Never thought it would be this shit

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I'm currently standing on my own driveway. DH is inside watching The Chase. I am rocking our very over tired baby who has gone to sleep after a walk but keeps coming to - I know if I go inside where there is warmth and light he will really wake up.im standing here so I can use my wifi.
His night sleep is broken to say the least. 3 wake ups is great. We often wake every hr. He is 15 weeks old. I am so so tired. I am so tired of trying to figure it out. So tired of research. So tired of spending my life trying to get him to sleep. So tired of making so many decisions every day - do I try to keep him awake longer/ do I try crib or sling/do I try to carry on doing things or just give in and live for his naps.
I never imagined it would be this hard or this absurd.

No advice but handholding until someone else comes along xx

Hugs. It will get better.

I have a 15 week old baby. Currently asleep in my arms after being rocked. It’s tough, hope you can get some rest soon.

It DOES get better lovely. Are you bf or ff? If ff can you take it in turns to get a few hours sleep in the spare room/sofa while the other deals with baby? If you are bf then get DH to do the rocking to sleep where possible. Safe cosleeping was a good send to us.

I hate to say it up 3 wakes up a night at 15 weeks is fucking amazing.

It gets better I absolutely promise you

I can remember sitting on my front door step because I knew ds1 would wake in a few minutes for the 5th time that night and I just desperately needed a quick break before that happened

I was so lonely (although married and had support) I was desperate to see lights on to see someone else was awake

I promise , I absolutely promise it gets better, just hang on

Could you put a thick blanket over the top to make the buggy very dark and go stand in your hallway, with the lights off? Basically try to make the buggy and the inside your house the same as outside, so your baby thinks they are still outside.

Otherwise, could your DH come out to take a turn rocking to give you a break?

It does get better, I promise

Could you ask someone to bring you out a cuppa?

Dont k ow what I would do without mumsnet. You are all lovely.
He is EBF. DH is amazing, he took him at 5am this morning, ufortunately by 7.30 DS was still awake - I came in and he fed immediately then went to sleep. I asked DH why he didn't get me and he said he was trying to avoid waking me. Lovely but DS was hungry (I had tried to feed him at 5 but he didn't want any)

It does get better. I did the same. Research, reading, worrying. In the end I opted for sleep by any means at regular intervals. It did help.

ohfour DH just has.

It gets better. The first three months are the worst, this time is often referred to as the fourth trimester.
Try a sling. Nap when your baby naps and don't try and manipulate their sleep patterns. Take them out during the day, get them used to daylight and daytime as more activity time and nighttime as quieter time. Little babies need to feed often though, so you're looking at night waking for some time yet.
Tiredness is the hardest part of having babies!

30 he is in the wanking sling so sadly not. Fucking hate the damn thing. Feels good to swear.

Tit.

It really does get better your doing brilliant I am ashamed to say that when my dd was that age I was so tired and just overwhelmed I contemplated giving her to someone else because I just couldn't cope with it anymore, I don't think we realise just how hard the newborn stage is in regards to sleep we never feel like were doing enough or that what we're doing is the right thing, that's what I've discovered anyway. I've found most babies settle into a sleeping pattern around 16-18 weeks old for longer during the night. All I can suggest now is maybe using one of them soothing light up sheep things or something with a very soft light and lullaby that helped mine off to sleep. Good luck to you and just know your doing really good I wonder if you've also spoken to your dh about taking a turn at night so at least one of you gets a full sleep just until he is settled?

I used to park ds in the shed after a walk as I knew that he’d wake up coming into a warm house. I could have cried at friends who just lifted their sleeping baby out of the pram and plopped them in the cot

It does get better. My advice would be just go with the flow. His flow. And do what has to be done. He’s still teeny tiny.

It does get better.

I was beside myself with tiredness when both of mine were small, and every time I thought I'd cracked it, they moved onto the next phase and it was all up in the air again.

DS2 was easier, because I learned to go with the flow more. I cat napped whenever I could during the day, which made the nights bearable. I learned that 6-8 hours sleep in every 24 hours, broken up how ever I could grab it, meant I could cope.

It's s strangely lonely time, but it does get better.

It sounds like you’re a good team

It’s a shit time (one of the reasons I don’t want another baby) - the sleep deprivation is a fucking killer

bearmur I am doing all of those things (not meant in an arsey way!) apart from napping when he does as he is always in the poxy sling.

Truth is he will wake and smile and I will forget this because he is insanely cute. But I fantasise about hospitalising myself so I can sleeeeeeep

It's so intense and you need all the help and support you can get. It really does get better!

You will find ways and before you know it they will be grown up!

Every day can seem to last forever at this level of intensity, but it somehow flies by.

Make as much of it as enjoyable as possible and lean on others wherever possible. Drop all but the essential tasks of daily life, just prioritise eating and sleeping (and the occasional shower!)

Have dp make something for you to eat in the night too as part of his bedtime routine.

Food and sleep will get you through this.

You are doing all you can for your 15 week old, well done and keep going!

My first didn’t sleep at all and I did all the research and was constantly looking for an answer or a solution. It completly consumed me for his first 9 months. I’m now on my fourth baby and i go with the flow because I know it gets so much better and I feel a lot more relaxed and happier.
Sounds like you have great support but it’s definitely a lonely time.
Have you been to any local groups? Sometimes it helps to talk with people at the same stage.

It is so tough. DD1 was a November baby and would only sleep when being walked outside. It was a long, cold winter! One night DH took her for a 4 mile walk around Bristol at 5am so I could get an hours sleep.
She’s 5 now and slept 7pm-8am last night! I know it seems a long way off but those days are a distant memory now (although shortly to be repeated!). DH and I were reminiscing the other day about how truly awful her sleep was, it was amazing how much we’d forgotten.

internet yes it is very annoying! Sometimes he will sleep through the Lord Mayor's Show - it's very unpredictable!

Its reassuring to hear other tales. Sometimes I feel everyone else has dream babies and ours is faulty!

Sympathy; it does get better. My mum claims the only things that worked were baking bread and or/driving around in the car; sometimes driving around with a fresh baked loaf on back seat! Ours settled much easier when they had their own (well bolstered) bed to sleep in. That said ours often fell asleep in bassinet under the dinner table with noisy guests! Problem is I wanted to join them. Try and get someone to take a shift so you can sleep.Good luck!

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He is very asleep. I'm going to chance it...