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The Gisborne Institute of Broadsword Polishing and Leather Lustering

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SupermassiveLBD · 19/08/2011 14:26

Motto: Honi soit qui mal y pense

Master Classes available in:

Smouldering
Stompy boot wearing
Pointy weapon waving, and the effective deployment thereof
Exotic equestrianism
Imperatives
and The cause and alleviation of damsels' distress (Godwyves also welcome)

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TheSmallPrint · 20/08/2011 07:12

Morning! Sorry to abandon you last night Massive, I got watching a film and then it was past my bedtime.

I have an unplanned day today so not sure what I'll get up to, tomorrow I have a family thing which I hope doesn't end to late for obvious reasons. Saying that, Twigs and Spiro have put me off a bit.

PassTheTwiglets · 20/08/2011 09:13

Morning! Also sorry to have disappeared last night. Was watching Torchwood and couldn't do this and concentrate on that too. I did spend about half an hour trying but failing to think of another honi soit pun though :)

Today is finishing off a few bits of stuff (scrapbooks, homework etc.) then we're going into town for lunch. DrTwigs' last day tomorrow and I feel so sad about him going back to work. Getting sad about the kids going back to school, too. Though the peace and quiet will be BLISS. It's always the same in the hols - I feel like we haven't done enough and then the year is over and we can't do anything else fun again until next summer. Which is nonsense, of course but it doesn't stop me being all doom and gloom. Why does winter last 6 months of the year but summer only a fortnight? Yesterday I had a "that's it, I'm going to homeschool and won't send her back after the holidays!" moment. Then I tried to do her holiday scrapbook with her and within about 30 seconds I had changed my mind SO far the other way that you wouldn't believe it :o

Then tomorrow if the weather's nice we're going to an open air swimming pool - unheated though, is that crazy?!

DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 09:42

Yes Twigs - you're totally mad! Although I can see the benefit of cold water with one lobster coloured arm at the moment. Had not expected to spend 5 hours sat in friends garden yesterday, or for the sun to be so hot. My right side was south facing and frankly I didn't move much - not so good for the evenly roasted effect.

Miss Spiro is in the doghouse at the moment. She knows she's not allowed on my laptop, but I came into the room to find her 'pretending' on it. As a result she switched it off without shutting down properly & lost what I was typing (v. insignificant but that's not the point.) To cap it all DH had already asked her if she should be on it and she'd told him I'd said it was fine! Angry

So she is going to bed at 6.30 tonight which means no saying hello to daddy's friends who are coming to play cards, and no watching 'Tonight's the Night' with mummy. She is hideously upset but I think respect for others property & not telling find are two fairly important lessons so I'm being badass mummy & sticking to my big guns.

Feel like crap though.Sad

DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 09:43

not telling fibs, obviously!

PassTheTwiglets · 20/08/2011 10:18

Aw, Spiro, don't feel bad, we have to do these things. Besides, the 6.30 bedtime will be lovely for you :) Hope your sunburn isn't too painful.

My right side was south facing

My front side has been south facing for at least 20 years :o

DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 10:33

I usually do stern words & thread of punishment which gets retracted later, but she does seem to think she has a divine 'right' to do what she wants lately (or not) and this isn't the first time with the fibbing either. It's only with me & Mr S & over very minor stuff but she's old enough to learn it's not on, and if talking doesn't work it'll have to be the hard way.

Not looking forward to the drama at bedtime, though.

PassTheTwiglets · 20/08/2011 11:16

Punishments are so hard. I often retract them too because I realise that I've either given an inappropriate punishment, or that I had misunderstood the situation or something. Retracting a punishment is obviously making a rod for your own back but then it's not fair to carry one out if it's been issued wrongly, as is usually the case with me. So it's hard to strike that balance between consistency and fairness.

Can she tell the time? 'Cos my kids wouldn't know whether they were going to bed at 6pm or 10pm, so if she doesn't know it's early then there needn't be any drama. Though of course I suppose you eant her to know it's early so that she knows she's getting her punishment!

PassTheTwiglets · 20/08/2011 11:16

want, not eant

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SupermassiveLBD · 20/08/2011 11:38

Goodness, what kind, forbearing mummies you all are.

