I'm a single mum of 7. AMA!

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Scared 😅

ha, ha ha.

I worry about it every single day

Op, if everything you have said is true and not a rage-baiting windup post then let’s take a look at these numbers:

£14000 yearly gross salary (you’ll receive every penny of this minus your contributions in income tax & NI contributions of approximately £400 per year)

£13200 yearly CMS payments (not taxed)

£48000 yearly (direct net benefits from UK government that are not subject to tax or NI deductions)

So that gives you approximately £6300 a month income.

For comparison, a person would have to earn exactly £118,531 to have a take home pay of £6300 per month after tax & NI.

Further to that, your children will (likely) get a range of other benefits as a result of your low gross salary:

Free school meals

Help towards school uniform, extra curricular activities, school trips

Help towards childcare costs

Can you not comprehend how disgusted people are by this? The welfare state was set up to provide a safety net for everyone.

Not this.

This is grotesque.

If you think my life is that great, try it...

Well from the picture the OP is painting it sounds pretty good. What mugs we are for working.

Incorrect

What other option do you think there is?

I have five children and have worked hard to build a career. I am not single though , so hats off to you OP. It must be very hard to juggle everything.

Lots of people dislike and despise big families. However there can be problems and challenges for children from families of all sizes and economic backgrounds. There seems to be a judgement and ( unfounded ) belief that the less children you have the more you can give and the better that will all be.
Well yes sometimes but not always. There is value in family, having siblings , learning to share and not consuming vast quantities of consumer goods and foreign air travel potentially too. Alot of the judgement does seem to come from a place of capitalism and views about wealth and space as status.
Good luck OP 🌻🦋❤️

Thank you ❤️

How do you manage, meal wise? Do they all sit down together, or are you preparing in shifts?

I hate meal times! Several of the children are ND and it's a nightmare. I do my best!

Are you planning on having any more children?

£6,000 a month for the OP and her flock of bairns.

I suppose you're good with money, but it's antisocial to keep having children you can't afford, relying on financial support from hardworking taxpayers. Many of those taxpayers don't have the option of working part-time or choosing to have half a dozen children because they know they couldn't afford it or house them. Instead, they live within their means. You should do the same. You sound like a taker.

We all know troll hunting is not allowed on Mumsnet, so best to leave this batshit crazy thread now 😂😂😂

No. For a start, I'll be too old by the time the baby stops breastfeeding 😅

Bairns 🤢

Why have you kept on having baby after baby? Did you ever stop and think to yourself that you shouldn’t have another (because you can’t afford it/because you are spread thin enough/because you risk your health and life with each pregnancy/because the next baby could be severely disabled/etc etc) or has it just been a case of wanting a baby therefore having a baby?

Low self esteem probably, combined with abusive relationships

I only had two, but one had serious sensory issues around food and that was stressful enough! If it's any consolation, he's 32 now and seems to eat everything. Although I think he's still fussy about the texture of his clothes!

I don’t think your life is great at all.
I just think you’ve made a lot of choices that the rest of us are having to pay for.
You appear to have no sense of shame that you expect your neighbour to feed and clothe your kids.
That naturally evokes disgust, if not a degree of anger, in others here.

If we find ourselves with a very right-wing leaning government in power after the 2029 General Election, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to say that people like you have helped that come about.

You can get specific counselling to help with low self esteem. Although working and getting a degree does help.

It sounds like you have a respectable job and are working hard for you law qualification but what is your plan to start working in the field and earning with it? I recommend that you start trying to work this out otherwise you’ve put all this effort into studying for nothing.

What are you going to do to make sure this is your last child?

You won't necessarily better your lives with a law degree unless it's from an absolutely top uni and you are able to demonstrate complete dedication and flair.
Law graduates are like psychology and liberal arts grads......unemployed or in minimum wage jobs, sadly.
You must bring in nearly £6k per month OP? From UC, CMS and your pay?
I don't think gaining a law degree will increase that, but it must be nice to be able to study.

Do you get DLA for your ND children?