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Who could you call if you were upset?

134 replies

Sarahandduck18 · 01/09/2018 21:09

Just had a random thought that if I was upset and needed/wanted someone to call and speak to over the phone or in person (not text/online) there’s no one that I feel I could ask this of.

I have friends but only have occasional meet ups.

I get on with colleagues but none I’d classas real friends who there’d be contact if one or the other left.

Family is a no.

Is this normal?

Who do you call on?

OP posts:
TheBigFatMermaid · 01/09/2018 21:12

I have 4 friends who I could call, my DM or my adult DD.

Also DP to talk to, now it no longer him doing the upsetting!

I think I am quite lucky.

afreshnewname · 01/09/2018 21:12

I think a lot of people would struggle with this, I'm very fortunate I could call my mum we speak every day, and I'm confident in a few of my friends picking up if I needed them

ICantBelieveIDidThis · 01/09/2018 21:13

No one. I have no one.

Tisfortired · 01/09/2018 21:13

If I'm upset, my mum is the first person I call, then/or DP.

I do have close friends but I'd much sooner speak to my mum or DP.

uncoolnn · 01/09/2018 21:14

Probably my mum and my boyfriend. Potentially a work colleague but it depends on the situation. No real friends to talk to Sad

Aprilshowersinaugust · 01/09/2018 21:16

No family except dc +dh.
No friends.
Ghostbusters maybe?!

RefuseTheLies · 01/09/2018 21:16

My husband and my best friend. It used to be my mum, but she died two years ago and I really miss our chats.

delilahbucket · 01/09/2018 21:16

Aside from dp I have a couple of friends who are always on hand if I need someone to sound off to and failing that my step mum or my mum.

BasicUsername · 01/09/2018 21:17

My husband, my best friend or my dad. Any of those three, I know that I could be asking for help to bury a dead body and they would be there to help.

For less pressing issues, my mum, and two or three other friends.

SmilingButClueless · 01/09/2018 21:17

I have absolutely no-one.

ParkheadParadise · 01/09/2018 21:17

I would call my sisters I've 3 of them.
Could also call my BF.
First person is probably DH.

Chopchopbusybusy · 01/09/2018 21:17

Well it would depend on what it was for. I discovered a few years ago that there was no one I could turn to for anything important.

RJnomore1 · 01/09/2018 21:17

My best friend, my gym buddy and a couple of good work friends.

Not many TBH.

OddestSock · 01/09/2018 21:18

I’m lucky that I have a handful of people I could call. However I don’t. I never talk about things that are upsetting me until I’ve worked it all out

CountFosco · 01/09/2018 21:19

Surely it depends on the context. If someone I only knew vaguely called me upset because they had just suffered a serious bereavement I'd be happy to handhold until they could get someone closer to them to arrive (e.g. a friend of MIL stayed up all night with her until DH could get there). If I knew someone well who called up regularly upset over smaller things I'd be more inclined to distance myself, I don't have the emotional energy to spare on people who can't control their emotions.

What kind of situation are you talking about?

Singlenotsingle · 01/09/2018 21:19

My dp, my two best friends, or my ddil!

Rebecca36 · 01/09/2018 21:21

Samaritans

PhilomenaButterfly · 01/09/2018 21:22

No one, I'd come on here.

Bbbbb27 · 01/09/2018 21:26

Sister

PrefabSprouts · 01/09/2018 21:32

Just a handful for me. I'd always go to my husband and/or my mum first. And then to one of my oldest friends. I'd probably talk to DS1 now too, depending on the issue.

If it wasn't too serious, I think I could also talk to (but it hasn't been tested yet) one of my lovely neighbours. She's very supportive of little things so I think she'd be great in a crisis.

CMOTDibbler · 01/09/2018 21:34

DH. If it involved him, the only place I could talk about it would be here.

Luglio · 01/09/2018 21:40

I don't have the emotional energy to spare on people who can't control their emotions.

Agree with this. If I were 'upset', the last thing I'd want to do would be to inflict it on a friend. Self soothing isn't just for babies Hmm

MrsMozart · 01/09/2018 21:43

DH, three friends, two sisters.

You'd be surprised OP as to who would be there for you.

standbyyourmammaryglands · 01/09/2018 21:43

DH
Old time friend

butlerswharf · 01/09/2018 21:43

My partner