At my stage I am sometimes past caring if I've been fair or not. they are not always fair with me, are they?

Life is not fair. Deal with it, brats!

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DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 12:01

Mr Spiro's friends usually arrive at 7ish & she's been staying up to watch Tonight's the Night for the last few weeks - 6.30 bedtime will prevent her seeing either so she is well aware of the implications. She can do the basics with telling the the time, o'clock, half past, quarter past/to, otherwise she gets a bit confused!

DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 13:04

Twigs, I know what you mean about inappropriate punishments. I one had doubts about one I'd meted out and made the fatal mistake of posting on AIBU.

The general consensus was that I was being a complete harridan...never again!

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SupermassiveLBD · 20/08/2011 15:02

I can't get my mind round the idea of you being a harridan, Spiro. Hussy yes, but... Grin

What was that old quote my gran used to be fond of, in a joking sort of way? "This is going to hurt me more than it does you". Shock

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DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 15:37

I have just used that exact line on Miss S, Massive!

I have also given her a get-out clause. Large chunk of homework (Scotland project) done in best handwriting and she can go to bed normal time. Any more words today & she's,back to square one.

Feel more like a UN Negotiator than mummy, although you are right, I'm more hussy than haridan!

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SupermassiveLBD · 20/08/2011 15:50

i hope she doesn't make like so many ambassadors to the UN, then, and try to renege on the agreement. The SBs invariably try it on.

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PassTheTwiglets · 20/08/2011 16:21

At least you were only a harridan, Spiro - I once posted for advice on a punishment and got called a f*ing c**t Hmm

DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 16:34

Blimey Twigs! Shock You do have to wonder where some posters get off don't you?

I have just looked back at thread and it wasn't harridan, it was 'harsh' 'over reaction', 'what would you do for worse - behead her?' and 'if that's what you call an appropriate punishment you have issues'.

This was in reaction to me imposing a 3 day TV ban after she emptied an entire bottle of body oil over herself and the bathroom (which only had a newly laid temporary floor which couldn't be cleaned at the time), over a weekend where she was still being allowed to go to 3 parties!

Surely an intelligent 6 year old knows you don't just help yourself to that kind of thing (although admittedly I suspect the amount of mess wasn't intentional)?

Is it me? Hmm

DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 16:34

I am very curious to know what you did Twigs! Grin

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SupermassiveLBD · 20/08/2011 16:44

Shock Spiro, re: the body oil. Thus leaving you none for Porter? Sad Seriously, though, what a mess.

To change the subject a little, a fun thread over here and cloning Alan Rickman has been mentioned. Do we need to invade make a few suggestions of our own, perhaps? Smile

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DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 17:20

Oiled Porter...

Are you trying to make me burn the dinner again? Grin

PassTheTwiglets · 20/08/2011 17:34

I am very curious to know what you did Twigs!

It was a couple of years ago now, I'd given DD a bean salad for her lunch and she refused to try even one. I don't mind them leaving food they really don't like but it drives me barmy when they won't even try so we've always had a 'you have to try one mouthful'. She refused so I said she had to sit there until she did. That's all well and good but the bad bit is that she was there for 4 hours :o She fell asleep at the table in the end! I didn't see how I could say "oh alright, you can get up and you don't need to try it then" but I hadn't expected her to be so stubborn about it!

DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 17:39

Twigs - I'm not sure who I admire more. You for sticking to your guns or Miss T for being so strong willed Grin.

Thank goodness the person who so rudely replied to you never met my granddad. If my uncle played about at mealtimes he got sent to eat in the outside toilet and wasn't allowed out until his plate was clean!

DumSpiroSpero · 20/08/2011 17:40

Have just looked at the other thread Massive.

Not entirely sure I should have posted on it though. Will either be very popular or get a pasting!

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SupermassiveLBD · 20/08/2011 19:21

Well, You got a thumbs up re football already, Spiro.

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TheSmallPrint · 20/08/2011 19:38

Well you lot sound tame compared to some of my parenting techniques Blush. I suspect the people who don't believe in discipline are the ones who have children who grow up not giving a damn about anyone or anything.

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SupermassiveLBD · 20/08/2011 20:35

You and me both, Small Blush i am not the most patient of mummies.

Did you remember to bug the card game for me, Spiro?

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