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Staying at in-laws with dc and there is no food

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daytimemom · 11/08/2018 16:30

Arrived at in-laws with DH (their son) and our two dc’s. For context, they are very well off. Live in huge house in the country, spend six months a year on cruises, have new car etc.

This is the first time we have visited them in their new house. Normally they stay at our house where we cook meals for them, provide wine and snacks and generally be very hospitable. They certainly enjoy all our food and drink.

This is what they served DH and I for dinner; two small roast potato’s, one small parsnip, teaspoon of peas and carrots, three slices of chicken. Our dc who are 11 and 12 had the same but with one roast potato rather than two. Dessert was one scoop of ice cream. DH asked if he could have another scoop but was told no as the carton (think Ben & Jerry’s small sized carton) had to last them a week.

By evening the dc were ravenous. I asked mil if dc could have a slice of toast or cereal. Was told they only had muesli and one small loaf of brown seeded bread. DC do not like either. I asked if there was any fruit was told no. DH asked if there was a bag of crisps, again no.

I’m not proud of this but DH and I went through the fridge and cupboards trying to find something to eat but the cupboards were literally bare.

DH went out this morning to buy some bread, cheese etc (which fil helped himself too) and I suggested to mil we go out to dinner but she insisted she is cooking. Dreading another tiny meal & the dc’s being hungry.

DH said they are just being tight by not spending money on food and drink. I quite frankly want to go home. Simple things like they knew we were coming but the bathroom had no towels or soap, no mirror or lamp in guest bedroom. Could they not have bought some cornflakes & snacks knowing most kids don’t eat muesli!

They have always been mean with money, poor DH as a uni student was penniless living off toast and pawning his stuff while his parents refused and financial assistance.

OP posts:
Graphista · 13/08/2018 11:43

Also - if you're going first footing aim for millionaires row (for years I thought there was a real street called 'millionaires row') what it actually means is 'hit the rich houses first' Grin

MoreProsecco · 13/08/2018 11:44
Graphista · 13/08/2018 11:47
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Graphista · 13/08/2018 11:48

Strawberry tarts a la Aulds are my absolute favourite, I've so far resisted buying the syrup, don't trust myself not to just eat it all straight!

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/08/2018 12:01

Graphista I bought that when I made ice cream cupcakes and it was ridiculously good! I did however scunner myself with it Grin

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/08/2018 12:02

I’m a tit, I’ve made strawberry tarts for DP and didn’t even think of the sauce!

Graphista · 13/08/2018 12:03

I'm seriously considering stocking up before they close down Sad

I have lovely memories of granny taking me to Aulds.

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/08/2018 12:07

Graphista are they closing down????

Aw no, I have lovely memories with my Grannie in Aulds too! Chicken mayo baked tattie with a strawberry tart for after was my Saturday lunch until I was about 19 Grin

ratspeaker · 13/08/2018 12:22

Getting all nostalgic at the sharing of beds, reminds me of weekends at Grannys, family occassions etc, tbh in the days before central heating it was warmer too.
The cosiest I felt was sleeping in a bed recess with the curtains drawn. ( I dont know if they had similar in other parts of the UK but in older Scottish tenements there was an area built into the kitchen that could fir a bed. It makes sense as this would be the room the range was in, giving heat throughout the day/ night. )
My late FIL ( and his mother before him) were the stingiest people I knew. Wouldn't even offer a cuppa if you visited but expected the red carpet if they visited us. They weren't short of a bob or two( very come away in, you'll have had your tea...)
My MIL was the opposite, biscuits, cake, sandwiches if you dropped in, open house the weekend after New Year. One of the many reasons they divorced.

Graphista · 13/08/2018 12:28

Yes retail part in administration Sad

sixnearlyseven · 13/08/2018 12:32

My Granny worked at Aulds in Hamilton in the 70s and 80s, remember the strawberry tarts well also a snowball shaped cake covered in chocolate but with more of a cake like texture than snowballs, was lovely!
As far as the op goes, my parents buy in stuff for us but they are 61, by their mi d seventies my grandparents were more set in their ways maybe it's age and not remembering what it's like to have kids.
I have always gone to Tesco etc as well while at my parents though, wouldn't expect them to feed us all completely.

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/08/2018 12:34

Graphista that’s so sad! I think I’ll take my bairns to the one in Motherwell today.

I remember that cake six, Hamilton isn’t too far from me.

DarlingNikita · 13/08/2018 12:36

Chicken mayo baked tattie with a strawberry tart for after

I didn't grow up in Scotland and have never had this, in Aulds or anywhere else, but I SO want it for my lunch now!

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/08/2018 12:38

DarlingNikita it used to be the only place to get chicken mayo without sweetcorn in it! (I was a fussy kid) and the strawberry tarts are out of this world!

DarlingNikita · 13/08/2018 12:39

I should take a trip up north before they close Grin

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/08/2018 12:40

You definitely should!

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/08/2018 12:40

I can see the headlines now “MNetters single handedly save Auld’s”

Wouldn’t that be lovely?

Anonymumm · 13/08/2018 12:45

This really annoys me too, when people are tight just through choice, as opposed to necessity.
If it's any consolation, we have plenty family members who are the same - my parents and myself have always been really generous, but it's not always reciprocated, even though there are the means to do it.
Start referring to them as pilchards in your head, it will make you feel much better (as in, "they're a total tight arse - and a pilchards arse is water tight" ha, ha!)

Yesiamhappy · 13/08/2018 12:45

Damn you all - I am not in Scotland and now am craving a strawberry tart!!!!

Yesiamhappy · 13/08/2018 12:47

..have added strawberry tart & empire biscuit to my list of what to eat when I am over 😂 Plus have to try some of the new Scottish gins

SchadenfreudePersonified · 13/08/2018 12:58

Another Weegie here!!

I knew you would all be Weedgies.

the Edinbuggers have already had their tea! Grin

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/08/2018 12:59

Oi I’m a transplanted Edinbugger! I do hate that expression though Grin

Weegies are by far friendlier.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 13/08/2018 13:12
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BabySharkDooDooDooDoo · 13/08/2018 13:28

Im slap bang in the middle of glasgow and edinburgh and love going to aulds when im at the st enochs centre

FrayedHem · 13/08/2018 13:37

My mum's side of the family is from Glasgow but I was born in Fife so I get mocked for that. My parents moved darn sarf when I was a baby but we'd go up 2/3 times a year. I don't have any recollection of Aulds though. My mum's back living in Glasgow so I'll interrogate her when I speak to her next!

My dad seriously thought it was called Stenochs Centre when it opened. We all though he was just making a dad joke. Until he was genuinely surprised that when my mum said we were going to St Enoch's we then arrived at "Stenochs" Grin

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