Ex has bought DS his dream birthday present but he can't bring it home

[mummytippy]

Thoughts on this please... as I have a very upset and disappointed child.

My 11 yo DS has just received his dream birthday present off his dad for his birthday. It's a gaming PC which my DS has told me cost roughly £2K. My DS had asked me to buy this gift but there's no way I'd be able to afford one. When leaving my Exs home last weekend our DS asked if he can bring it to our house (as visits his dad every other week) but was told no, it's to stay there for when he visits.

My DS was so upset he text his dad asking why he can't bring it. The reply was the same, it's to stay there and if he wants one at my house, to ask me to buy one!

My DS is so upset, he says he thinks it's cruel to be bought something he'll hardly be able to play on and said he doesn't want to go again.

He said in his own words 'It's backfired on him' I'm not sure what that means but it's not positive from where I'm standing.

It obviously means that if he'd got a different gift then ds would be seeing him and he wouldn't have spent so much time communicating to you/him about this gift which obviously couldn't leave his house.

While I understand that you're powerless to do anything, if ds had brought the pc back then he'd still be regularly visiting Dad. This is why people are labelling him as spoilt/brattish.

Never before have presents had to stay at his house... and now with the one thing he truly wanted - it does :-(

But with this present, it makes sense for it to stay at his dads, presumably all the other presents have been more portable.

I can understand that you have past issues with your ex, and I can also understand that a 12 year old will be upset over this present. But I also know from experience that 12 year olds can be hormonal drama queens.

As difficult as it is, you need to explain to your DS that it’s reasonable that the present stays at his dads. Because it IS reasonable.