Hi Buslings, New carer arrived today, she is no fabulous but she's a supplement not a replacement although right now she is it, Dh is still suffering with his back, so much so that he's going to the doctor this afternoon, although he could only get an appointment with the nurse.
I've had a day of peeing in a commode next to the bed, it was just the incentive I needed to get me transferring from bed to wheelchair and into the bathroom to use the toilet. I can almost get myself back into bed independently which is the next piece of the jigsaw.
The difference having a carer here will make is going to be to speed up my rehabilitation, at least I have a second person here now who can help me mobilise although I do worry about her fitness level because it's always an unknown with someone new. She's very nice and very experienced especially in rehabilitation so I have high hopes. I don't think she will become part of the inner sanctum immediately but maybe in time she will.