My mum died and I'm a bit confused about Funeral Directors

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I apologise if this is a bit garbled.
I'm in SE England my mum in Scotland. I couldn't get through on the phone and contacted the police who found her dead at her flat today.

The policeman said they'd get a funeral director to contact me to arrange taking the body. This was at around 8pm. I've not heard anything and not sure if I should be trying to chase it up somehow? There's no direct number for the police station and I don't want to tie up the call lines. I think I remember the name of the funeral directors they were going to call, should I call them?

I'm sure you could send them by recordered delivery RM. However I'm not sure I'd actually trust anybody with them.

Would a beach / somewhere you holidayed as children be an option for somewhere to scatter them?
You could involve the kids by saying a wee prayer and talk about their favourite memories of her?

Royal Mail only allows you to send 50g of ashes. There are specialist courier companies but obviously they are pretty ££££.

I'll be speaking to my brother later on, hopefully we will think of something that works for us both.

What weight is the box of ashes, I'll assume more than 50g? I'm surprised at RMs policy. Its as if they don't want to be responsible for a full person iykwim.

Talk with your brother and see what you can come up with together.
How are your kids doing, have they been upset? Are they settling back into school?

Thanks avoidingDM. My brother is happy to bring the ashes home with him. I think the RM rule is about as you say not transporting the whole remains of a human body.

DS1, 3 & 4 are pretty fine. DS2 was really upset Monday night, couldn't articulate why. He tends to take the worries of the world on his shoulders a bit. he had his first day at secondary yesterday and he came home happy. I did find a maths set my mum had bought him for starting school. I'm keeping it back for now, I will give it to him soon but feel he's still a bit too sensitive atm. I'll admit to getting something in my eye when I found it.

Home report on the flat is done valued at £140. Estate agent is saying to market at Offers Over £137,500. Getting a specialist to go and assess possible damp. It's a very small area and estate agent felt it may well be they assess and say it's nothing but best to get it done so it doesn't put buyers off. Need to speak to the solicitor on Monday to get his opinion on when we can put it on the market. Whether we have to wait for the confirmation to be done or not. Also need to take a copy of the certified will to the bank, that's a job for tomorrow along with post redirect.

House clearance happening tomorrow afternoon. My brother is going to stay with his friend as he didn't fancy a couple of nights on the floor. Think some company will do him good rather than going back in a hotel. His wife is away visiting her family at the moment. My brother told her not to cancel as her mum is elderly and the living are the priority.

It must be so hard for him he really was a good son to our mum. He wouldn't take anything to begin with, even stuff of his. Did manage to get him to take a few bits, including my mum's teddy bear she had as a baby and our baby photo album. Their relationship was so much more than how it was before she died.

It's 2 weeks today I started this thread. When I was getting anxious I was debating starting one to poll for opinions on whether to call the police but decided I just needed to do it.