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My wife is dying

620 replies

SanJunipero · 13/01/2019 01:26

My beautiful, wonderful wife is only 33 and I'm sitting next to her bed in the hospice tonight watching her die. She's had cancer for a long time and I knew this was coming, but it's so very hard to watch.

OP posts:
TheLittleDogLaughed · 14/01/2019 06:00

Stay strong ❤️

MidnightAura · 14/01/2019 06:18

I hope you have real life support too. You are both so brave. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Betsy86 · 14/01/2019 06:29

Thinking of you xx

minmooch · 14/01/2019 06:38

I'm so sorry. My son died from cancer aged 18. He too was immensely brave. I didn't want him to leave me yet I couldn't bear for him ho suffer any more.

I hope her passing, when it comes, is peaceful. It will comfort you in the future that you were with her at this time.

Strength and love to you x

tinytemper66 · 14/01/2019 06:51

I have just found this thread xxx
You are both strong and brave. 💐

mygrandchildrenrock · 14/01/2019 06:54

Love and hugs Flowers

LikeACowsOpinion · 14/01/2019 06:55

It's just so unfair.

I'm sorry OP. The love for your wife radiates through your writing; I hope her passing is peaceful.
You are in my thoughts and prayers Thanks

yawning801 · 14/01/2019 07:24

Like many other posters, you were in my thoughts as I woke up this morning. You will be in my thoughts all day Flowers

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 14/01/2019 07:25

You are both in my thoughts Flowers

itssquidstella · 14/01/2019 07:59

@SanJunipero you are all in my thoughts x

Chewinggumwalk · 14/01/2019 08:33

Words are so inadequate at a time like this, OP. That confusion of reality and nightmare; feeling normal and feeling bewildered and devastated; it’s so hard. Thinking of you Flowers

SimplySteve · 14/01/2019 08:40

@minmooch I'm so sorry for the loss you endured, we should never have to bury our children.

So sorry and love to everyone who has lost someone in this way.

My thoughts, love and empathy are being sent to you @SanJunipero 💖💖

MulticolourMophead · 14/01/2019 08:54

You are all still in my thoughts today. I hope your wife's passing is as peaceful as possible. 💐

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 14/01/2019 09:28

She probably didn’t mean to say that, she’s probably a bit confused.

minmooch Flowers

justilou1 · 14/01/2019 10:13

Oh Sweetie, that must be awful to hear... I'm so sorry. You are helping her, and you must know this. I'm glad you fell asleep for a wee bit. She probably doesn't even know what help she needs right now. Both of my parents became panicky and agitated at times when they seemed lucid, but I am not entirely sure how lucid they actually were when I look back. My own exhaustion made it hard to know, also. I'm still here thinking of you both. Lending some strength from Australia. I was looking at our stars tonight hoping that you get to see them shine as brightly soon, @SanJunipero and take some time to feel everything you need to feel. x

itssquidstella · 14/01/2019 10:23

That was a lovely post, @justilou1. @SanJunipero I hope your wife's passing is peaceful - take comfort in the fact that she will know you're there even if she doesn't seem aware.

ChippingIn · 14/01/2019 10:31

Oh love, that must have been hard to hear 💐. But honestly, with the drugs, people can say all kinds of things, don’t take it to heart.

She told you how she didn’t know how she’d have coped without you, that she loves you. She smiled when you told her that your DS was asleep across the hallway. She knows you are doing everything you can. She knows DS will be loved and looked after.

Just keep reassuring her that you’ll do all the things for and with DS that you’ve talked about. That he will always know how much she loved him. That you love her and will miss her so much, but promise her you will be OK, that you’ll make a good life for yourself and DS. Remind her that she doesn’t have to keep struggling, that it’s OK to go. It’s the hardest thing to say, (I know you already have), but it’s also the most loving thing you can say.

My heart is breaking for you all. Life is so bloody unfair x

Kittykat93 · 14/01/2019 10:36

Sending love and thoughts to you and your family op Thanks

Cancer is utterly awful.

justanothernamechange94 · 14/01/2019 10:36

My heart is breaking for you and your family. She sounds absolutely wonderful in every way and it's so apparent even through this how much you love her. You are both so very lucky to have that love. I wish her a peaceful passing. I've lit a candle for her. Xx

clydeonabike · 14/01/2019 10:38

Thinking of you, I have no other words x

tessiegirl · 14/01/2019 11:08

Bless you. I keep thinking of you all and checking back. Sending lots of love

ohnonotyetplease · 14/01/2019 12:11

Thoughts and prayers still with you both there OP. Sending love xx

justilou1 · 14/01/2019 12:30

I’m going to bed now, @SanJunipero. I will check in on you as soon as my eyes are open in the morning. It will be evening for you. I hope your day passes peacefully. X

notacleverusername · 14/01/2019 12:46

Thinking of you all, sending love and strength Flowers

isthismylifenow · 14/01/2019 13:00

Sending love and light.

xx