Trapped in a coffee shop because I’m being too British (LH)

[TaterHater]

I got a text this morning from a friend saying she was unwell and could we change our coffee date for tomorrow (no I’m working) but anyway- reply in the usual manner one does.

I decided to come into town and have a browse but coffee first- I grabbed my order and sat down and said unwell friend is in with a couple of friends and they’ve sat down. She hasn’t seen me yet.

I’m actually rooted to my seat and wondering how to get out without putting a bag on my head- no wait- I shouldn’t be embarrassed she should !

Every fibre of my being says sit and sip the coffee slowly and hope they get out fast or paper bag option.

Love that people are commenting as if it’s still ongoing nearly 10 hours later...

As if the op is literally stuck in the cafe

This was meant to be obviously - you needed her out of your life and it happened ... What are the odds of you going to a different cafe, miles away and then bumping into the person who jilted you for coffee? Fate that you get this toxic person out of your life Loved the fb post - class

OP please update if she gets in touch! How can she not get in touch? It’s sooooo rude!

OP, HOW are you resisting sending her the (poorly written, incorrect) Mirror article?

Or even the link to this post?

The biatch needs to see this. Hard!!

I feel a bit sorry for her! It's not like she skanked you, she wanted to see you the next day. Poor form to lie but maybe she isn't assertive enough to say she has the chance to see other friends that day and would like to see you the next day.

God. I'd be so upset if this happened to me but I think I would need to show her I'd seen her.

Well done OP. The mood I’m in I’d have said ‘hi twat, fuck you’

I’m in a shit mood.

Make her continually grovel by saying you already have plans when she next asks you to meet up. Then continue this procedure until she fucks the hell out of your life. What a witch.

Teeth and tits out is a saying here-

Doesn’t mean nudity and dentures in a jar.

LOL TaterHater I like your style.

Your "friend" is super-rude. I sometimes think I live in another universe to some of the behaviour I read about here.

Brilliant thread. Go you, Tater!

totally me

Op, you have handled this brilliantly. Don’t give this ‘friend’ another thought. Looking forward to reading your blog...your life sounds awfully similar to mine

Oh my goodness what a thread! I can't believe she hasn't contacted you full of remorse.

I love yetanother's suggested from page 1, ahahahahaha

Can't believe you got to spend so much time in the loo without being hounded out ! If its one of the main chain coffee shops there's usually only one sodding loo and I usually get someone trying the handle mid piss !! What a fab story though ! People are just weird aren't they, I mean why didn't the 'friend' just rearrange ?? or "So sorry, double booked myself ! Can we rearrange or maybe come along too if you fancy it ?" I don't know, but I hate liars too ! Can't believe she hasn't text you ! What a cow !

Finish your coffee, breeze past and say 'oh, hello, glad to see you're feeling better'.

I agree with @Fairylightsandwine

OP, I'm not making excuses for your friend and I'm sorry your feelings are hurt but something could have happened. She could have double booked like others said and she might have thought you'd be most easily rearranged and tried to avoid hurting you or her other friends, she could have gotten a call from one of the others with an emergency, can she meet for coffee X thinks her husband is cheating, anything like that. That day could be the only one her friend is around before emigrating to Australia...

I'm pretty sure I will have cancelled on a friend saying that I'm ill. I hope I am considered a good friend and it can be overlooked

Oh and PS I'm not your friend OP.

I mean I think you're a ledge (with or without tits out) and I'd go for coffee, but I'm not that friend.

Oh I'd feel a little hurt and then feel sorry for her. Maybe she double booked by mistake, maybe she hadn't seen the other people for ages and they were going through a crisis... Whatever. She still wanted to see you the next day.

I'd not throw away a friendship over this or throw her under the bus. I've had to tell a little white lie every now and again for reasons like those above. It wouldn't mean I didn't love my friend.

Op if its a one off I'd let it go. I used to be a nightmare for double booking myself. But if she does this a lot I'd think differently.

first rul of lieing dont get caught

no just kidding just tell u the truth she double booked can she re arrange not hard

has she got form for this op?

She will style it out pretending she hasn't seen you or the FB post.

This proper made me chuckle!

Good on you OP! You had balls to do that xx

I agree with fairylights et al
I think fb was too PA and blocking on social media is extreme for a friend
There are many reasons she might have said the wrong thing in the moment but she wasn't being malicious as she was still intending to see you. I think better to have got up, seen her and let her see you as you were leaving then she'd know but without it playing out over social media and drama