What to call my dd's 'bits'?

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We are at the stage where my dd needs (?) to have a word for her 'front bottom' (btw, I hate that term) and dh and I are not coming up with anything we like or agree on.
What do you all use? We also have a ds where we happily use willy. Just can't seem to find a similar term for girls that we want to use.
Help!

I think using Willy and Fanny, while also teaching them the correct terms.

We say zizi, purely because the first time DD asked we had a French friend visiting. Apparently it's the generic word for girls' and boys' bits in French.

I thought 'twinkle' was bad enough, thanks mum, but 'bummy'? 'moo-moo'? If a child told me something about her moo-moo, I'd be looking around for a toy cow! And any name that tells girls that their vagina is just a continuation of their bum makes me cringe.

As someone pointed out above, if you're not going with the actual names, it's a good idea to use a name that will be recognized by people who would need to know about a problem. 'Someone touched my bummy' is not going to sound as serious as 'someone touched my winky'.

Nothing wrong with fanny, that's what we all called it!

MIL, when dh and his sister were little, used 'tweenie' - because it's in between your legs. Obviously before the tv show existed...

I don't see a problem with using kids words for kids parts. We don't say metatarsals or phalanges after all. My ds has a dinkle and will call it that until he decides to call it something different when I have a ds it will be a twinkle or a foof.

You might get a few sniggers if you ever take your children to zizi's restaurant tumble :)

we use fanny - I had no idea that there are some areas of the country where this would be bad. Always been equivalent to willy to me.

What connotations does it have?

To me fanny has always meant girls' bits, although we never used it ourselves, we knew what a fanny was. I can't think of any other meaning, except in the U.S. Fanny means bum, which could result in some serious misunderstandings I guess.

Dds friend called them nuggets

Up until around 10 my mum used to use 'privates' many a time she would ask if I'd washed my privates

Vulva is correct and appropriate

We call them woolly's and twinkle/ floof's I wouldnt call mine a vulva or a vagina in public. Frankly that's just odd. Nor a penis. Let kids be kids

We use chi chi, but honestly don't remember where it came from.

We say widgy or front bottom

We call it a foof around here. A moo-moo indeed.

Fanny and willy here. I don't think my DH has ever referred to my fanny by the correct terms and I don't call his willy his penis. And we are grown ups.

Have you had a poo today or have you passed a stool or faeces? Why the need for the absolutely correct terms amongst families?

Do you need a pee or a wee wee. Mummy surely you known that a urinate and that's the proper term.

Come now - why the need to be so serious about it all.

There is no widely recognised general name for women's reproductive organs whereas for men, we can use willy. So I would rather say vulva than flower or some such ambiguous word.

It isn't about being serious, it is actually about thinking that having a vulva and vagina is nothing to be ashamed of and obscured with twee language.

Actually if we're going to get properly exact, shouldn't we teach them mons pubis too? Doesn't appeal ,does it?

We had this conversation recently and settled on lady bits or private part. I didn't want anything cutesy or made up as it needs to be clear what she is saying, and also separate from her bottom. Vagina and vulva just sound too harsh for me though I understand why people use those terms. Fairy makes me cringe and will get confusing very quickly.

Why not, Dame? Or pubic area, that works as well.

Because nobody except on MN ever uses exact terminology even doctors and midwives, they just don't.

Yonic- I think you should change your name to vulvascrewdriver

Anything that's obvious
If (God forbid) a child was touched inappropriately and went to a teacher/adult and said "X touched my pocket/moo/twink" it might be brushed off or not understood

I'm in the north and fanny would definitely be considered too crude for a child to use. It would be similar to hearing a little boy talk about his dick

Fanny may be considered crude by some, but that is because it's been used in an adult way in the past: it is the only universal word (in the UK) that's anywhere near as acceptable as willy