? 12? His parents are entitled to do what they want. Also have no idea what twixmas is.

Yes user I think hats what dh is thinking because he said after we got home, Pernod he should have gone and collected gran

I do think it’s mainy to escape gran

At least we have plenty of notice

He’s also a bit stressed about work stuff so that might be affecting him too

My Grandmother (late 80's) does this most years. She thoroughly enjoys it. No the weather isn't significantly better than anywhere else in the UK but it's a change of scene & 4/5 days of all meals provided.

They've booked it so your DH has 10 months to pull himself together.

Honestly Christmas is just one day. Plenty of other days to do things as a family

And twixmas is a break between Christmas and new year

How old is your DH? This sounds like a teenager complaint . His parents don't have to spend Christmas with him. He should focus on having a lovely Christmas with you

And twixmas is a break between Christmas and new year

It's really not.

it's a made-up word like Crinmbo, holibobs and so on.

Or according to Urban Dictionary:

"'twixmas: capitalist pigs idea to squeeze more profit from christianity and abusing the poor minimum wagers to slave away their holiday season. "

Holibobs should come with a trigger warning

Oh yeah gods.

Yes, your in-laws should go on holibobs at twixmas not ruin crimbo for your little famalam [not envy]

It’s not twixmas it’s the Christmas/ New Year perineum.

They are whole grown adults and can do whatever the hell they want for Christmas.

Who the fuck says twixmas?!!!!

Twixmas is a couple of kids who've nicked a twix bar from the fridge and are secretly scoffing it in their garden.

My ideal Christmas day:
Go to the coast in a campervan with dh. Go for a bracing walk on the beach and headland. Stop for a cup of tea from a flask and eat a few sandwiches. Go back to the campervan for some hot soup and spend the night playing card games and scrabble and then sleep, all cosy and warm inside with the wind and rain outside.

I won't be able to do this for at least another 15 years due to the kids being here and having to cater for them, but when they've grown up I'd hope to do Christmas my way at least once before I die and that I won't be called selfish or whatever for doing so.

BTW, it doesn't have to be sunny for it to be a nice, enjoyable break.

Twixmas is usually a lot cheaper too
Not that, that’s an issue for them

Stop saying Twixmas.

Do you get to eat loads of Twixes?

What's holibobs?

SnuggyBuggy a twee made up word for holiday in the style of the twee made up words "twixmas" and "Chrimbo".

Seriously be pleased for them

No wonder they want to get away with your DH’s demands and attitude - they’ve probably played along with it long enough