"I'll be there after breakfast" What does that mean to you?

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Just checking I'm not crazy. I thought that meant before 10? AIBU?

About 9.30 during the week. And around 10.30 till 11 at weekends. But its very vague. Somebody I thought was coming 'in the afternoon' turned up at 5.30. Some people are just pains.

10.30 - 11.30 would be the range I would expect, more likely to be the latter half of the slot!

Before 2 if my family are anything to go by.

Sister.
Child free.

Just turned up.

I'm pissed off tbh.

I'd guess between half ten and half eleven. But I'd understand it means different things for different people and if it was important I'd double check the time.
You don't want this person to visit, do you op?

I don't know about before 10 but if you're going to refer to a meal and pick breakfast, it definitely means some time in the morning. Otherwise surely you'd say around lunchtime?

My PILs used to do this - they'd say 'well be there late morning' - WTAF does that mean?? I told DH that they had to give a half hour time slot or not come at all, I was shit sick of waiting in all morning with two small antsy children who were desperate to see nanna and grandad. They got the message and now manage to stick to a time. I think it's just plain rude to expect people to just hang around for you.

I dont think you can ve pissed off if its someone childless as anytime before lunch is fair game. Especially at the weekend. Pre kids i had lie ins and leisurely mornings too! Just make a mental note to arrange a time next time.

It means that the people in the conversation need to communicate more clearly!
Most of us have been caught out by this kind of vague nonsense at some point. Now you know to insist on a clock time.

People without kids just don't get it.

DS has been looking out the window all morning.

I would arrive after 10-10.30 if it was a Sunday but before midday.

For me that's 8-9.30am, maybe up to 10am. After 10.30am it's before lunch.

Why on Earth didn't you clarify a time?!

Sunday I would think later. Up 11.00am

I would expect a childfree couple to have a fairly late breakfast on a Sunday tbh.

Even when dd was tiny, we used to get up at around 9am on a Sunday. Not all small children get up at the crack of dawn.

12 is a bit too late for after breakfast, but any time up until 11.30ish would have been ok. I get that you're annoyed but learn from the experience and make sure you agree a specific time slot next time!

if someone said that to me, I'd say "I need a time please"!

I've got young kids but I would still think as above.

After 10.30am it's before lunch.

Wow, if I said "before lunch", I'd be horrified if someone turned up at 10.30!

'People without kids just don't get it.'

Sweeping generalisation

Invite her for breakfast next time at a specific time.

People without kids just don't get it.

DS has been looking out the window all morning

all this would have been avoided if you’d just asked for a specific time OP. To her she is arriving after breakfast, it’s not her fault your timings are different to hers!

Just learn from it and say a specific time next time. Everyone translates it differently.

Agree with nearly every else that this slot is so vague as to be meaningless, especially at the weekend/Sunday
My child free sister at the weekend: probably expect her 11-12
My friends with small children: probably around 9/10am
My friends with teens: probably around 10/10.30

I certainly wouldn't expect anyone before 10am on a Sunday, I don't think.

Obviously, also depends how near they live to you as I'd assume this to mean I'll leave after breakfast, not I'll arrive after breakfast.

NB A thought, OP - you are expecting your childfree sister to work to your children's weekend timetable - why should she not expect you to work to hers...?

It's as meaningless as "this afternoon" or "after dinner", so I'd have asked what time they meant.