I think I'm dying of the peri menopause

[MorningsEleven]

I've had kids, labour, c sections - one crash- an endometrioma the size of a jaffa orange on my ovary, an operation to remove the ovary and several paper cuts 😉

I went to bed this afternoon because the cramping and the flooding and the clots and the fucking anxiety and sleepless nights have ground me down. I've got a migraine aura and I'm just so bloody angry that my fertility can't gently fade away with a whimper.

I've always been the "get your bodyform and go roller skating in white jeans" type but I can't do this. DH gave me a hot water bottle, he's on my good list

If anyone has any advice, chocolate, chips, wine, bread, cheese, weight loss tips, similar peri distress please come share.

You have my sympathies, OP. I've been the same these last 18 months or so. But just as I decided that's it's HRT for me, everything has died down again.

And from talking to others I've learned that this is what happens. You have symptoms for a while then they go away.

But if you're really struggling and it's affecting your quality of life, then I'd suggest you visit your GP.

Sorry you're feeling so rough Op, sounds awful. Sending and hope you feel better soon.

I've had 4 DC including a stillbirth, 2 sections, cervical cancer, have horrific scar tissue/lesions and a tilted "boggy" uterus that is a effing nightmare to get a Mirena taken out of and put into but I can't function without. Add in the night sweats and brain fog, I'm seriously losing the plot. I'm 48, and around 6 months into feeling like this. The anxiety is the worst, I've never felt like this in my life. GP won't entertain HRT as I'm overweight and had cervical cancer; wants me to go onto anti-depressants which is a road I refuse to go down.

It's like Mother Natures last effing joke she gets to play. I'm tempted to go to bed too and stop there until it's all over. Hope you feel better soon

Catniss that's terrible, no one should have to go through that much.

I've a feeling- having had the endometrioma and adhesions in my fallopian tubes - that the endo is raising it's ugly head. I've had a week of pain across my c section scars and I'm not sleeping.

My concern with HRT is that oral contraception gives me migraines and, on balance, I'd rather this.

I've heard similar Tea that everything evens out and then you're hit with a period that's off the wall bad. So much to look forward to.

Thanks slipways There's a chickpea soup on the hob and I've bought some seven seed bread and proper nice cheese so I'm set up with salt, fat, carbs and a glass of wine.

Just fancied a whinge. Oh to be a bloke with their simple bodies. I'm telling myself it's because they're the inferior species 😁

I’m peri too. My blood results are back today but doctor wants to see me to discuss and of course I can’t get an appointment for over a week. I just feel hugely disengaged from life. It makes me sad that I’m not the woman I was even 9 months ago.

Oh for sure. I feel shit, I look shit and I'm struggling to accept this next stage of life.

How can you tell when it is peri-menopause? I suspect I am except for the fact that my sodding period turns up every month with a vengeance. Flooding, shite sleep and anxiety relapse. The night sweats have eased off, thank fuck, but I am a semi-permanent hormonal mess

eventually it will finish & suddenly no more periods -for me perimenopause was far worse than menopause ( menopause was a doddle - hot flushes yes but nothing compared to that :) I celebrated when I realized that they had finished! So just remember soon this wont be a problem:)

My periods are getting more frequent. I think I'll reach the point when of getting to a 3 day cycle and my uterus will spontaneously combust.

There’s a lot of information on the menopause boards. Hrt is a lower dose of hormones than the pill.

It was the thing that made the difference for me.

Exercise helps.

I’ve not been diagnosed as peri, and I’m not 40 yet but I’m experiencing everything you’re describing: hideous period pain, very clotted blood, debilitating anxiety, exhaustion, insomnia and night sweats. Think it might be starting 😔

for everyone. Our bodies are amazing, but the prestige comes with super high maintenance.

Mine got more frequent too- really heavy, a fortnight apart. Then I skipped one. Then had the occasional light period. Then I had long gaps and short gaps, light and heavy, short and long- all over the ship, basically. Now it's been 5 months, so fingers crossed...

Can I join?

I have close together and then far apart bleeding,night sweats and high anxiety

Feel like I am losing the plot!

The indecision omg.

I am 46, please tell me this wont go on for years

Op, I implore you to try HRT. It changed my life. I was suffering horribly with anxiety (which I had NEVER had before), terrible sleep, bleeding, etc. I've been on HRT since last summer and it's been AMAZING. There is no reason to suffer like this.

Aqua tell us about hrt more pl

My mum had hrt & then at her first mammogram (aged 50) was found to have a grade 1 tumour. Sorry no hrt for me

Mum had it removed & still going strong aged 73

@MorningsEleven I got terrible headaches with normal HRT (can't remember which one), but had no problems with bio identical HRT. Worth looking into?

Unrelated to the Peri menopause question, I had similar endo, ovary removed, heavy bleeding blah blah and my mirena was a game changer for me. I had begged for a hysterectomy and my gynae wasn't keen so I agreed to try a mirena

OP have you considered HRT other than orally? If you used the patch or gel for estrogen and combined it with the Mirena coil it might help with migraine aura and I went from having horrible cloth periods to no bleeding whatsoever when I had the coil fitted.

Google Youtube Eric Berg - loads of videos on menopause and oestrogen dominance - the man is a God! He has changed my life - no drugs, just a supplement called DIM - anxiety, night sweats, borderline depression, no energy, horrendous acne gone within 3 weeks of taking it. I had thought peri menopause was due to oestrogen deficiency but it's due to excess oestrogen - who knew! check him out seriously - wonderful advice and keeps the drug companies at bay.

Forgot about my periods! I would go 3 months with none, then a really heavy one that would last 10 days, clots etc. Since being on DIM I'm ha ving a 2 day light period every month with no cramping. I'm 46 btw.

🌺🍷🍰 to all! It’s been the bouts of despair here, and the waves of random symptoms (such variety! A new one every few months! Yay!) So, most recent period - a half-hearted one at that - was October last year, so 3 months ago. I’m watching and waiting to see what happens next with that.

I agree with Aqua. I think I would have lost my job, all my friends, and possibly my husband without HRT. It’s a bit different for me as I had an early menopause (I was 38 when it started) so it’s more important to take HRT. But it is a game changer.

I recently messed up my prescription and had a week off it. I felt my mood plummet after a couple of days, my night sweats came back, and even the weird aches in my forearms started. I’ve been back on it for a fortnight and i’m Feeling better again.

The night sweats are getting me down. I wake up shivering & soaked in sweat. Pjs soaked, sheet & duvet cover soaked. The bedroom smells of damp. I’m waiting to see breast clinic (suspect fibroadenomas again) so gp not keen on HRT, rather tamoxifen. Fuck knows what that’ll do to me.

@Eloisedublin123 I am on a very low dose birth control pill. It has worked miracles. I had a tubal ligation 19 years ago so obviously don't need birth control to prevent pregnancy, but it has totally evened me out to where I should be. No more anxiety, no hot flashes, no sleepless nights, no hideous irregular bleeding. The myth of increased cancer risk is NOT TRUE.