I’m in my 30’s and live rent-free with parents AMA

[NC4AMAx]

The rent free is because my parents are wealthy. No mortgage.

God knows I’ve tried to send them money to contribute to bills, but they get offended and just transfer me back. I also buy my own food and toiletries.

Thought I would clear that up first. But AMA(else).

If you previously had your own flat, do you have lots of furniture and other bits in storage somewhere?

Well done, @NC4AMAx Sounds like you’ve done brilliantly getting yourself sorted after a tough few years. Multi-generational living is not something to be ashamed of and no one I know in real life has any issue with it.

Why would living with her parents not allow her a life of her own? What a daft comment. She's not at any point made out she's enmeshed with her parents she just happens to live with them

Unable to see what your baffled about tbh

Sure, but you’re one instance and I don’t know anything about your individual circumstances or what your children think about it (though I can guess - Boomers have created an entire generation of “waiters”). What we do know is that your generation has hoarded wealth, distorted the housing market and destroyed the prospects of an entire generation.

OP I’d say to you that you’re doing great. You’ll get lots of comments on here from people with no experience of your situation, especially the older generations who really have no concept at all of what things are like. You do you, stick at it and you’ll be fine x

I wouldn't worry about it , if your're all happy with the situation . I have twin daughters ( 33 now ) . One of my daughters moved out at 18 with her baby girl, she then had another daughter and a few years later a son . I live with my second husband my other daughter , who's currently single and one of my granddaughter's , now 14 also lives with us .

Good for you @NC4AMAx

If you were my DD I would do exactly the same as your parents. There are lots of very obvious mutual benefits, so I don’t know why some posters are being so ridiculous. Nastiness is often borne out of jealousy.

You’ve got time, enjoy it, it will all work out in the end ♥️

Agree. Honestly if the arrangement works for you and your parents OP, then crack on.

Nothing wrong with this at all.
One of my old school friends lives with his parents and he is mid 40s. His life imploded (relationship breakdown, business folded... he had a breakdown too).
They don't charge rent as they do not have a mortgage anyway. They are all happy with the arrangement, and that is all that matters.

I don't think that's hugely unusual nowadays. In fact even about 100 years ago many single women lived with their parents forever unless they married.

If they're loaded and don't want or need you to pay board then that's fine. Of course you should buy your own food and toiletries. And do your share of cleaning.

But I've not got a question really. Just to say that's nice for you but hardly revolutionary or deeply interesting.

Yeah it's weird to say that. Do people who live in their spouses property not have lives of their own? Do people who rent but re t is paid by UC/another person not have lives of their own?

It just sounds like jealousy tbh.

Multi generational families are common in other cultures. The days of 'oh you're 18 now off you go to rent a flat. Then you'll be able to buy one in a couple years with your increasing wages from your lucrative graduate position' are long gone.

I don't see the issue if everyone is happy with it.

Mumsnet seems to have funny ideas on families though.