Has anyone ever fixed their procrastinating, self-sabotaging self? I'm so annoyed at me.

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I am fed up making my own life more difficult by sitting doing stuff like this, instead of just getting the fuck on with what needs done and then having time to have fun.

Even having read this about why i do it, i still go back to the same patterns.

waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

Any magic tips for not being a total arse to yourself?

I NEED to email my boss regarding some training I’m supposed to be doing but I’m putting it off and off because I feel anxious about it.

Did it!

I want to write a massive post about how much I identify with you all but would only be using it as an excuse not to do what I should actually be doing

Suffice to say I have heaps to do, the deadline is approaching and I have done...nothing. Am only capable of the basics today (everyone fed, no one dead) but like the idea of keeping some sort of diary and us all spurring each other on.

This is me.
I know part of the problem is that I am a bit bored with my job so am coasting a bit.placemarking for another way to procrastinate..

Hippy mama, I hope you are getting the removers to pack? Packing a 4 bed house cost me £300 on top of the removal costs. There were 100 boxes to pack. There's no way I could have done it.

@BrassicaBabe i looked up the page of a counsellor and didn't even get in touch yet. Dies that make you feel better?

Still to do today:

Put away the washing i sorted 10-15 mins
Get rid of big pile of recycling

Yay @ootscoot ✊✊

This is me. Totally. I don't know why I do it. I just need to stop. I was never like this before-juggled a full time job with two babies and a long commute. Now the kids are a teens and a bit more self sufficient-I still work full time but less commute-I just can't keep On top of the house and the job and everything else-don't have the get up and go anymore. And it's not because I don't have time-I do-I'm now divorced so I have thee nights a week with sadly no kids. The house should be sparkling!

I've always been like this. 🙈

Same! I struggle with this too, I think it's connected to anxiety. I've got one thing that sometimes helps me, I tell myself I don't have to clean the whole kitchen I just have to put away 3 things. Or read all my emails, I only have to read 3, or file 3 bits of paperwork, or throw out 3 gone off vegetables from the fridge, or whatever. Sometimes I really just do the 3 things, sometimes I keep going because starting was the hard bit.

I've just put the washing away. It's been sitting in a mountainous pile for over a week and really annoying me every time I look at it. I would feel good about it but dp has just put another huge load in so I'll soon be back to square one. That's half the problem with stuff like the housework for me-the Groundhog Day nature of it.

Interestingly I’ve just finished an online CBT course for anxiety and I see a lot of the procrastination issues come up whilst doing it. I definitely think it’s related!

Oh god this is so me. I’m currently lying down watching BBC knowing I have to get up to go get my dinner, so what do I do instead?

Go on mumsnet.

I've been meaning to reply to this thread and haven't 😂 milly I'm liking the three time I'm going to try that!

My coping strategies for my procrastination.

A big list. Pomodoro technique. Audio books - only to be listened too whilst doing house or other "brain easy" chores. reporting progress / celebrate success with supportive friend.

Hi all I am a massive procrastinator!! Sometimes I can get started on things but can't finish (craft projects), it's like I have an idea but just can't see it through.

Other times I just can't get started on something, things like cleaning the house, sorting and tidying I can put off for ages. Mainly because I just can't be arsed, I don't enjoy these jobs, even though I know how good I will feel once I've done them. I think partly with the sorting and tidying it's because it's not just one job - there's the going through wardrobes/cupboards/random boxes of crap/piles of papers, then you end up with the piles you've sorted (keep, chuck, charity). And you've got to do something with all 3 of those piles. I can sort stuff out but getting the resulting piles out if my house can take weeks and longer!

DH and I are procrastinators in different ways - he can't buy or do anything without researching it to the nth degree and creating a spreadsheet (while browsing bike parts online), whereas I am just lazy and don't get round to starting/thinking about things. Between us it can take years to make big decisions like moving house/getting renovations done/having children!

Read the Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin - it covers different personality types and how to motivate them (i.e. motivate yourself)

Eg if you are an Obliger, you need outer accountability to force you to act - e.g. your boss giving you a deadline, your trainer making you stick to a workout plan etc. So you need to find other ways to make yourself accountable where these hard deadlines aren't in place (e.g. if you want to write a novel tell your mum/best friend you will send her a new chapter of the rough draft once a month, and to hassle you if you miss the deadline, things like that) Just an idea, it may help

I've found my tribe!

My problem is concentration, or lack of it. I find I'm much better at certain times of th day. If I get off to a good controlled start at work, I'm good until late morning. Then I can gear up again with an hours to go - if there's a deadline, I'm a pocket rocket.

Social media - no one has mentioned this but I simply faff about on Facebook and instangram to my hearts content - I made a 2019 resolution that I only browse in the eves as it wasted my momentum at work.

Priorities - I'm great at eg sorting out kids admin, school trips etc. I also help my elderly mum out with eg her banking, online food shopping. But I nearly missed my cars MOT last month. Typical.

I'm seeking solace in this thread that I am not alone in the faffing about in my life. I would be so much more productive!

Procrastination is the thief of time who knew!

I joined a gym. I find that it helps keep me healthy during the winter time. I also plan on going on runs during the summer if I physically feel like doing so. I used to have a exercise ball and workout DVDs that were specifically for pregnant women too. Post pregnancy they were so helpful. As a child I went to exercise classes at my local leisure centre in the water. I love water workouts.

I was chatting to the mums at the school gate the other day and we were just chatting about our day. One of the mums said ‘I did all my housework then went out’
That concept is so alien to me. How can anyone do all their housework in one morning and how can ALL of it be done? Isn’t there just lots more to do? I can’t ever imagine saying I did all my housework.

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I totally do this with the apps/mn.

Pumpkin anyone?

God me too.

I'm totally focused on studying here as you can see. But at least I've started....