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What to call my dd's 'bits'?

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No1warnedme · 04/07/2015 06:43

Posted here mainly for traffic... need answers!
We are at the stage where my dd needs (?) to have a word for her 'front bottom' (btw, I hate that term) and dh and I are not coming up with anything we like or agree on.
What do you all use? We also have a ds where we happily use willy. Just can't seem to find a similar term for girls that we want to use.
Help!

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HootyMcTooty · 05/07/2015 11:38

It really isn't where we are, fanny is the equivalent of willy (also in the Midlands though, so maybe it's unique to the Midlands)?

zarzlee71 · 05/07/2015 11:40

'foof' or 'mary' or 'tid'

zarzlee71 · 05/07/2015 11:41

and we call boys bits 'tickle tackle' or 'goolies'

SaulGood · 05/07/2015 11:51

There aren't any 'adult' names for genitals. There are anatomically correct terms (vulva, penis, labia etc), twee pet names (foof, nooni, twinkle etc), accepted slang (willy, fanny etc), crude names (twat, pussy, cunt, gash etc) and incorrect labels.

'Let children be children' has nothing to do with it.

We operate on the policy that things have a name, pure and simple and we use that name. If a nickname grows up alongside it, then that's an organic thing, just like you have strange nicknames for lots of things. I will not pass onto my children a legacy of their genitals being something they need to alternatively name or risk shame for saying the name out loud. All this faux cringing and 'oh I couldn't possibly say vulva out loud', just reinforces the ridiculous attitude we have towards the female genitals. It's no wonder that calling somebody a cunt or a twat is highly offensive, but you call them a dick or a penis and it's just a bit light-hearted.

Fear of the name only increases fear of the thing itself.

I don't really care what other people use as a descriptor but all these accusations of 'adult names' and forcing children to grow up and let children be children and proper names are crude is absolutely unnecessary.

shattered77 · 05/07/2015 12:55

God, some of the names on this thread are an embarrassment! These girls are going to sound like right dickheads referring to their fairies, moo moos and special places! Jeez....

TheImprobableGirl · 05/07/2015 13:21

fear of a name only increases the fear of the thing itself . . . Apart from sounding exceptionally like a Harry Potter quote, it is bollocks. I cannot believe for one moment that anybody has a fear of the word vulva.

Potentially there are a unique few with a phobia of vulvas in general but a word-vulva-phobia is something I am definitely yet to come across

LeBearPolar · 05/07/2015 13:38

I don't know what to advise my DS to call his elbow. He clearly can't use the word 'elbow', after all. What would people think? Hmm

smokedgarlic · 05/07/2015 13:39

This obviously polarises opinions. We use 'flower' . They use fiore all over Italy too. I think personally it is positive and lovely no negative associations . It's a thing of beauty no shame etc without being overly medicalised/anatomical or repressed and Victorian sounding .I think this is so personal to you and your family customs that you should just go with your instinct. My Mum taught my young daughter (quite incorrectly obviously) to call her vulva her vagina and I was annoyed as it was wrong but also it seemed so adult and shocking and . ...well I wasn't impressed. I would've equally perturbed if she referred to her anus or her larynx at this age. So shoot me call a spade a spaders !

SaulGood · 05/07/2015 13:45

TheImprobableGirl, it was a Harry Potter joke

LeBear we call our elbows "pointy bendbends" in private but in public we just whisper the unmentionables with a grimace.

LeBearPolar · 05/07/2015 14:08

'flower' makes me laugh because of the Friends episode where Monica is talking about giving a man her 'flower' as in her virginity and Rachel basically tells her to grow up and use the proper words Grin

TheImprobableGirl · 05/07/2015 18:33

Oh I know Saul I just didn't see the relevance in an anatomical name thread :)

SaulGood · 05/07/2015 18:54

Well the day I give up on random light-hearted humour, even naff Harry Potter humour, is the day I give up on life.

MumOfOne14 · 07/07/2015 12:33

Well I called it my fufu & I've turned out ok. I dont think it matters really. But if my niece shouted out in public I've got an itchy vagina I would be slightly embarrassed as opposed to what she did actually say.. I've got an itchy doof????????

scarletforya · 07/07/2015 12:35

I worried about this but before I could come up with an answer, dd started calling it bum herself.

Jen1610 · 07/07/2015 17:03

shattered77 who in their right mind would think of a child as a dickhead?

pretty sure they won't be using all those names as teenagers or grown women..so your comments pretty ridiculous.

shattered77 · 07/07/2015 22:27

Lol. I was talking about them sounding like dickheads referring to their genitals in this manner as grown adults. Perhaps they can ask their husbands to drink from the furry cup Grin.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 09/07/2015 14:03

for a while DD has been calling it her wee-wee because that's where wee-wee is coming out of. sounds ok to me. she is 3 and has a speech delay so I don't care if what ahe calls it for now, I'm just happy she says anything at all.

I do say vulva or nooni as well,and DH would mainly say girly bits - she knows all these words mean the same thing.
the swetest thing I heard once from a friend's DD was "my girlhood"Smile

I don't think it matters that much what word is used when they are little.

same with my boys, they all understand and use penis, willy and dick I'm afraid balls, testicles and bonkles (courtesy of DS5Grin)

I do have to state I hate the word fanny. can't stand it. I'd rather say cunt

toffeeboffin · 29/07/2015 02:16

V-jay jay is the best one I've heard. Does sound better coming from my black American friend though!

shewithmagicears · 29/07/2015 18:26

Tuppence in our house!! My mum called it this when I was young and it feels child friendly.

ScorpioMermaid · 30/07/2015 20:06

My 5 boys aged 2 to 10 call their bits willy or peeni (pee-nigh) and ball-bag or batteries thanks madagascar and the girls bits fanny or plum

Reubs15 · 10/08/2015 07:12

Tuppence!

couchparsnip · 12/08/2015 23:00

My Dd age 7 still says gina, which is what we taught her when she first needed a name for it. I went with something she could say and that other people were able to understand.

SilverBlur · 12/08/2015 23:04

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Etak15 · 12/08/2015 23:23

My dd's call it a lulu, can't really remember how we came to that name?! Most people here call it a 'flue' not just kids, I've only just clicked on in recent years that it's referring to flue as in chimney! ShockMy dh and I say 'fanjita' not to the kids though ha - although my dd heard me say it to my dm the other day when we talking about the 'sex in class' programme, didn't know she was listening Blush

Tigger365 · 15/08/2015 19:54

How about lady garden?