I live on a traveller site AMA

[namechange2026198]

Well exactly that really got a spare bit of time and I know with some of the recent ridiculous tv shows I thought I’d see if I could answer a few myths and questions. I will say my partner is a traveller I am not but am married into the community which in itself is rare

I would also ask if op really believes their experiences are very representative of the average woman living in this situation?

It sounds like it isn't really, what with all these 'unheard' of things happening.

I would have been so disappointed in a well brought up, educated daughter who chose this subjugated lifestyle for herself and her daughters.

What a waste.

Would your husband’s family be understanding if one of your children or their cousins was gay or lesbian?

Why are traveller homes so clean but the illegal sites they squat on left so revoltingly filthy? And please don’t say it’s because the council won’t collect rubbish, there is nothing to stop people carrying rubbish to put in a public bin, picking up their dogs shit, or even making sure all the rubbish is left in one place not strewn across public parks and recreation grounds with heaps of broken glass, broken toys, abandoned belongings and dog shit. I think travellers make their own bad press by behaving in such an anti social way, do you agree, and if so why do they do it?

lol no despite what channel 4 will have people believe I’m nearing 40 and need to pee so absolutely flipping not. It is such a misconception so you don’t have a toilet off a kitchen (which tbf in a house would usually be normal) but it’s been made as you wouldn’t have one o

Do you call yourselves Romany Travellers then? I always thought that Romany were Romany Gypsies and Travellers were Irish Travellers.
Has the way you self describe changed?
Do Irish Travellers live on your site too or are you all Romany?
Thank You.

What about poos? Are you allowed those in your caravan too?

Why not? you said you do the books for your husbands business so why aren’t you also involved in knowing the outgoings of your home?

No I can’t imagine a time we ever would, selfishly I’d miss my in laws too much

Well I guess that OP can only answer from her own experiences, even if those are atypical.

Very interesting thread, OP, thank you.

I wonder the same. There is a current site near us and it is absolutely disgusting and they are still in situ. Why the price inside while outside looks like an actual rubbish tip?! Having said that it would make sense for the council to make an arrangement to collect as they are inevitably the ones who have to deal with it in the end anyway. As you said though there are other options and no need for much of the destruction. Every single time I visit the shops in the area the children from the site are running wild, terrorising the staff and stealing. Watched a group around 8-9 years old steal vapes from the petrol station the other day and sit and puff them just the other side of the road. They are also causing property damage in the area and assaulting local children. TBH it’s changed my opinion as I was always under the impression they were a proud group of people and my opinion has been changed witnessing the reality!

Oh dear - I did wonder! We stayed in a holiday caravan during a boiling hot week one year, so you have my total sympathy on that one!!

1. Did you dress your daughter's up in frilly clothes? You can tell a gyspy a mile off the men all wear Hugo boss or Ralph Lauren with large logos, the women dress like they are going to ascot with heavy makeup as do the young girls who dress way older than their age.

2 Are boys encouraged to fight?

@Theworldsgonemadagain and @namechange2026198 i wonder if there’s a difference between the ways Romany gypsies dress and Irish travellers dress? Not sure why but I’d expect true Romany women to be more modest. I’ve certainly seen Irish traveller women with quite extravagant make up and body hugging clothing. The ( admittedly older) gypsy women I used to see around east Kent tended to wear long skirts, no make up, and hair tied back.

People don't just watch stupid programmes though. They see it with their own eyes. The littering and the cruelty to animals, particularly horses, disgusts me, as does the attitude towards women and girls.

@Theworldsgonemadagain Would you feel it was appropriate to talk about, say, the Sikh community or Hasidic Jews in the same way, by saying you can tell they are a Sikh or a Jew a mile off?

No, you damn well wouldn't.

But it’s true?

What's with all the litter and mess? A group of travellers came to visit someone from their community in the hospital I work in recently and the litter and mess they left behind where they had all been sitting was atrocious!

Travellers themselves say you can spot a fellow Traveller in a crowd. They have a distinctive style which appears to be quite conformist. No idea about Romany gypsies though (who aren't Travellers).
And you absolutely can tell a practising Hasidic Jew or Sikh a mile away due to their dress code. There is nothing offensive about that, it's a fact.

I don't understand this?

If you could identify them by their clothing, then of course you would? 😳

What's your view on travellers forcing entry to land and then refusing to leave resulting in huge costs for the landowners?

Well you could tell a Sikh man a mile away as they wear turbans don’t they? You can also spot an Hasidic Jew a mile away too.

@namechange2026198 do you live in a large static caravan or a touring one? I see ones on tictoc living in touring trailers with several kids and think the smell must be horrendous every morning with morning breath and farts. Also I wonder how the parents are intimate without the caravan literally rocking!

But would you go out of your way to say so on a thread started by someone from a different community?

I mean, it’s called Ask Me Anythjng isn’t it?

How do the family finances work? You do the books so know how much is coming in, but say you don't know the outgoings.

Do you have a bank account? Is there a joint account? Who does the shopping and how is it paid for? If your husband controls the outgoings do you have to ask for money for groceries, school uniforms etc?