Big hair cut-why would someone ignore it?

[retainertrainer]

Just pondering. I’ve had a pretty dramatic change of hair style-shoulder length to long pixie (think Emma from CBB type of style) plus colour change. I love it,my friends have been complementary and DH (who would tell me the absolute truth) says it suits me much more that the long hair.

Anyway, went into work today. I share an office with one other woman and she didn’t acknowledge it at all. We’re pretty friendly (in a work colleague type of way) and often chat about things like this.

I wasn’t fishing for complements or expecting a fuss or anything but not even a ‘you’ve had a hair cut’. It felt a bit awkward,like the elephant in the room. I just found it a bit odd and wondered why someone would completely ignore it. I’m guessing she thinks it’s horrible!

I’d comment and compliment a close colleague but if I thought it was really ugly, it’d be awkward. I’d feel obliged to say it looked great even if it didn’t but perhaps some people would find that super awkward.

I had a similar experience recently actually. I think / thought it was a very outward declaration of bravery. ie, I am not my hair. I am not a slave to what men expect or prefer. This may sound dramatic. Because it's a more subtle interpretation of the above. BUT a woman at work who has long hair, who is her hair - she didn't even say ''omg, your hair'' and I think it was because I was putting it out there. I'm brave. You meanwhile have beige hair down to your bum and it's a party of your identity. My hair isn't my identity. I change it too regularly. Hope that makes sense. She did notice. But it made her feel some emotion that she wasn't comfortable with.

It’s envy and she is being a tit
Why is it envy? I don't get it.
She seriously might think 'why the fuck did retainer let Edward Sissorhands cut her hair and decided it was best not to say anything.

Siun
I think you have made your own narrative up! You have just got an idea and ran with it!

She probably doesn't like it. Like the saying goes, if you haven't got anything nice to say then don't say it at all! Perhaps that's the rule she's living by?

Envy? Over hair?

It is strange not to mention it. A colleague had a fairly minor haircut this week and I just said "ooh haircut? Lovely". That was it, dead simple, she was smiling, job done. And as I'm the most awkward, socially stilted person in the world, if I can manage it it clearly isn't that hard to do.

Not at all @notacooldad
Im not making up a narrative. I know from working with her for years that she a less adventurous person that she would like to be. Her dress sense and her choices are all v cautious. Your narrative that ive made up a narrative is the incorrect one. Namaste

Siun as the woman you mentioned in your comment never said a word about your hair anything you think she thinks about is just guessing. If I'm reading this right you call your self brave because you've had a dramatic hair cut and summising she has had an emotion that she wasn't comfortable with so she didnt say anything .
Ok then.
I love a bit of armchair psychology!

@notacooldad, funny, you're basing your basis of me on one post. I based my assessment of her silence on the basis of knowing her very well. Hth.

You never really know what someone is thinking. No matter how well you think you know them or what they say. You really cannot decide what someone else thinks.

You never really know what someone is thinking. No matter how well you think you know them or what they say. You really cannot decide what someone else thinks
Siun does ( apparently!)

Also slightly confused by a 'brave' haircut too ...

Mystified that you are bothering to argue this but some people enjoy a pointles argument.

Going frim long hair to short hair in one cut is not something that everybody is brave enough to do. A lot of women are afraid to cut their hair.

No arguing from me Suin, just giving my own thoughts, that's ok isn't it? I just don't think having a haircut, no matter how many inches you cut off is 'brave'. Takes confidence, for sure, but not courage IMO.