I've been a prostitute on and off since I was a young adult. AMA.

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Just that, really. I am drunk and bored, and I've noticed in the past on MN, many sweeping statements made about sex workers that I don't always agree with (i.e we are all brainwashed into thinking we are happy with our career choice, but really we are miserable)

For background, I started when I was 19, maybe late 18. I got into it because I was lapdancing and noticed those who offered "extras" after hours made 3x what I did. I was young and stupid, and sex just felt like sex to me, so it was quick, easy money. I left when I was 23/24 and met DH.

I got back into it when I was in my early 30s and left DH with nothing to my name, but left again when DH and I agreed to a suitable child maintenance arrangement, and I could afford to live.

I went back into it 2/3 months ago when possible redundancies were announced at my work, and I realised benefits covered only around 2/3 of my basic outgoings. I am in my early 40s with two adult children who still rely on me. DS is in uni, and DD has just started an NMW job; both still live with me.

The same could be said about dealing in drugs and criminal activity.

It’s play acting isn’t it?

Maybe he self-identifies as a 15 year old female and has relinquished his former 60 year old male incel identity.

but those are alot more risky because theres more links in the chain and the profit margins are tighter due to the number of people invlovled

basically like billie piper in secret dairy of a call girl show, 4 seasons

I just despair at questions like this. Do you think prostitutes are horny as fuck and just waiting for punters to satisfy their sexual urges? Of course it's difficult to have sex when you're not turned on but did you imagine it was easy to be a prostitute?

Vietnamese round here. Trafficked to do manicures by day, prostitution in the evenings, cleaning when they get too old or damaged.

Sorry, I misread your first post to mean that you were in the same position as OP had also turned to SW. I'm glad you were able to find work.

I suppose I partly assumed because you argued very strongly that it was no different from any other kind of work.

Do you think you would write that still if you had yourself done sex work?

That's horrible. If you think these women are trafficked, would tipping off the police do any good? Or do they not care...?

The escorts who do it part time for spare cash, have other options & claim to enjoy it probably do have high sex drives. But they're not the majority.

This...

Is it too much of a leap think that some women are jealous of sex workers? ... maybe the male attention?

Yes, Danny, that is far too much of a leap 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You could leap across the Bristol Channel and you still wouldn't be leaping far enough.

Any of us can get male attention by offering sex!

I'm really sorry to do this and I understand there may well be an explanation. But on threads about sex work I do sometimes get suspicious about whether people are telling the truth.

On other threads, you have said you've been married for 26 years since quite a young age

In that case, why were you working as an escort around the age of 27?

Unless your husband was OK with this (hence the 'we'). I know that can be the case.

Honestly, I don't find it hard. The hardest thing is getting dressed and going out. I like being at home, all my things are here, and I like lounging around in fluffy PJs.

As I said, I don't attach the same meaning to sex as others. It's just work, I'd find it just as hard having to get dressed to go for a shift in a cafe.

But no, I am always turned on. I use lube when I need to, usually before I leave the house.

daft question but what triggers you to be always horny ? (for lack of better words)

I missed a not out there I am not always turned on. I rarely am. Not because the men are repulsive or anything, but they're generally not my type, and when I was interested, I was more attracted to personality than looks, and I don't know them well enough to be turned on by them.

And the worst part of is I bet there’ll be people on here who’ll defend his right to ‘identify’ as a pubescent schoolgirl all in the name of not being judgemental and open minded. Because we all know that judgement overrides the questionable behaviour..

I'm curious to ask those who have issues with men paying for it. Do you feel the same about women who go to male escorts and pay for it as well?

fair points, i think my main puzzlement with people is that a person can give sex away freely and people in general say thats ok, but the moment a person charges even when they can chosse their clients somehow thats omg ? so in your view why are people like that ?

Yes. This is not very common though, more usually it's gay & bisexual men who do that. They're all bad.

Some books about the male side of the business

Undercover: The Adventures of a Real Life Gigolo by Luke Bradbury (2008)

Whatever She Wants: True Confessions of a Male Escort by Andrew Rosetta (2008)

in the Company of Men: Inside the Lives of Male Prostitutes by Michael D. Smith and Christian Grov (2011)

How do you know it's not common? Unless you're into all of that.

Women do go to male escorts and pay for sex.

OP Do you think you have gained something from this post or learnt something about yourself? Or nothing at all?

You must do what you feel is best for you.

By your own argument how do you know it’s common for women to visit male escorts unless you’re paying for sex yourself?

Regardless we all know women don’t pay for sex anywhere near as much as men do so feel free not to answer as the argument is pointless anyway.