Trapped in a coffee shop because I’m being too British (LH)

[TaterHater]

I got a text this morning from a friend saying she was unwell and could we change our coffee date for tomorrow (no I’m working) but anyway- reply in the usual manner one does.

I decided to come into town and have a browse but coffee first- I grabbed my order and sat down and said unwell friend is in with a couple of friends and they’ve sat down. She hasn’t seen me yet.

I’m actually rooted to my seat and wondering how to get out without putting a bag on my head- no wait- I shouldn’t be embarrassed she should !

Every fibre of my being says sit and sip the coffee slowly and hope they get out fast or paper bag option.

You can do it, be brazen, she's the one at fault

Oh god OP this would be me! You have my sympathy

No, no, Andyet... text her a selfie of YOU sitting in the coffee shop, OP... That will take her a few seconds longer to work out!

It's even more karma that you've ended up in a different coffee shop with her!

Just drop your bag or knock your cup so you draw attention to yourself.

Then she'll see you!

When you say she's a friend, what do you mean?

MAYBE she has a good reason for prioritising these friends today but didn't want to get into it, so just went with unwell??

Anyway, send an immediate selfie with her in the background - and watch for the reaction.

Ages ago a friend cancelled me the day before a pre-arranged coffee because "something had come up".

The day we should have been meeting for an 11am coffee another friend tagged her on FB saying what a nice lunch they'd had. I liked the post!

No, text her & say “Sorry you’re feeling unwell but I decided I’d pop in to anyway, so I’m just enjoying my coffee now!” Then you don’t have to let on that you’ve seen her if you don’t want to (although I can’t imagine why you wouldn’t) and she will be on tenterhooks looking round for you!

You'll never forgive yourself if you don't let her know you're there.

Cheery wave in your way out and a "Hi Emma (or whatever she's called)". No need to comment on feeling better, don't give her any opportunity to think you made her feel bad. This is her doing.

Yes, this is what to do.
Send a text saying “Hope you feel better, I’m thinking of you while having my coffee” with a selfie of you in the cafe. If you can get them in the background reflected that would be excellent, but def get the name of the cafe in there somewhere.

Donattalkatonce

I know- I’m a twat-

I hate myself

Text her 'Hi X, hope you are feeling better. The funniest thing has happened! Just wanted to share! I'm in a coffee shop in YTown and there's your double in here; I'd have thought it was you but that would make you a rude friend and a liar so it must just be one of those weird coincidences! I'll try and get a photo before she leaves. You won't believe it!'
Then stand up in your =seat and click her picture as she reads te message.

Omg cheeky bitch..
I would text her and say ' I hope that latte is making u feel better, see u round'

Tater you show people how to treat you. If you're willing to hide away from this flakey cow who lies to you, well, it's your lookout, but real friends don't behave like this to their mates. She dropped you for a better offer.

Have dropped menu card twice and coughed really loudly- was ignored

Will progress to stage 2 and go for a pee shortly-

That’s a bit feisty for me. A plan not a piss.

Oh my God, I'd be doing exactly what you're doing (and I'm quite scary, really no pushover).

I think you have to style it out. Catch her eye, cheery wave and leave?

You shouldn't be feeling bad about this ....SHE SHOULD!!

You have to make eye contact on the way out, whether you speak or not. That way she will feel as bad as she should be about what she's done.

OP please don't say you are still hiding.

Think how crap you will feel if she gets away with this and how good it will feel to have the courage to call her out on it.

Your friendship can't be the same again. If she never knows why you will get the blame for it ending.

I think the ball should be in her court for what to say/ message. This is on her, not you!

OP you've ended up in the same coffee shop for a reason, just find a way to walk past her to the loo or something and just briefly look at her and then walk away if you can't say anything.

Surprise yourself! Just casually walk past and say 'you alright love' and continue to walk.. be sassy! She's the only one that should be embarrassed

I’d 100% text her to say, how are you feeling and see what she does? If she doesn’t notice I’d just leave when ready and smile as I went past.

Can you not pretend you just arrived hoping to catch her lol

George it’s ridiculous isn’t it.

The title of this thread is lighthearted I know I sound like a pushover but I’m really not.

I think I’m offended

So I’m sat in the loos and have just done a FB check in of the coffee shop and have tagged her in it and simply put “amazing who you bump into when you’re least expecting it”

Now I’ll hide here for the next 90 minutes -I have snacks

Please disregard the above paragraph that was a blatant fib. (I’d never eat in a toilet)

Walk tall Op, you've done nothing wrong.